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    Default Need help with overcoming shyness

    Hey guys. I need help on overcoming something called being shy. Are their any people who can help me how to approach women without getting nervous?

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    Default Re: Need help with overcoming shyness

    Honestly it's only something you can fix by just getting used to doing it.

    Shyness, anxiety, fear etc.. are all just in your head.
    The best way to get over it is, to take one small step at a time.

    Start by simply looking people in the eye as you pass them & smiling. Nothing else.

    Then, progress to also saying hello.

    Do this with as many people as possible, for a couple days... That's really all it should take to start noticing a difference.



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    Default Re: Need help with overcoming shyness

    By going direct, do you mean going up to girls and just start a convo with them?

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    Default Re: Need help with overcoming shyness

    Not starting a "conversation" with them, but FLIRTING with them.
    There's a big difference.

    Flirting builds curiosity & attraction.
    Conversations build rapport.

    If you build rapport BEFORE attraction, you're a lot more likely to end up in the friend zone.

    When I tell guys to "go direct" I mean they should quit worrying about using some old, canned routine opener that dances around the fact that they're interested in a girl.

    Most guys try to start a conversation about general Fluff talk & then run out of things to say. (another disadvantage).

    Then they try to build from there & usually crash & burn.

    When you first meet a girl, all you need to do is flirt. (tease/banter/razz etc..)

    Be confident & have body language that coincides with it. It doesn't really matter WHAT you say... it's more about how you present yourself & having the ability to stand out from the rest of the guys.



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    Default Re: Need help with overcoming shyness

    I have never actually had this problem myself, shyness that is. But if I were to dish out advice on the topic I would say; Do the things T-mal said or go a tiny bit more radical.

    I stole this idea from ''the game'' There is a passage that describes Tylers workshops and how they let the students run around malls etc with pillows or whatever and give random women a bump with them.

    I could imagine that after you do that and not get beaten up your belief system would auto-correct.

    Even if you do get beaten up you could rephrase it like: So this is the worst that can happen? I'm okay with that.


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