So I am talking to this girl....while she had a BF we had a good rapport, sexual tension, HEAVY flirting, and her showing IOI's and Kino Escalation the few times we hung out.
She is now single for about 4 months and in a head space of "needing time to sort things out and be herself again" plus she has to work graveyard shift for 2 months, 12 hours shifts, with only one day off a week. So she has plenty of "space" to do so. She doesn't miss the relationship with her ex, but she has admitted to missing the friendship (aka lonely and needy...and no they dont see each other and their conversations have ended completely)
We still have an awesome rapport during this difficult time of hers but she cant tell I am frustrated with her lack of communication and overall flakiness.
She called me out on it and the convo went like this :
HB8: I can tell you are frustrated with me. How can I fix it?
ME: Well, honestly. The few times we have hung out have always been on your terms. Even though my hang out ideas are way better. LOL. Lets go do something fun and exciting. Create some memories
HB8: Thats going to be very difficult while I am working this night shift sh1t. Like last week, on my one day off, all I did was laundry and house chores. Everyone is asleep by 12pm and I am still on this dumb sleep schedule where I wake up at 8pm and up until 10am. I dont even go out or do anything.
ME: Well thats perfect because some of the things I wan to do work with that. the stuff I want to do is at night, overnight, and morning stuff.
HB8: Yeah but I am also sooooo tired. All I want to do is catch up on sleep .
ME: Ok.Well listen I have to go to the city and meet up with some friends for a bonfire.
HB8: Man. that sounds so fun! Drink a beer for me.
I know her well enough that she will try to shoot the sh1t with "friendly" texts akin to "Hey how was the bonfire?", "Hey you whats new?" etc.
I am going to freeze her out while she does that until she asks whats wrong and I will write to her
"Well , listen. I have liked talking to you , hanging out with you, and being there for you, but I cant put in effort and personal energy into something that is so disproportional. And if you think about it, we both know that’s true. You seem to care enough to want to make an effort, and you have even said you do, but it seems like you don’t really want to. I don’t know what this is to you, but when you are ready to put your words into action with a tangible effort, get back to me."
Any critiques on my approach (Freeze Out) and response (with that message i want to send)?