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Thread: Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

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    Default Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

    Hyp asked about mirroring earlier and how it can be used as a rapport builder. As I'm avoiding revising for my exams and trying to convince myself I'm still being productive I ended up doing some research on it. Now I don't use this technique much but it's backed up pretty extensively throughout the community so thought I'd pull the stuff together and give an overview as there doesn't seem to be a guide to it on here. After looking at it I'm definitely going to start using it a lot more.

    What is it?

    Mirroring is the act of mimicking the physical motions of the person you are talking to. Think about when you see best friends or couples that have been together for a while talking to each other. Notice that when one scratches there elbow the other might scratch there arm, they tilt there head the same way, if one sips from a drink so does the other etc. This is all subconscious, they aren't thinking about doing it they are focused on the conversation. This just happens because they feel comfortable and relaxed in each others presence. It is not only physical motions it can be in how quick you are talking or your tone or volume of voice as well.

    Why is it useful?

    In an interaction this can be used to our advantage as it allows this level of rapport to be simulated and therefore make the girl more comfortable. When you are in the presence of someone that you are naturally mimicking it tends to be with someone who understands you and that you feel safe with. Mirroring causes her to link these feelings to you.

    How to do it?

    There are a few levels of mirroring you can do.

    You can simply follow her actions so when she does something, follow the action and do it afterwards. She won't notice you doing it as long as its natural don't take it too far if she stands up to re arrange her dress don't copy that

    You can do the actions as she does, this is easier with leaning back, taking a sip of a drink, tilting your head etc. this can be done, think about when you say something exactly the same time as your mate....that's all this is.

    Eventually if you follow the first two types through you can start to lead because she subconsciously is mirroring you now. Therefore you can start to lead and she will follow your actions. You can then use this to your advantage.....for example, if you Kino her.....she's going to kino you back.

    Have fun

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

    I've read about this before and its very interesting. A body language book I read actually talked about it. try just copying their body position for a little while. I do this in class with girls and I've found after doing this they will copy me! I feel like it goes further than body language. Theres idea that what you feel she feels. If you are relaxed she can be too. If you are comfortable with escalation she will feel that way. I read that even if one person in a room is breathing rapidly form nervousness it can cause everyone around them to subconsciously breath fast too. So when in set I focus on breathing slow and relaxed so I make everyone else more comfortable.
    What you need will not come quickly. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS WHAT YOU FEAR. Take comfort that what you seek is there. But you will NEVER have it if you keep being a p$ssy.

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    Default Re: Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

    that puts it into perspective for me, thanks link (y) i too was putting off study haha

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    Default Re: Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    if she stands up to re arrange her dress don't copy that
    What if my dress needs re arranging?
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: Mirroring to build rapport. Linking

    Isn't that the point to re arrange our clothing together
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