Hello all! I am new to this forum. I do not necessarily want to become a Pick-Up Artist, but I would just like some general advice on this chick I know at work. I've read some of the pick-up theories, and some of David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating". I figured PUA's, who are experienced at reading women, would be able to do help me out best. I am totally clueless on this girl. xD
I think she's very cute, and I really like her a lot. But in our conversations she says some weird things. I'll give some examples of some conversations I've had with her tonight:
Her: "Have I ever told you that you have creepy eyes?"
Me: "........Wow, thanks a lot? (Sarcasm with a hint of playfulness)"
Her: "No no no! I'm not trying to be mean. I mean, your eyes are pretty! But...creepy in a way. It's really cool. I wish I had creepy eyes."
Me: "..." (Confused)
Her: "What? I mean it!"
(Ended because of customers approaching)
Now, last time I checked, "Creepy" does NOT mean "cool, attractive, pretty", or ANYTHING that has a remotely positive connotation. WTF? Was this a failed attempt at a neg, and she didn't have the guts to follow through with it?
Her: (Spontaneously pushes an item onto me as I am bagging groceries on the other end)
Me: (Amused look) "...Okay?"
Her: "Hahaha! You're so calm about everything. I hate it..."
Me: "Yeah. That's the way I am."
Customer overhearing our conversation: "That's a good thing!"
Girl: "Yeah...yeah it is."
Me: (Confused again) "You're a strange girl..."
She hates how I'm so calm, yet acknowledges it as a good quality? Could this be because I am hard to read (I haven't been very responsive), and she would like to be able to read me better?
Her: (Looking frustrated/bored, I'm talking to someone else for a bit then switch attention to her)
Me: "What's the matter with you?"
Her: "Sometimes I wish I were the only person in the world...I think it would be pretty cool."
Me: "Have you seen the movie "I Am Legend"? It wouldn't be so cool."
Her: "Haha! Nah, I wouldn't wanna be stuck with a bunch of zombies, I would just like to be the only person in the world..."
Me: "Yeah, do you remember Will Smith talking to himself, because he had nobody else to talk to? That would be pretty boring, don't you think?"
Her: "Hmm...maybe I'd bring along a mate...as long as he does what I tell him...(laughs)"
Me: "Haha! Good luck with that one!"
(Ended because of customers approaching)
Now, I think this was just an example of vibing, but could her last sentence carry any kind of meaning? Maybe that was a sign that she's fed up with her past relationships (of course, I won't be the guy that does everything she says!) and is looking for someone?
I remember about a week ago she also made me smell a fake flower which I guess she found on the floor - she came out of nowhere and stuck it in my face - literally. "Hey Dave, smell this rose!" I replied with "...I don't smell anything." She said, "You don't smell it? Smell deeper." I take a deeper breath, still smell nothing. "It stinks, right?" I say, "No...haha, what are you smoking?" She then goes to other girls, make them smell it, talks to them for a bit, then comes back to me and asks me to wear it "because it looks good on a guy". I playfully refused about a hundred times before she finally gave up, because wearing roses is simply not my style. On top of that, why would I want to wear a dirty rose? She also playfully glares at me, calling me "evil" for not accepting it.
One last thing, there was a time where she asked me on my opinion of changing her hair color. I told her that I liked her hair the way it was, and I wouldn't change it. That was the only time I've verbally shown a mild level of interest. She thanked me for the compliment, but I had to get back to work before I could continue the conversation.
I think these are things that a girl would do if she were trying to get attention from a guy. Maybe she didn't really know any other ways to do so except what I've listed above. As for body language, there is often strong eye contact between us, but no touching. It is work, after all, I can't just go up to her and start feeling on her in front of a bunch of co-workers/customers/supervisors. I also can't seem to find any opportunities to Isolate her.
Also, I don't know if this is relevant information or not, but she's barely 18 years old. Probably younger than most of the girls you all deal with. If I had to judge her on physical looks I would say she's about 8/10.
Help me please...? Any input is appreciated.