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    Default Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    I never had a problem with flirting, always been naturally good at in fact. Even since I was little Its just been the one thing I never had any trouble with. I know how to tailor my flirting towards different types of girls and can in most often get IOIs and solid flirting back from them...

    The problem comes from a social set where you're dealing with the same 50 to 100 on a daily basis like work in this case. There are quite a few attractive girls at my work and being a natural flirt I flirt with most of them. At first it seemed like I got more dates with co-workers but now after awhile even after having a good conversation with a lot of IOIs it never heads any where after.

    Is being known as "the flirt" what is killing my game here, Or should i be looking for another factor?
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    Default Re: Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    no, it's probably not hurting you. it's something else going on.
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    Default Re: Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    I'm the same way. I have a reputation of it around my relatively small liberal arts school. It bothered me at first, but then I thought, who cares. I don't mind, in fact I've found girls are more likely to flirt back with you when you have this sort of reputation. They know that more often than not, it's just flirting, so they're more likely to let their guard down. If a girl ever stops responding positively, go cold for a bit and she'll wonder why you're flirting with everyone but her and she'll come around.
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    Default Re: Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    Quote Originally Posted by Bandit View Post
    If a girl ever stops responding positively, go cold for a bit and she'll wonder why you're flirting with everyone but her and she'll come around.
    Bandit I don't ever really have a problem with this. Like I said I get good responses 95% of the time. The problem is when I try to get them to hang out outside of work they usually respond with something flirty but open ended which gives me the message "i like you, but your that guy". So is this because of my rep or likely due to something else. I realized in situations like this you have to take a step back an find the problem because trial and error won't work. I see how at your school it works out since you're given plenty of time aside from the flirting to dhv, however that doesn't apply in this case.

    Correct me if I'm wrong but it seems like to me that being a flirt labels you as shallow/ waste of time. At least in this situation where most conversations are brief, 2 to 3 minutes at the most, not allowing me to DHV. Also since I'm not much of a texter I can't DHV through number closes it just always leads to more flirting than eventually loss of interest. However on the other end of the spectrum if I stopped being such a flirt and focused on 2 or 3 girls it would more than likely come off as way to strong which would dlv. Seems like a catch 22 unless you have a better solution.
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    Default Re: Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    I would love to hear anybodys response to YOLO007's last post. Maybe from Bandit. You always seem to give good advice.

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    Default Re: Is being "the flirt" a bad thing.

    I have this same issue, I'm always known as a flirt and attraction is there, but I'm known as "that guy" as well around my social circles, especially when women new to the group start liking me the other girls always say "oh he is just a flirt" or "he is just a man whore, watch out for him".

    I have spent the last 3 or 4 months thinking about the solution to this and basically I'm thinking that these girls think it is their right to flirt with you rather than something you give them. We should figure out how to challenge them and make them work for our attention.
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