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    Arrow I need a little support, guys!

    I know the forum's rules state NOT to make a thread's title vague, and I know mine one seems so, but believe me, it's not more vague than this thread itself!

    Here's the deal: I wanna get help, I need someone to support me, I feel like I'm losing my mind!

    Short story: I'm 20, kind of your average Joe; the problem is I'm not only single, but alone! very alone, and it feels worse each day... give me some advice, how to start picking up women, befriending obstacles, meaning getting to make friends with random guys that could help me go out more, that kind of stuff...

    For those of you who want to get to know someone new today, please read further; others, don't hesitate to leave me a reply, a word of advice, an idea, anything! thanks!


    My name's Andrei, I'm 20 yo, I'm at the University,in my second year of Networking and Telecommunications, in France;
    I came here when I started Univeristy, and since then my world changed 180;
    Originally from Romania, I did my last year of highschool in Italy, did an internship in the UK and learned some russian on the side, I've been living in France for the last 2 years now; I've been multiple times national champion in programming, website design and UI development; I guess that's where I get my lack of social skills from, thanks a lot, education system!

    I currently study for my major, and also have a small company in web design, for a little pocket money so I can afford to go out from time to time.

    I'm 1.82m, 73kg, almost fit, I jog and work out when I find the time, I try to eat healthy but I usually eat what I have in the fridge :/

    I don't have a car, I travel by bus, I don't own expensive clothes; the most expensive thing with me, in my everyday life is my tablet; I don't have a good fashion sense, and my french is not perfect yet.

    You see, I don't really have friends here, except for the other geeks in my class, which aren't useful at all at helping me integrate, or meet girls;

    3 months ago, I discovered The Game; I've read it all, I got the refferences and found everything I could on the subject; I'm currently reading MM, FS and I have some RSD material, too; I have DVDs full of workshops and stuff, I didn't get to learn it all yet, rather around 15% of all I have, actually;
    I don't only have PU material: NLP, manipulation, psychology, hypnosis, bodylanguage, body posture, subconcious communication, too ... basically everything I could find related to the matter.

    My history with girls would not fill a travel company flyer: I had one gf during hs, and the relationship lasted for 2 weeks, basically. I wasn't fit, I was always at the computer, learning or playing online games, so not many chances to meet the love of my life :P
    I've kissed a girl for the first time last summer, and never had sex. I feel stupid even thinking this could matter, but hey, I'll throw it out there.
    Even so, I feel incredibly confident in myself, that I have changed a huge amount in these last 3 months, so getting past the kiss would be no problem now, if I could get that far, meaning probably if I were back in my country, where I don't have the language barrier anymore (as I'm going to go this summer again).

    So far I've been out like 3-4 times this YEAR (!!! ), but I honestly tried learning as much as I could and take advantage of EVERY second I was out; the time before the last, I got 3 numbers from 3 girls, that were all in the same set (I've only opened their 3-set that evening), and the last time I went out, I made out with 2 girls, at this large college party, but got no numbers and the girls were all drunk;
    During daygame, I met 3 girls on the bus I take each day (2h commute per day), one of which was single and interested, and she kept texting me, but I wasn't interested (I didn't know by the time, that I should just use the opportunity to do some research, and learn more about this)

    OK, that's basically my life;

    Oh, one more thing: there are no people here that know about PUAs and such, so no real wingman available, just the basic help I could get from guys: tell them what to do and how, what to say etc. each time I need their help.

    I feel this could be my only chance to not go completely nuts!
    I need your help, guys!




    Thanks in advance dudes!

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    put all the books down, go to the mall, and force yourself to approach 1 girl every 15-20 minutes for a few hours. Do this daily.

    Then put all the books down, go to the gym, and meet like 10-15 guys who you can go hang with because it sounds like your overall social life needs help. Not just your sex life.

    You are spending too much time studying. MM or Magic Bullets is enough material alone to work on for 3-4 months. Master it before you continue reading and studying too much.
    - CR

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    There must be social clubs & events at your Univ. Get the list of clubs & the calendar of events and go to each & everyone of them or as many as your schedule permits!

    Make it a point to introduce yourself to everyone - and I do mean everyone! Whittle down the list of clubs and stick to one or two. Start by selecting the club w/the most women! Give everyone your phone no. Hang out w/the members. Do stuff w/them not related to the club.

