Alright guys, I’ve been meaning to post this for the past couple weeks, but hadn’t really had a big tipping point until this last weekend. After walking into a club again, good Mindset, ready to hit it, and within 10 minutes… found myself feeling like a loser standing around by myself again, as my one friend I came with almost immediately started talking with a girl, and within 5 minutes was literally dry humping her up against the bar in front of everyone. Now I had to say based on the faces of people in the club, it was inappropriate, and any girl that has any self respect is not going to wrap her legs around a guy in front of 100 others (drunk sl*t). But who am I kidding, if I was the one doing it instead of standing there with my finger up my a$$ I would be singing a different tune! Anyways I got pissed and dipped (budy didn’t even realize it until like an hour later), but it’s all good..
Now I’m going to try paint you guys a picture of my frustration these last couple months or so. Take this as just that, and not me being pretentious or bragging etc. I’m thinking of many of you as more highly than myself. I just want to know if anyone else on here feels this same way:
I’m a pretty good looking guy. I am told so fairly often. I have a great sense of style, awesome clothes, and feel I easily set myself apart from the rest. Again, not just making this up, I often get compliments from girls. I have a nice place downtown, where everyone wants to be, brand new car, work in investment banking at a broker/dealer, and will easily be in the six figures within the next couple of years. I’m 25 and have a trust account with more money in it than most of your parent’s retirement. I am a leader of the pack with my friends; everyone calls me to see what I want to do and I have a pretty good influence on those around me. I hit the gym often, am an avid cyclist, travel, am well versed in culture, have an awesome family, etc. You get the point.
… Yet most of the time lately my d-bag buddies (sorry guys, love ya!) that are in school for the 8th year and live at home with their parents, have been cleaning up with the ladies when were out!! Now not all of them. This guy that I described earlier has been single for a while, were generally each others wingman. But in general I have been the observer, while they get all the attention. I even just about blew my stack a couple weeks ago when a friend of mine brought a girl back to my house a-bar and was trying to bang as I came up empty handed. Ehhh uh. Not gonna happen
I do not think I act cocky or stuck up at all, but I am confident in myself, feel like I’m in a really good place in life, and have my sh1t put together. I just wish that girls could catch onto this.. Now don’t get me wrong. I dated a girl through most of college that everyone was jealous of; I’ve had between 10-15 actual girlfriends that would turn some heads, so I’m by no means a total rookie here. I actually got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, but lately I feel I have fallen into a COMPLETE slump these last few months, and a headspace where I feel I am actually getting WORSE with meeting/interaction with girls. Because of this, I am hesitating on approaching and am even kind of freezing up or acting awkward when conversing.. So no matter how cool of a guy you are (or think you are), I guess I’m not building that initial attraction for them to even get to know me!
This is the one area of my life that I really need to figure out, because I'm sick of standing around waiting for it to come to me.. Anyone else feel this way, can offer any tips etc?