Pick up Advanced Techniques and Rules
I just had an off night as I posted in the "Field Report" section about how it went. In essence most my sets sucked but I found a wing man on the fly. I told him I was a PUA (would never tell a girl that, LOL) and he said he wanted to wing for me. So I learned some rules to live by and wanted to share them.
Rules of the PUA:
#1 The Wing: Don't approach with the wing if you approached alone originally. Only open sets brand spanking new with a wing if you need to deal with a potential cockblock. I realized a wing is not there to open the set or even help manage the set there are only there to teach or to learn.
I realized I should have let my wing watch me open then advised him to open some girls. When I was getting cockblocked that was the prime time to bring in my wing for help. The wing is there to help not to show social proof. I tried to use my wing as social proof and got a massive blow out by it with 2 instant IOD's. Your wing is there to watch you open girls, deal with cockblocks, or have them open. But not have them hanging there as a crutch opener, any social proof, or giving you help when you don't need it. Go in alone with your wing hanging out until you need backup. Seriously I learned this the hard way guys don't be like me and go AFC.
#2 The Mindset
Don't open girls you can't close. Essentially don't ever open a 7. Only 7.5's or higher. No more clown stuff. If you want to soar with the Eagles then stop flying with the hawks. I got this wrong and thought this HB7 was a 7 and she was a 7.5 and somehow she knew I was demoralizing her and her friend knew it some way and they both tore me up and served me up on a silver platter. I got served because I didn't size her up right and my inner game wasn't airtight. So get it right don't approach unless 7.5 or higher. Why? Because I have noticed the lower they are the more mind games they play. The hotter the better as they are more open to a swinging good time.
Not trying to stereotype just saying this is how it really is. I have had enough experience now doing this and haven't been trusting my gut when I should have. Now I will try to trust my gut and only approach the girls worthy. By that I mean the ones I can handle. For some reason I can't handle the HB6's & 7's worth jack. So go in strong and have a rock solid inner game ready for the ice shields,
sh!t tests, and cockblocks sure to follow.
#3 Alpha Male Spirit
Go all out on your big bad self and throw down. Looks don't matter because I am a super good looking dude and have gotten played for shorter guys, less attractive guys, guys with no game only having pretty girls thrown at them, etc while I have to work for everything.
Never open a 3 set without a wing or a super good plan. Back away think about your opener and get set like the hulk. Go buck wild and treat it like a game after all it is and you are a hunter searching for worthy prey. Not that you should play girls but that you should play the game. Mind games never work so don't try it. Just get the Alpha male spirit and don't chicken out. Remember you are the selector not the seller. You shouldn't feel desperate like you have to hit on everything that moves.
Dealing with oneitis
Oneitis is a blood sucking virus only fit for vampyres so don't go there unless you are a natural born AFC and can own your AFC self then girls will like that (reverse physchology you are AFC but you become Alpha by owning your identity). After all it's only when you are trying to be something you are not that girls hate which makes you a true AFC wanna be Alpha with no game. But you can be AFC or Alpha doesn't matter just own it and roll with it.
I used to be that way and would desperately want HB5's, 6's, and 7's to like me. But people change and people's opinions change. With that being said I was like "why am I opening girls I can't close?" ie opening girls under HB7.5. I noticed I was just acting desperate. Girls don't care about looks. But don't look like a slob. Girls care about game. So game the heck out of them and only open girls you have that you know you are going to close. Your opener will come easy but think in advance how you are going to isolate, do a mini-bounce, or close this gal. Because I haven't been pre-planning my close and just so focused on my opener. Now I will start thinking "what do I want to do with this gal?" Do I want her #, do I want to mini-bounce her, do I want to isolate her? etc.
It's pretty hard but don't focus on the end result of getting some action just focus on your primary goal which is lifting your state. These are not really "rules" just random words to live by as you can learn from me and I can learn from you. I am just sharing things I am trying to understand and practice myself but remember it's so hard to get airtight with inner game sometimes I wonder when it will ever happen. But then again I did just have a super amazing set with my homegirl (HB9 bartender) she was dropping hints about going to start asking guys out now because she loves nerds. She has a BF but I think this was a passive IOI stating she was not that attached to him (otherwise why was she talking like being in a relationship in an uncommited way) and actually showed me I still have a chance with her if I play my cards right. Again women are very subtle and found out my homegirl actually went after her current BF. Either way she asked about my GF (LOL) didn't even bring it up and already she is craving my affection the minute I DHV her with a GF. The GF thing didn't last but 4 days after she left me for her Ex-BF. She was so happy about that! Definitely don't have oneitis though I had to get a GF to prove to her I could get one and when I did get one my chain of oneitis was broken. Now that it was broken we have the most amazing convo after that (coincidence? I think not). I was so unstiffled not having that oneitis. But yeah focusing on this girl on POF right now (HB9) trying to take it slow since girls are very leery of the whole online dating concept.