Hyp asked about mirroring earlier and how it can be used as a rapport builder. As I'm avoiding revising for my exams and trying to convince myself I'm still being productive I ended up doing some research on it. Now I don't use this technique much but it's backed up pretty extensively throughout the community so thought I'd pull the stuff together and give an overview as there doesn't seem to be a guide to it on here. After looking at it I'm definitely going to start using it a lot more.
What is it?
Mirroring is the act of mimicking the physical motions of the person you are talking to. Think about when you see best friends or couples that have been together for a while talking to each other. Notice that when one scratches there elbow the other might scratch there arm, they tilt there head the same way, if one sips from a drink so does the other etc. This is all subconscious, they aren't thinking about doing it they are focused on the conversation. This just happens because they feel comfortable and relaxed in each others presence. It is not only physical motions it can be in how quick you are talking or your tone or volume of voice as well.
Why is it useful?
In an interaction this can be used to our advantage as it allows this level of rapport to be simulated and therefore make the girl more comfortable. When you are in the presence of someone that you are naturally mimicking it tends to be with someone who understands you and that you feel safe with. Mirroring causes her to link these feelings to you.
How to do it?
There are a few levels of mirroring you can do.
You can simply follow her actions so when she does something, follow the action and do it afterwards. She won't notice you doing it as long as its natural don't take it too far if she stands up to re arrange her dress don't copy that
You can do the actions as she does, this is easier with leaning back, taking a sip of a drink, tilting your head etc. this can be done, think about when you say something exactly the same time as your mate....that's all this is.
Eventually if you follow the first two types through you can start to lead because she subconsciously is mirroring you now. Therefore you can start to lead and she will follow your actions. You can then use this to your advantage.....for example, if you Kino her.....she's going to kino you back.