I just got this new idea for phone game (not for texting though). So here goes.
Phone Game has been killing my game
I always wondered why I could game HB's at the Club without any aa, close them with no nervousness, go for the k-close without any fear then come the next day get all clammy when I think about calling them! I am going to stay on topic and not talk about what happens when texting.
So in my PUA journey I have collected 15 #'s but I have noticed almost every signle HB freaked me out about the thought of calling them! After I closed them successfully and all. I didn't understand why I was reverting back to AFC. Well I think I finally understand it, it's because I am too soft.
I mean to say I am too much of a nice guy when it comes to phone game. I get clammy, try to appease them, say only nice stuff, act actually very submissive with no banter or teasing behavior whatsoever! I don't know why I croak like this. I mean I literally talk on the phone for a living and cringe whenever I think of calling a target.
A lot of has to do with fear and insecurity that has not been dealt with. So I dealt with my AA and overcome my fear of the approach and now actually thrive on approaching. But somewhere I lose focus and hate the aftermath of having to call a girl.
Low and behold when I do actually pony up and call I get the usual vm. Sometimes I persist a little bit and get an answer. But the results are usually always lukewarm on my part. I overthink it too much plan on what I am going to say and leave either a very weak vm or talk to the girl and not with her.
No banter, intro, or teasing no wonder I get hung up on! But I have a new target and was planning on calling her and again fear has set in. Now that I recognize it I had an idea that set my fears at ease.
Basically what set my fears at ease was instead of calling while approval seeking now I can switch to buyer mindset. What I mean is basically being a bit of a d!ck over the phone then making light of it by using it to flirt to see if they try to qualify themselves to me instead of me qualifying myself to them. What do you guys think of me trying this out?