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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    Congratulations man! I must say, I'm a bit jealous that you managed to so easily get it in. I'm still working towards getting a kiss

    All the above is great, but a quick shot, one and done approach will NOT get you success 24/7 with women. You need to be willing to accept failure, and you need to be willing to accept it on a daily basis. There is no magical "One Size Fits All" Pick-Up Shoe that when you put it on, it will give you all the knowledge in the world on how to get the ladies.

    You're success is great, but you have only had a taste of what there really is. Stick around for a while, and you will see much more.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    Yeah it might have been a success, but the awkward sex was the worst part of the whole night I think I might have seriously farked this part up. I don't want to get banned from this forum by talking about what happened in the room (isn't that one of the rules?), but I don't think any one can give me advice unless I do tell what happened. And I really don't think it mattered how smooth and alpha male I was because, I think she was dead set on sleeping with me from the beginning. Another awkward part was when I was leaving. I don't know if she wanted me just to stay with her for the rest of the night or not. I'm laying on the bed with my boxers on and she comes in naked and sits on the edge of the bed and put her hand on my chest playfully and say's, "Your good", in a patronizing tone. I think I sucked, I know sucked actually, but I felt like she was trying to make me feel better. It didn't induce confidence, thats for sure. After I dressed, I said, "I guess I should be going". I left, but I had a feeling she wanted me to stay. I'm kind of confused about this actually...

    Also,I feel like I didn't escalate the situation; she did. After the two room mates went to bed, she's the one that got on top of me and start kissing. I just tried to roll with it, believe me, I'm more surprised by all that happened than any of you reading this.

    So, the next day we didn't talk or text. I didn't want to send a text first and come off needy. Today though, I'm wondering what happened? I sent a text saying, "I had a great time the other night. Btw, thanks for the big ass hickey *winking smiley guy thing*" (Speaking of hickey's, how the hell do you get rid of them?) I'm trying to joke with her, to be honest I didn't really want a hickey. Anyway I didn't receive a response.

    Even after I got laid, I still feel like I got rejected. I guess this was a lesson learned and I'll look at the mistakes and try to improve them in the future. No one ever said PUA stuff was easy.

    Well, I'll keep updating this thread if I get responses from her or any other new stuff that comes up.

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    Well, not sure how well you performed. Maybe that could be it. It does take practice to be good in that department.

    In regards to hickeys, No, no no no… never let anyone give you a hickey. It isn’t 8th grade anymore.
    Hickeys are marks. I am from the NJ area and close to NY. I had a friend when I was younger (15,16ish) and I hung out with him in his neighborhood in NYC. I was the new guy with a six pack so girls liked me. I was so AFC at that time too, just had looks going for me.
    Long story short, hooked up with a girl, she gave me a huge hickey. The reason why, since I found out from my friend, is that girls do this as a marker or territory. It’s like, “yeah I did that to him”… It’s just so juvenile.
    If a girl is kissing on your neck like that, move your neck away or tell her, “don’t leave a mark”.

    Why she didn’t respond depends on the night. It was good that you kept it cool and confident when her roommates came back. It shows confidence.

    I would of left too. I hate staying over people’s houses. Unless I know the girl well and I have something with her. Otherwise, I’ll leave.

    If a guy doesn’t text or call or whatever the next day, she may feel used. This is all dependent on the girl she is, but she might of felt “dumb” in a way. Texting her the next day isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Especially if you want it to continue. It shows her you are comfortable with it, and you aren’t those “jerks” that just do it all the time. This is always dependent on what kind of girl she is. She may not even care and just wanted her little fun.

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    I guess I'm kind of like you used to be. Looks are about only I have going for me me right now. I freaking hate the hickey though! I arrived home at 2 am and crashed. I woke up and looked in the mirror and saw the hickey and was like damn it! I feel like a cheap whore and icing it just barely reduced it.

    I think she was basing off my looks how good I would be sexually also. So I guess I was probably a disappointment.

