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    Default Body Language: What to do when standing around?

    Guys, this may seem obvious for some, but unknown for us others, and I have not seen any direct posts or articles on the topic, so I thought we could analyze this usual situation we all run into.

    With body language, what is the best thing to do when "standing around" next to someone (or by yourself for that matter), such as you might encounter waiting for an elevator. Seems silly, but I've found alot of people, including myself at times, wind up acting awkward in these types of situations and inadvertantly sending off nervous or weird body language signals (fidgeting, staring straight forward stiff, etc)

    For instance today:

    At work, walked out of my door to the elevator, and a co-worker who I don't know well (female, a little older than me, married) waiting there as well. I said a quick, "hi, how are you" but then we both just stood there. Then entered the elevator, and stood there some more. I glanced over at her and she was stiff as a board, I was leaning up agains the wall. I was not really interested in starting up a big conversation with her. There are times this is not practical or wanted.

    So what is the best thing to do to look confident and non awkward in these situations? Cross arms? Face straight forward? Rock? Look at phone? etc. I suppose this is not something to overthink, but sometimes the differance can be in the details! Tips and ideas appreciated.

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    Default Re: Body Language: What to do when standing around?

    Try to have a conversation. Preferrably funny. "So here we are at the elevator party!"

    Body language well, if you're talking, gesticulate. Open gestures.
    Otherwise, lean back to the elevator wall, or you can be straight with your hands at your hip, or even one hand at your hip. Be there with a smirk, act self-amusing.

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    Default Re: Body Language: What to do when standing around?

    My suggestion is to read a book on body language. The Definitive Book on Body Language is a good place to start. It will help with all aspects of body language in your life.
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