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    Default Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    Girl I my class won't date black guys!!( I'm black so I'm taking it as a challenge). I asked her why she won't date black guys and she tells me that she doesn't find black guys attractive. So she isn't flirty at first but when her friend joins in the conversation she then starts to talk more and starts flirting with me. So I tell her " I'm going to ask you if you still have no interest in black Guys tomorrow" she starts smiling and that's when the end of the day bell rang. So how do I continue to escalate more tomorrow?

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    That's strange because I know there are girls and women out there who only date black guys or who at least prefer black men and I'm talking about white women.

    Heck, one time while walking out a pizza place a young woman tried to smile at a tall black guy but wouldn't even make eye contact with me so I know they are out there. I wouldn't give up. Part of it depends on where you live and the attitude of the town or city. The last thing you want to do is accuse her being racist. I know it might seem like she is but really she isn't(not necessarily anyway). I wouldn't take it personal I would just move on. I'm pretty sure there are some black girls and black women who don't date black men either believe it or not. You should just move on to the next girl. No harm, no foul.

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    I'm very sorry. I didn't read you're entire comment when I first responded.

    In that case, it sounds like a Sh1t Test. Yes, you should ask her again tomorrow. If she says she still doesn't like black men then call her out on being a tease even if her friends are there.

    As for escalating, I wouldn't do it in school. Wait until after school and don't do anything too obvious or physical in front of her friends. Get her number then meet her somewhere or see if you guys can hang out somewhere.

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    I wouldn't even feed into that frame. Asking her why she doesn't like black guys only strengthens that idea aka frame. Introduce a new frame that you only date black women. Let her earn you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    Here's our conersation that went on today. I'm sorta of a player in my school and she knows it. But I was making a joke out of her not dating black guys and she was serious. She said " I don't find any black guy attractive". Well I sit next to her and 2 other girls because they are very sexual when I sit with them and the conersations are always interesting. Well she randomly states that she's trying to have the best summer this year and I "asked" her to join.( I know asking is a beta technique but I had a good reason for doing it). She starts laughing( what I was aiming for). She then says " you don't have to ask to join in my summer break" . She then states " I'll be camping most of the time in the forest and stuff" so I say "wow I'll come and have a great summer with you too but I don't know if I can trust you in the woods, you might try to rape and kill me"( my shit test to see if she's interesting in me or not). She says " oh right like I would ever want to rape you" ( I ignore it and just sit there baiting her). She then finishes "and my parents don't want me hanging around guys" I counter with "oh Better, I'll sneak over". She doesn't say anything after that so I start chatting with her friends at the table. Analyze our conversation , I want some advice/criticism

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    I'm trying to kiss close her other friend( because her friend always stares at me and I think she's interested in me.) I told preframed her though telling her that today was random kissing day. Then I told her that we were going to the library during lunch( to Isolate her). I ended up flaking on her though

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    Sometimes it's ok for a person not to be attracted to you, tell me if i'm, wrong, but that's just how life is. I admire you for not letting that get to you and for being persistent, but I don't think that's gonna work in your favor in the long run. If you gauge her ioi's and body language, you can tell if she's giving you a Sh1t Test, or she's being honest

    I in particular do NOT find plus size women attractive...at ALL...no matter how fun/funny/caring she could be. My co-worker however, just can't get enough of them...plus he doesn't really like slim women the way I do. Women are the same really, some like black, white, latino, short, round, etc

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    BatMan is right.

    I have a lot to say on this topic.

    All from my personal experience as a black guy, that has been with plenty of "I only date within my race" type girls Personally I like any girl thats attractive, LOL.

    First mistake you made was being "reactive" to her offensive statement.

    You asked why she didnt date black guys...

    No.

    At this point you must be the example of the black guy she DOES LIKE. By that I mean dont ask her silly questions like that. A question like that is showing direct interstest off the bat, and in this senerio is not attractive.

    A girl that at first isn't to keen on a particualr race (for whatever reason that my be) is still a human, and IS attracted to males with certain traits/qualitys that she deems attractive.

    Reasoning with her logically about her stand, IS NOT going to do anything, if she is even going to sway in the first place. Stop mentioning it!

    Its a shit test. To pass it, game as usual and be indifferent. Just like you would a Boyfriend Shit Test.

    Anyways your coming on waaay to strong. And have given her waay to much power my friend. Slow down the escalation with this one,your in overdrive.

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    Oh I know she's not attracted to me. We are just friends now.

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    Default Re: Girl hates black guys, but I want to get with her

    It happens. The best thing you can do to make real progress as a PUA or whatever is to acknowledge that not only will you not get every girl but that you don't want every girl.


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