    At the Univ. find out which subject the coeds need more tutoring in (usually math) and volunteer to tutor. Instant HB access! Find an Alpha male to befriend. Maybe one that needs tutoring also. Share your PUA goals w/him & be his wing.

    There are always lots of places that can provide you w/a captive audience of targets to work your Game on!
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    thanks for the advice, guys!

    I will try to do the mall thing, at least once, see what comes out of it!

    also, the events thing, I've already started that about a month ago, that's why I've went to those 2 parties in the last 2 weeks;

    Club-like, there aren't many options around, it's not a big town; plus, it's more difficult, because I have to be able to sleep at someone, since my uni is at a 40km away from the town where I live (thus, the commute)

    I thought about going to the gym, not for meeting people, but for my physical shape, but I never got enough time! basically, I get out of uni around 6pm and get back in my town around 7:30, when most of, if not all gyms, are closed; so are the swimming pools, as I thought about going to the pool a few times a week, but leaving home at 6:30am, getting back at 7:30pm, it's practically impossible to do anything! that's why, in order to keep in shape, I try to work out on my own...

    anyway, it's cool that now I have another objective too, when I'll finally change my schedule to include some club or activity, and I'll know I'll have to meet people there

    well, what can I say?
    And yeah, it's true, it's my whole social life that's farked up, and my sex life is inexistent basically;

    It's been a rough change, coming here and all, I didn't expect it to be easy, but still ... One good thing came out of this (except the obvious fact that I got to learn a new language, and that I'll hopefully get an awesome diploma in the end), the fact that I found you guys!

    I just thought of something I wanted to ask you, but I'll make another thread, it's almost completely unrelated, so it's a better idea.

    I never heard of the Magic Bullet one, I'll look into it, thanks; also, I didn't finish the MM, I'm around the middle of the book; I'm thinking about watching some workshops, too;

    Anyway, thanks again for your help, guys!
    You made my day a little brighter!
    I'm not closing the thread, so if anyone still has something to tell me, I'm all ears; ideas help, advice is much appreciated!

    Cheers from France, guys!
    Andrei

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    one more thing, the magic bullets one, is it written by Savoy?

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    Quote Originally Posted by costarica View Post
    put all the books down, go to the mall, and force yourself to approach 1 girl every 15-20 minutes for a few hours. Do this daily.

    Then put all the books down, go to the gym, and meet like 10-15 guys who you can go hang with because it sounds like your overall social life needs help. Not just your sex life.

    You are spending too much time studying. MM or Magic Bullets is enough material alone to work on for 3-4 months. Master it before you continue reading and studying too much.
    Wow, this is really sound advice. I will have to try it!

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    Quote Originally Posted by rocketguy View Post
    I know the forum's rules state NOT to make a thread's title vague, and I know mine one seems so, but believe me, it's not more vague than this thread itself!

    Here's the deal: I wanna get help, I need someone to support me, I feel like I'm losing my mind!

    Short story: I'm 20, kind of your average Joe; the problem is I'm not only single, but alone! very alone, and it feels worse each day... give me some advice, how to start picking up women, befriending obstacles, meaning getting to make friends with random guys that could help me go out more, that kind of stuff...

    For those of you who want to get to know someone new today, please read further; others, don't hesitate to leave me a reply, a word of advice, an idea, anything! thanks!


    My name's Andrei, I'm 20 yo, I'm at the University,in my second year of Networking and Telecommunications, in France;
    I came here when I started Univeristy, and since then my world changed 180;
    Originally from Romania, I did my last year of highschool in Italy, did an internship in the UK and learned some russian on the side, I've been living in France for the last 2 years now; I've been multiple times national champion in programming, website design and UI development; I guess that's where I get my lack of social skills from, thanks a lot, education system!

    I currently study for my major, and also have a small company in web design, for a little pocket money so I can afford to go out from time to time.

    I'm 1.82m, 73kg, almost fit, I jog and work out when I find the time, I try to eat healthy but I usually eat what I have in the fridge :/

    I don't have a car, I travel by bus, I don't own expensive clothes; the most expensive thing with me, in my everyday life is my tablet; I don't have a good fashion sense, and my french is not perfect yet.

