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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    Definitely a time to use a Boyfriend destroyer technique if you want to get in there. Yes it may seem immoral - but there it is. You know she is confused her about feelings and the situation so know there is the chance to sway her. Capitalise on this situation and comfort her. There is a psychological technique i have recently been reading about and wrote a post on, called fractionation which could help you here in getting closer to her, making her feel more comfortable with you and ultimately placing yourself higher than her boyfriend in her mind.

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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    It seems like guys are hesitant to break out the BF Destroyer because they think it's wrong in some way. If a girl is head over heels for her boyfriend than she's not talking and flirting with you anyway, in which case you leave her alone.

    However, if she's hanging out with you more than him, texting you until 3am and continually gives you ioi's than it should be considered free game. It's not your fault her boyfriend can't get his shit together and keep her interested, but it is your fault if you lose her.

    Use the Destroyer...use it now.

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    Okay, turns out she was not ignoring me. She had forgot her phone in her moms car. I was kind of worried for a minute lol.

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    Have you got any further with this? will be interesting to here how it plays out. My money is on her choosing you at this stage..

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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    We talked until 4 AM last night and I tried to keep that out of the conversation as much as possible but it did eventually come up as expected.

    The both of us discussed how we felt in long paragraphs where she practically said I was what she had been searching for. So I think it's teetering, it's just a matter of her pulling the plug and that's where I think she's lost, not sure how to go about it.

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    I think its just a matter of time then. Dont try too hard to make it happen, continue your game and it will come naturally.

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    Yeah, We went for a milkshake earlier and are going to dinner tonight depending on what her mom says... She's in the dark during all of this lol.

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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    You got this one kid; have faith play cool, breathe easy, don't try too hard n risk clingyness. Just continue what you are doing and you got it.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    Reading through all of these posts, and especially focusing on the one where you thought she was ignoring you, I can tell you right now that you should quit because you're going to fail in the end. You're far too obsessed with this girl, your emotions are through the roof for her, and you're now focused on the outcome so much that you have lost the ability to move through the process of attraction without the fear that some action is going to lead to failure. Such conditions like these will only sabotage you, and it will only cause you pain.

    Right now, since she can't make up her mind, you have two approaches to the situation. Either:

    A. Prove to her that you are the best of the options and that she should pick you. OR

    B. Cut things off in a move to force her to make up her mind.

    This can be done in a single move, which involves you having a great time without her. In addition, you should cut off communication with her. Wait a few days, then text her back. If she is really that intertwined with you, then she will respond long before the 48 hour mark is up. You should also aim to make the conversations short and sweet. Keep them fun and interesting, but don't let her chat the time in the world away with you. Make her leaving that conversation wanting more, and she will come back for you.

    Either way, none of the above will help you as long as you are so invested into this. Take a step back, clear your mind, and approach this in a cool manner.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: To ask or not to ask

    Swagman makes a point - its one of the hardest things to actually recognise yourself and tell yourself that you have one-itis, and even harder to do something about it in order to fix it. I know this from experience.
    I find it helps to talk to other girls and practise going through all the stages e.g openers-attraction-comfort/rapport-kino escaltation, as this helps you solidify your game so your emotions wont get the better of you when it comes to this girl.

    -Zeus
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    Stick a 50 note onto your forehead and talk to a stripper.. If you can get her to not think about the note, you are gold.


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