Re: turned down 2 girls and need to know how to talk to them now
Well to me it seems that they are calling the shots and you're following their lead. So if they decide to get bored and move on they'll do just that. They sucked you into their world. Not the other way around. If you want things on your terms you'll have to suck them into your world. Anytime they make such an advance on you and you say no then they interpret it that you're gay. Lol I know. Women are frickin cocky. To even think a guy wasn't interested is blasphemy. Or they'll interpret it that you're weak and shy.
On the other end if you say yes then the power is all theirs and they choose when they want to play with you or not. So things are still on their terms. The way to go about this to avoid both scenarios is to have them EARN you. Be challenging. Everyone likes a little challenge.
Have the attitude (not verbal) that "Ok, I'm down. But first you must do something for me." Maybe have them cook for you or wear a certain outfit otherwise you won't be turned on. Let them make an effort.
As for now contact them that you are going to pick up your boxers, but that they should make you a drink or food for having to go out of your way to get them back.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."