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    Default Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Is there a possible way to approach and somehow initiate a convo with a girl who is wearing earphones/headphones, listening some loud music? This is a highly common scenario on buses and subways but since they are in no rush they're more approachable than on the streets. However, I really don't know how to approach girls with earphones on. Should I just gesture that she should remove her earphones and hope that she won't blow me off instantly? Or maybe should I do an "accidental" bump while passing by and wait for her reaction?

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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    I bump this, I wanna know it, too! ... I have a 3hours commute EACH DAY, and even though sometimes theres nobody else on the bus, there are times when you can't find an empty place for a, like 45 minutes ride!
    I need this!

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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Either one would work. I would just ask them to remove their headphones.
    Any of you guys in the Dayton Oh area let me know and we will sarge.

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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Quote Originally Posted by Odlaw View Post
    Either one would work. I would just ask them to remove their headphones.
    what I wanted to say is, do you go direct or indirect?
    direct could be more rewarding, but higher risk, too;
    indirect could work, knowing that you have a set amout of time, and usually sufficient, before you inevitably lose the set, but a transition could be weird ...

    also, being alone on the bus/in the bus stop, could you directly open, with something like
    "Hey, my phone died, so I don't have anything to do for the this bus ride, so I was thinking about making a friend ... My name's andy (extend arm) and you are ?"

    how does that sound?

    'would appreciate some feedback!

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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    I guess it's apparent that indirect openers won't work with asking to remove their headphones because they might go into the b1tch mode like:

    Me: *signals her to remove her earphone*
    HB: "What do you want?"
    Me: Opinion opener or some other indirect opener
    HB: blabla *puts earphones back*

    And you can't really force her to not to put her earphones back because that would just be rude. I think you need some really interesting indirect opener if you want her to keep the earphones removed.

    Bumping may be more playful and you can start Kino right away unless you hurt her or yourself really bad. but there is always the possibility that she will categorize your bump as "just another public transportation bump" and ignore you. Or if you're sitting next to each other, I really don't know how to do an accidental bump.

    Couple times I opened with a direct question by requesting to remove her earphones. I asked like: " Do you know which stop is closest to *insert location*?" or "This is the *insert location* bus right? (like you accidentally got onto the wrong bus)". These openers seemed to work but transitioning is really hard for me. When they answer my question, they quickly plug their earphones back and give you a killer stare if you bother them again.
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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Rocket your opener seems like it would work. Wolf if a chick did that then chances are she has a b1tchy personality and do you really wanna be with someone like that anyways? Most likely she is bored as hell and wants something to pass the time faster than listening to her ipod so by approaching her and asking her to remove her headphones you are doing her a favor. At the very least think of it as you are bored and she is simply a way to pass the time so whether it goes good or bad is irrelevant. I have actually told a chick that before and she gained attraction for me. Lol. If you are good enough in game then you could go direct and have her in the palm of your hand. I am not that good yet so i stick to opinion openers. They are easy to transition from and they are under the radar. If you do this then you have to be careful because you can come of as completely uninterested and you blow yourself out(I still do this from time to time. Lol) The thing that helped me out is having the Mindset that you are just trying to pass the time and have some fun. Make that your objective and you should be golden even if you get blown out.
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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    I haven't done this myself, but my suggestion is direct. Some women put their headphones on BECAUSE they don't want to be approached. So having her go through the trouble of removing her headphones just to ask her opinion may be risky if she happens to have an attitude problem.

    But if you are serious about this then you should become the pioneer. Try out both, indirect and direct, and tell us about it. Then you'd be teaching us something that isn't covered too often on this forum.
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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    All above noted guys, I'll test both direct and indirect approaches ASAP. Since I'm still in college, I take a lot of bus rides with countless cute girls from my campus so it shouldn't took too long to try all these out.
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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    Since I'm still in college, I take a lot of bus rides with countless cute girls from my campus so it shouldn't took too long to try all these out.
    I'm in the exact same situation
    Still, try not to approach girls that you see, like everyday or so, because blowing a few of them out would make the bus ride very uncomfortable from then on ...

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    Default Re: Bus/Subway Approaching: Girls with Earphones

    Headphones are nothing. You just signal for them to take their headphones out and they do


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