    You see, I don't really have friends here, except for the other geeks in my class, which aren't useful at all at helping me integrate, or meet girls;

    3 months ago, I discovered The Game; I've read it all, I got the refferences and found everything I could on the subject; I'm currently reading MM, FS and I have some RSD material, too; I have DVDs full of workshops and stuff, I didn't get to learn it all yet, rather around 15% of all I have, actually;
    I don't only have PU material: NLP, manipulation, psychology, hypnosis, bodylanguage, body posture, subconcious communication, too ... basically everything I could find related to the matter.

    My history with girls would not fill a travel company flyer: I had one gf during hs, and the relationship lasted for 2 weeks, basically. I wasn't fit, I was always at the computer, learning or playing online games, so not many chances to meet the love of my life :P
    I've kissed a girl for the first time last summer, and never had sex. I feel stupid even thinking this could matter, but hey, I'll throw it out there.
    Even so, I feel incredibly confident in myself, that I have changed a huge amount in these last 3 months, so getting past the kiss would be no problem now, if I could get that far, meaning probably if I were back in my country, where I don't have the language barrier anymore (as I'm going to go this summer again).

    So far I've been out like 3-4 times this YEAR (!!! ), but I honestly tried learning as much as I could and take advantage of EVERY second I was out; the time before the last, I got 3 numbers from 3 girls, that were all in the same set (I've only opened their 3-set that evening), and the last time I went out, I made out with 2 girls, at this large college party, but got no numbers and the girls were all drunk;
    During daygame, I met 3 girls on the bus I take each day (2h commute per day), one of which was single and interested, and she kept texting me, but I wasn't interested (I didn't know by the time, that I should just use the opportunity to do some research, and learn more about this)

    OK, that's basically my life;

    Oh, one more thing: there are no people here that know about PUAs and such, so no real wingman available, just the basic help I could get from guys: tell them what to do and how, what to say etc. each time I need their help.

    I feel this could be my only chance to not go completely nuts!
    I need your help, guys!




    Thanks in advance dudes!


    Ok..
    I've moved probably more than most people in their lives..
    And at a young age.
    So, this is what I'd do.

    Picture or think of the Ideal friends, you'll like to meet.
    Like the perfect wingmen.
    Set that as your standard.
    Then, well, join clubs, or like a theatre class (tons of chicks there).
    And at first go to Clubs ALONE peacocking.(no expensive clothes needed, but a cool thrift shop)
    You'll meet a lot of people, but when you meet your 'perfect' friends, you'll find yourself (since you programmed yourself earlier) to be more 'seductive' and cooler with them. And they'll like you, cause they feel you have a deep respect for them..
    and so, there you go.. you got you're dream group. Plus go peacokcing alone at clubs at first.(Trust me, chicks will be interested in that mysterious man)

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    Um, going out???? dude you are at a UNIVERSITY surrounded by French girls....night game is awesome but you sir are standing in a gold mine on a daily basis.

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    You should move to be closer to uni. Are you living at home? surely there are halls of residence? Don't miss out on that opportunity! The vast majority of my friends through uni were from a halls of residence... I had an instant social circle of 60 people all who wanted the same thing. There was always someone to go out with.

    If you have to sell a kidney, do it, it's soooo worth it.

    Also uni has a tonne of social clubs you can join. I played water polo, instant set of friends. Uni was the most social time of my life and it transformed me. Embrace this golden opportunity or you will regret it!!

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    Default Re: I need a little support, guys!

    Quote Originally Posted by sidewinder89 View Post
    You should move to be closer to uni. Are you living at home? surely there are halls of residence? Don't miss out on that opportunity! The vast majority of my friends through uni were from a halls of residence... I had an instant social circle of 60 people all who wanted the same thing. There was always someone to go out with.

    If you have to sell a kidney, do it, it's soooo worth it.

    Also uni has a tonne of social clubs you can join. I played water polo, instant set of friends. Uni was the most social time of my life and it transformed me. Embrace this golden opportunity or you will regret it!!
    yeah, I guess you're right ...

    next year I'm changing towns, going on my license year, and hopefully I'm gonna get enough money to stay inside the campus, with everyone else!

    Thanks a lot, guys, I'm gonna try changing my life!


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