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    it's so obvious man. the only thing your missing. the root to all your dating problems, is confidence. now confidence is not a hat that you just put on and then you have it. you gain it through experience. through failures and mistakes. but most of all- DO NOT BE AFRAID TO FAIL. i can give you out so many pointers, but the best thing to know is that at the end of the day- you have to live your life the way you want it. the thing that most daunts me is that these pick u artists that memorize all these lines do it in order to accommodate themselves and be liked by people and seduce women. i know that i am the prize. and if this girl doesnt like me for who i am, you loose baby! cause i dont need your value in my life. i could keep going but ill write a book before i finish.

    In high school i missed my chances with the most attractive girls there were. i knew they liked me, i just didnt think i had it in me.- thats how i can kind of relate to your situation. just by you describing it i can tell that woman simply wanted sex....

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr8Hyde6 View Post
    Long story short, hooked up with a girl, she gave me a huge hickey. The reason why, since I found out from my friend, is that girls do this as a marker or territory. It’s like, “yeah I did that to him”… It’s just so juvenile.
    If a girl is kissing on your neck like that, move your neck away or tell her, “don’t leave a mark”.
    I was making out with this girl on my couch and she asked me if I've ever had a hickey before and I told her I hadnt , wrong move and she looked all excited. I need to be caredul with her. I work with alot of people

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    As crazy as it sounds, I wish I didn't have sex with her that night. I think I was confident with making out and the other fore play stuff, but bombed the sex part. If I would have just made out with her and fooled around, I would have built more desire for me. In the meantime I could have studied a little more on sex and got ready for the next step.

    But it all happened within 3 hours! I was in over my head big time. I guess being a failure was a risk I was willing to take to change my wussy lifestyle around. At least I learned something I guess. The worst part is, I'm in a small hillbilly town where everyone knows your business and gossips like crazy. I stick out like sore thumb; i was born in Miami and dont look like anybody from around here. So rumors are gonna pop up saying I'm the good looking guy in town that sucks at sex.

    Also, The chick I did it with is leaving in a couple weeks and is having an intimate party soon. Two of my good friends and me are going to be the only people. They keep telling me to text her back because they don't know what happened. So I'm stuck in 2 awkward positions I really can't get out of.

    I'm planning on leaving too, but you know, money is an issue for most people now days. Hopefully I'll have enough coin to take off in a few months, back to a real city. Because it's going to be a living hell living here now! Ha ha ha

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    *UPDATE*

    I think I know what happened and why she's not responding to me. When I first met her she said she was married and her husband cheated on her and kicked her out of the house and he's a jerk and their divorced (she's only 22, I was surprised she was married that young). I found out she's not divorced. She's still legally married to him because he won't sign the divorce papers.

    Now I'm thinking that she was trying to get back to her cheating husband by having sex with me and she might feel guilty; thats probably why she doesn't want to be around me anymore.

    I did get a text later in the day responding to my earlier text. She said, "I'm swamped at work and didn't have time". I sent: No problem. Didn't want to look like I blew you off the other day. Her: "Your fine *smiley face*

    Today my friend was driving and he stopped by the place she was working to get some stuff (He probably did this on purpose). I went inside with him, because I didn't want to look like a little b*tch sitting in the car looking like I didn't want to talk to her.. By the time we were ready to check out, she looked like she was trying not to see me. At the counter I just said, "How's it going?". Her: "Good, thanks"

    So it wasn't necessarily that I sucked at sex, it was probably that she felt guilty about legally cheating? I think I flooded my head with so many thoughts and ideas on what I screwed up on, but it might have had nothing to do with me.

    What do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    I think you need to just stop thinking about it and move onto the next one.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Newbie that needs help by tonight!

    Yeah, I think too much. It's kind of crazy how quick your mind can jump to conclusions and make up stuff. I need to stop acting like a little b*tch and get over this! I just made out and had sex with a girl after sucking with woman for a long time. I should congratulate myself! To be honest, I think the body language, acting confident and realizing my looks are better than what I thought were the best things I've learned from this experience.

    Thanks for all the tips and having a place to talk about all this, guys. This was my first real taste of success with woman and I'm ready to go out have more.


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