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    Question I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    One thing I haven't figured out yet, for the life of me, is approaching girls on the dance floor. I'm fine with day game now, sometimes still get a little psyched out about approaching, but as long as I start a conversation I'm fine.

    I was at the club the other night and my wings were telling me that all these girls were dancing in my proximity--to try to get me to dance with them. But I have no idea, pragmatically speaking, how to approach a girl in the middle of the dance floor without first meeting her separately, having a whole conversation, and getting to know her as a person before she goes all Gangnam style on my privates with her butt. It seems unnatural to me to just make eye contact then pull her into an intimate space. Should I be smiling? Wouldn't that be creepy? But if my face is stoic it looks like I'm not having fun.

    If I get this down it seems like an excellent way to break the touch barrier and Kino right off the bat. I just feel awkward initiating it and pulling her into my space when I don't even know who she is.

    I don't know if that seems weird, or maybe an inner game problem, but anything you guys have relating to this would be awesome

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    My advice to you is to Caveman the girls do'nt overanaly's everything and just go for it the Dance floor is a perfect place for cavemans and you Can do massive Kino! If you feel that you need to talk to them first, just remember that you Can do it after some dancing when you've Managed to conquer the dancefloor, you Can realy take advantge from all the kino!! Hope it helped

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    Quote Originally Posted by Speech View Post
    One thing I haven't figured out yet, for the life of me, is approaching girls on the dance floor. I'm fine with day game now, sometimes still get a little psyched out about approaching, but as long as I start a conversation I'm fine.

    I was at the club the other night and my wings were telling me that all these girls were dancing in my proximity--to try to get me to dance with them. But I have no idea, pragmatically speaking, how to approach a girl in the middle of the dance floor without first meeting her separately, having a whole conversation, and getting to know her as a person before she goes all Gangnam style on my privates with her butt. It seems unnatural to me to just make eye contact then pull her into an intimate space. Should I be smiling? Wouldn't that be creepy? But if my face is stoic it looks like I'm not having fun.

    If I get this down it seems like an excellent way to break the touch barrier and kino right off the bat. I just feel awkward initiating it and pulling her into my space when I don't even know who she is.

    I don't know if that seems weird, or maybe an inner game problem, but anything you guys have relating to this would be awesome
    Okay I am going to tell you what helped me bro. So the key principle to remember when approaching a girl on the dance floor is kino is pretty much expected, kissing is much easier to get away with and often times women try to throw curve balls and try to kiss me there, etc.

    Well man I have some experience here lately I have been approaching girls on the dance floor and having fun. It's really not as hard as you think. Since I got in the game last year I have approached some really hot girls there and all were pretty good interactions.

    Feeling the Vibe
    First things first. You definitely want to talk less. You automatically kill the vibe if you go up with a bad line. Just use a casual approach and start dancing with her after opening and this gives you room to grab her waist, hips, thighs, do hugs, light kissing, etc.

    Some of my approaches were pretty smooth


    HB9 Dance Floor Approach

    Me: "Are you having a good time?"
    Her: "..." (Tapped her on the shoulder and she turned around and started checking me out up and down)
    Me: "Are you having a good time?"
    Her "...." (Starts looking at me all turned on, grabbed her hips and started dancing up and down on her)
    Very good set even though I got blown out at the end. She tried to kiss me after a while but still being new to the game I
    was very weak and chickened out which is why she left.

    HB8 Dance Floor Approach
    ME: "Hey you're hot" (Put my arm around her, we started dancing, used very few words and somehow got
    her laughing because we were both swaying back and forth as I really held onto her)

    Very good set though I should have asked her to leave with me when she said she was leaving

    HB8 Dance Floor Approach
    ME: "Who did you come here with?" (One of my favorite openers)
    HER: Points to friend

    Started convo, had good interaction, got her #, and left feeling appeased. She started dancing and making out with another guy to which I got jealous and got oneitis. Fortunately though this doesn't happen anymore. I just keep plowing now unaware and keep mental notes of the girls I like and if I see other guys escalating with them I will re-approach and take it further to prevent her from thinking less of me.

    Going with the flow
    Walk up and do your opener, watch her, then start dancing she how she reacts, she will probably start dancing, then go for kino, make out if the window opens. I hate missing windows of opportunity. Try to seize the moment and go with the flow. When you are done dancing with her or are tired don't try talking! One Simple Rule to Dance Floor game is to keep it cool and not mess with your flow so when you are ready to leave try to leave with her by taking her hand or ask her to go with you, this will let you bounce her somewhere else where you can more easily have a convo.

    The convo I had on the dance floor was a dumb idea but that was my first dance floor approach I ever did. Now I just walk up spit out a few words, start dancing, do kino, and hopefully one day have enough courage to go for those potential make outs. Start with that and always be closing.

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    Great, this is awesome. I'll remember to come from the paradigm of "Kino is pretty much expected," I think I was making it too hard for myself by being standoffish and thinking immediate kino would make girls uncomfortable.

    "if I see other guys escalating with them I will re-approach and take it further to prevent her from thinking less of me."
    ^This is something I never would have thought of on my own. That's so awesome, and can be applied in many different situations.

