More often than I think would be capable of someone to just search on this site, I see people coming onto here talking about their fear complexes. They have a fear of approach, they have a fear of talking to her, they have a failure, they have a fear of everything going wrong, blah de blah blah blah. I'm not calling out anyone on this, because I was the same way for a while.
Fear, and a multitude of other emotions, bog us down when we don't want it to. We are afraid of the outcome, thus we don't want to face it. How do we conquer a fear? Conquer the outcome, but that's easier said then done. There is a shortcut though.
Have you ever noticed that when you face something, you try to one up it in your heard with a worse scenario. That's a comforting action of trying to overpower one fear with another, that the whole thing could be a lot worse. We can actually use this same concept to conquer EVERY fear in the world.
In this entire world, we only have one possession that will never, ever change, no matter the circumstances. We have things that will come and go, we have things that we get and we may hang onto as long as we can. Even our own body is at risk. We can lose limbs, organs, all sorts of things, but there is one possession genetically programmed within all of us that we will never EVER be able to change, no matter how hard we try.
That possession is that one day, we will die.
You can Take Away money. You can take away family. You can take away all the toes on your foot, and both of your kidneys. You can even take away your own life, but you can never take away your own death.
There are people who say that they don't fear death. That is not the same thing as saying that you do not fear dying. Our ancestors were completely connected with death. People were killed by wild animals, people died in their homes, there's a reason early churches had graveyards next to them. In today's society, in an effort to escape it, we have done everything we possibly can to escape death. We've invented new ways to prolong our life, the dying now go to hospitals, away from our homes, and we are attempting to perfect ways to cheat death. This may have prolonged death, but it has done nothing to remove death from our lives.
There's one problem with confronting death and knowing that you can overcome it: you can't simply do it, nor can you find it.
There are two ways to address this. The first is to do risky activities that put your life on the line. This can include skydiving, rock-climbing, dodging traffic, doing something that will get your blood rushing, your heart racing, and put you on the brink of death. If you overcome this, and you cheat death, you know you can face it and have no fear of it. The second method is to visualize death.
In his exile, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, the teacher to the infamous Emperor Nero, overcame his fear of death by visualizing all the different horrific ways he could die. The more he did it and could feel it, the less he began to fear dying alone on his island. When he was eventually forced to commit suicide in front of his friends, he went through a painful, vein slicing, poison induced death.
At the present moment, I am working on conquering the ways that I could die. I particularly choose to go with Roman styles of execution, because they are usually the most gruesome. I will not go into detail about them, mainly because it is not for the feint of heart, but you are always more than welcome to google them. The results for my confidence and ability to face situations that I would usually cower in has been tremendous.
Once you can confidently say, and know for certain, that you can face your own death without any pain or remorse, then you can overcome any fear that comes in front of you.