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    Default How to Overcome ALL Fears

    More often than I think would be capable of someone to just search on this site, I see people coming onto here talking about their fear complexes. They have a fear of approach, they have a fear of talking to her, they have a failure, they have a fear of everything going wrong, blah de blah blah blah. I'm not calling out anyone on this, because I was the same way for a while.

    Fear, and a multitude of other emotions, bog us down when we don't want it to. We are afraid of the outcome, thus we don't want to face it. How do we conquer a fear? Conquer the outcome, but that's easier said then done. There is a shortcut though.

    Have you ever noticed that when you face something, you try to one up it in your heard with a worse scenario. That's a comforting action of trying to overpower one fear with another, that the whole thing could be a lot worse. We can actually use this same concept to conquer EVERY fear in the world.

    Here's how:

    In this entire world, we only have one possession that will never, ever change, no matter the circumstances. We have things that will come and go, we have things that we get and we may hang onto as long as we can. Even our own body is at risk. We can lose limbs, organs, all sorts of things, but there is one possession genetically programmed within all of us that we will never EVER be able to change, no matter how hard we try.

    That possession is that one day, we will die.

    You can Take Away money. You can take away family. You can take away all the toes on your foot, and both of your kidneys. You can even take away your own life, but you can never take away your own death.

    There are people who say that they don't fear death. That is not the same thing as saying that you do not fear dying. Our ancestors were completely connected with death. People were killed by wild animals, people died in their homes, there's a reason early churches had graveyards next to them. In today's society, in an effort to escape it, we have done everything we possibly can to escape death. We've invented new ways to prolong our life, the dying now go to hospitals, away from our homes, and we are attempting to perfect ways to cheat death. This may have prolonged death, but it has done nothing to remove death from our lives.

    There's one problem with confronting death and knowing that you can overcome it: you can't simply do it, nor can you find it.

    There are two ways to address this. The first is to do risky activities that put your life on the line. This can include skydiving, rock-climbing, dodging traffic, doing something that will get your blood rushing, your heart racing, and put you on the brink of death. If you overcome this, and you cheat death, you know you can face it and have no fear of it. The second method is to visualize death.

    In his exile, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, the teacher to the infamous Emperor Nero, overcame his fear of death by visualizing all the different horrific ways he could die. The more he did it and could feel it, the less he began to fear dying alone on his island. When he was eventually forced to commit suicide in front of his friends, he went through a painful, vein slicing, poison induced death.

    At the present moment, I am working on conquering the ways that I could die. I particularly choose to go with Roman styles of execution, because they are usually the most gruesome. I will not go into detail about them, mainly because it is not for the feint of heart, but you are always more than welcome to google them. The results for my confidence and ability to face situations that I would usually cower in has been tremendous.

    Once you can confidently say, and know for certain, that you can face your own death without any pain or remorse, then you can overcome any fear that comes in front of you.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: How to Overcome ALL Fears

    That is some dark shit Swagman. I think most things in our lives aren't as extreme as being able to conquer fear of death. I like to conquer my fear of not truly living. Thats what scares me is that my ego and my self esteem will stop me from enjoying all life has to offer. This Mindset is what really pushes me to approach, take chances, and pull the trigger. I dont fear death because like you said it cant be known or controlled. Right now. Today I can only control one day at a time. One moment in time and death has no place in this moment.

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    Default Re: How to Overcome ALL Fears

    Yea, you could call it dark. You could even call it psychotic to some extent. When you recognize that you will die, you recognize your mortality. When you recognize your mortality, you will realize that time is limited, which causes you to want to live your life to the fullest. The thought I could die tomorrow not the man that I want to be is what drives me today to become that man.
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    Default Re: How to Overcome ALL Fears

    Interesting but very dark indeed! Just a different perspective in terms of dealing with fear, so whatever works for you. Very valid point on skydiving. I am a licensed skydiver, but it took me awhile to become one, including passing out in the air and almost dying. You go through something like that and it really changes your perspective. But like Devil Dog, I just don't think about death. I don't fear it, because I don't even think about it. I try to focus on how can I get the most out of life and I don't want to be missing out on any experiences I want. That's what drives me, personally.
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    Default Re: How to Overcome ALL Fears

    You are on point, and your perspective is valid! I've researched this concept and I've come to understand that ultimately the willingness to face and accept our imminent death trumps all fears and makes fear irrelevant.
    I can't say I'm there though! I'll do that visualization process u mentioned. Btw have you read 50th law by Robert Greene and 50 Cent? The book is also bout fearlessness.

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    Default Re: How to Overcome ALL Fears

    Something i took from another forum that i found really helpful in my case

    I have wrote that down and read it 5 times a day for the last week
    "I will fail at opening most girls and there is nothing i can do about it"

    What ever your fear is , write it down , finish your sentence with " and there is nothing i can do about it " and read it 5 times a day until it has served its purpose.

    the power of words , it's amazing

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    Quote Originally Posted by ryskcat View Post
    You are on point, and your perspective is valid! I've researched this concept and I've come to understand that ultimately the willingness to face and accept our imminent death trumps all fears and makes fear irrelevant.
    I can't say I'm there though! I'll do that visualization process u mentioned. Btw have you read 50th law by Robert Greene and 50 Cent? The book is also bout fearlessness.
    Actually this is where I got it from. I had just finished the chapter on our mortality when I had my moment of inspiration and understanding on the subject itself.

    50 Cent and Robert Greene: what a combination. If any of you reading this have not checked out the 50th Law yet, do so.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X


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