    "When you are done dancing with her or are tired don't try talking! One Simple Rule to Dance Floor game is to keep it cool and not mess with your flow so when you are ready to leave try to leave with her by taking her hand or ask her to go with you, this will let you Bounce her somewhere else where you can more easily have a convo."
    ^This seems exactly like something I would totally obliviously do wrong, so thanks for pointing it out to me! Way better to bounce to another location to awkwardly talk on the dance floor.

    Spitting out a few words at the beginning then stopping and just dancing + kino seems like the perfect recipe for the environment. I'll work on this. Thanks macdaddyjon!

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    Quote Originally Posted by Speech View Post
    Great, this is awesome. I'll remember to come from the paradigm of "Kino is pretty much expected," I think I was making it too hard for myself by being standoffish and thinking immediate kino would make girls uncomfortable.

    "if I see other guys escalating with them I will re-approach and take it further to prevent her from thinking less of me."
    ^This is something I never would have thought of on my own. That's so awesome, and can be applied in many different situations.

    "When you are done dancing with her or are tired don't try talking! One Simple Rule to Dance Floor game is to keep it cool and not mess with your flow so when you are ready to leave try to leave with her by taking her hand or ask her to go with you, this will let you Bounce her somewhere else where you can more easily have a convo."
    ^This seems exactly like something I would totally obliviously do wrong, so thanks for pointing it out to me! Way better to bounce to another location to awkwardly talk on the dance floor.

    Spitting out a few words at the beginning then stopping and just dancing + kino seems like the perfect recipe for the environment. I'll work on this. Thanks macdaddyjon!
    Yeah man can't wait to get out there and do some more approaches so I can learn more. I am still new to this and trying to find different ways to incorporate kino into my routines.

    I have noticed now though my energy level and inner game and how I come across is far more important than trying game them with words.

    I focus less on the words I use now and more so on the vibe. This helps me make adjustments to my flow.

    I think words are very important but I used to focus so heavily on what I said how I said but then realized it doesn't really matter unless you hit a brick wall then you definitely need to step up.

    Now I just focus on my Mindset and less on the words and I feel it a lot more which enables me to run with it.

    I hope you will post some field reports about your dance floor game so I can hear how it is improving.

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    I'm going out tonight and tomorrow, so I will post here for sure. I get what you mean about vibe. Kino has been a bit of a block for me too, it was out of my comfort zone to touch people a lot. But I've been getting way better at it and really focusing on it, and I definitely am more comfortable with touch now. I'll post some field reports after this weekend.

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    Here are a few reports from the dance floor last weekend. I felt like I didn't get very many opportunities to practice because the places we went to were total wiener festivals.

    There was one time when an HB8 put herself in my proximity and I knew I should have taken control but I did NOTHING. Need to stop thinking about it and pull the trigger. There was really no excuse for that.

    Another girl I opened and had a small convo with earlier pulled me in as I was passing by and I started dancing with her, but no physical contact. She had already been dancing in a circle with her friends and her cousin (who was a guy, I had been introduced to him earlier and gained rapport with him) so I felt like I shouldn't pull her in and get too physical. I spun her a couple times but she didn't give me any signals that she wanted to dance with kino or anything, plus she kept pulling her friends back into the circle when it looked like they were leaving. Should I just have taken control and pulled her into me? I wasn't sure if she was pulling her friends in because she didn't want to dance alone with me, or if it was because I hadn't taken action and started escalating physically.

    Another time I was walking by right next to the dance floor and this beautiful HB9 gave me some IOIs. It looked like she just got there, she was wearing a coat. Because of where she was, I wasn't sure if I should have started a conversation or just opened her with a phrase and pulled her into the dance floor. Thinking back, I probably would have opened with "Did you just get here?" and see what her vibe was about the situation, I probably would have been able to gauge from there.

    Anyway, any feedback would be helpful on this. Thanks.

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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    As a dancer with a frequent overabundance of potentials, I would say the best thing you could do to pick up more chicks on the dance floor is to get better at dancing. You can dhv without saying a word if you can show them something they've never seen before; if you get good enough people will line up to eat out of the palm of your hand. There's a style called Liquid that goes in clubs really well- YouTube that shit. (Lookup 'liquid tutorial')

    The "Did you just get here?" line sounded like a great opener. Ah; esprit de l'escalier.

    When I Kino while dancing it's seldom more than a light brush or a tap, usually on the arm or across the shoulderblades. If a girl's really into me and I'm feeling amourous enough and she starts grinding, I might move into something heavier, but usually I like to display scarcity by making it clear that I'm perfectly capable of enjoying myself with or without them.
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    Default Re: I suck at approaching on the dance floor!

    Quote Originally Posted by HunterKiller View Post
    When I Kino while dancing it's seldom more than a light brush or a tap, usually on the arm or across the shoulderblades. If a girl's really into me and I'm feeling amourous enough and she starts grinding, I might move into something heavier, but usually I like to display scarcity by making it clear that I'm perfectly capable of enjoying myself with or without them.
    I like that, I usually feel pressured to make a move and end up hesitating. The girls always sense it too.

    I would consider myself a good dancer and naturally coordinated, but the liquid thing looks awesome, I'm going to work on it.

    Also, thanks for the link to the BatMan thread above.

    Going out tonight again to try this stuff out more.


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