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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Yeah I'm going daygaming tomorrow... Last time I did it I was so nervous I was studdering and everyone in the mall was looking at me and the two other girls I was talking to.. I didn't get rejected to say but I was in one of the worse situations when the girls actually try to help you pick them up( does that make sense?)

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    I picked up PUA because I had a 5 yr relationship with "the one" (or so I thought) come to a ugly end. 6 months later I hear she's pregnant with this new dudes kid and engaged... It broke me in half. I was damaged goods.

    Now I see that these kind of experiences are fuel for self improvement. I hit the gym... Started college... And started trying to pick up women. Now I wish that was my happy ending but it wasn't... I was terrible at talking to girls. I had never had to.. Since the ex was my entire high school career... I had no experience with it.

    I epic failed.. After epic failed. It was rough.

    Then a buddy of mine told me about this cool book he was reading called THE GAME. I was desperate so I read the damn thing in 2 days lol.

    It started off bumpy but with about a year of practice I dare say I'm above average at it.

    And guess who's hitting me up now saying she's not happy with her relationship? YUPPP. Suck it biatchh haha.

    So in essence... This lifestyle pulled me out of depression. I'm ten times the man I was.

    Thank you PUA community.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by ItsJaySonic View Post
    I picked up PUA because I had a 5 yr relationship with "the one" (or so I thought) come to a ugly end. 6 months later I hear she's pregnant with this new dudes kid and engaged... It broke me in half. I was damaged goods.

    Now I see that these kind of experiences are fuel for self improvement. I hit the gym... Started college... And started trying to pick up women. Now I wish that was my happy ending but it wasn't... I was terrible at talking to girls. I had never had to.. Since the ex was my entire high school career... I had no experience with it.

    I epic failed.. After epic failed. It was rough.

    Then a buddy of mine told me about this cool book he was reading called THE GAME. I was desperate so I read the damn thing in 2 days lol.

    It started off bumpy but with about a year of practice I dare say I'm above average at it.

    And guess who's hitting me up now saying she's not happy with her relationship? YUPPP. Suck it biatchh haha.

    So in essence... This lifestyle pulled me out of depression. I'm ten times the man I was.

    Thank you PUA community.

    Nice story.. Live in the present.. But I'm very curious about what you want to do with the one that got away( has a child and wants you back as I think).. But it's funny how life is a Domino Effect, once you get one part together everything starts going together in sequence keep it that way.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Thanks man, I gave serious thought to giving her another shot... But I just can't. If the kid wasn't involved I'd be all about it. Thank god she had a kid because that woman isn't good for me anymore.

    It does feel like things are falling into my lap, cheers to keeping it that way.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjon View Post
    Well man it goes like this. In my early teens I was in my prime getting chicks like mad. All the GF's I had fell into my lap I never chased them they chased me. Then I started to develop a type in my 20's and was always afraid to talk to that HB I felt was out of my league. Girls would be hitting on me constantly and I didn't know how to talk to them so I just walked away often times. When I did ask for chick's #'s it was totally natural just because they were making it so easy for me. I was always hooking up with chicks I worked with stemming off the aura I had from my teens into my early 20's. I was just doing everything naturally (except for occasional aa).

    Fast forward to my mid 20's I hit a massive cold streak and started to get AA a lot and girls stopped hitting on me constantly. Not being in school anymore girls seemed less frequently to be throwing themselves at me and I lost all confidence. I actually asked my friends "How do you get self-confidence?" I said I was a player but I was just a poser. Girls fell in love with me and then all of a sudden the fast flowing stream of chicks stopped.


    Struggle in Mid 20's
    Not really caring about girls at this time I was just living my life. But eventually I would see this "one" chick and would contract instant oneitis as we know and went total AFC for her. This caused 90% of the girls to run for the hills from the get go. I was coming on too strong but couldn't ever control my feelings. I always felt nervous around these girls I liked, would say stupid stuff to qualify myself, and never had the guts to ask them out just asked for their #'s in a very weak "I'm Mr. Right" kind of beta behavior cuz I never owned my own identity and just acted like a freak around girls I liked but normal around everyone else.


    I was getting my feet wet again back in the player stuff and started hitting on Church girls. They gave me the shaft said I was not pre-selected and said to "Never talk to them, never touch them, and never approach them again." I almost walked out of the Church that day because they told my friend which created a lot of drama. It was the most emotionally damaging experience in talking to girls ever. So I am keeping it on the DL there. This lead me back to the Club scene, Bar Scene, and day game.


    The Cold Shoulder and my Awakening
    To give you an example of this AFC behavior I walked into the mall one day and saw a HB9 working and fell for her immediately and got oneitis. Started going there a lot, always thinking hours on end about what to say and always acting weird around her saying dumb things, not being myself, etc. She rejected me hard and it was the straw that broke the Camel's back that lead me to become a PUA.

    Becoming a PUA and why I became one
    First set was a nightmare absolutely horrendous. I will never forget the immense fear the night I finally decided to start approaching really hard at my favorite Club. I watched a bunch of pick up videos by all the gurus and stuff on youtube for Club approaches and PUA lingo and ideology to get me ready. Shoot I had the worst fear before I even got in the building like way too out of my comfort zone like no way I was going to enjoy it. I started approaching hard and started getting better and better. My first night hitting it hard after watching all those pick up videos I thought Pick Up was impossible LOL and that I will never get good. Looking back I realize I am getting very good and just suck a little bit at times but way better than I ever could have imagined.


    Now my AA is mostly gone after doing 40 sets now I have a few things I am working on like delivering killer openers, my inner game, and closing. I have fun now and actually love approaching to cut the cards when girls start flirting with me and hitting on me I don't fail to notice it anymore I actually call them on it. Like telling them they are coming on to me, or hitting on me, and they just love it. I have a hard time passing sh!t tests but when I am in a good mood I am killing it and sh!t tests don't even pop up on my radar because I am just Alpha. Sometimes on a bad night I can be really desperate and start using bad openers which kills my sets sometimes since I am not doing what I do normally which is feel them out and weed them out.


    Now when I like a girl I realize it and don't think anymore oh "she's the one" I just think "she's the girl of my dreams" (very rare), or I like this broad or I need to get to know this one or I don't like this one. Now I am less desperate and I don't call girls like crazy anymore I lose interest pretty fast in the ones I am not really into. Now I am doing this because I love the game and love the feeling of passing a sh!t test, getting a make out, getting girls to chase me, overcoming a girl that's playing hard to get by playing hard to get back. And of course I just want to get good at it to feel good about myself so I can be that guy that makes myself proud. I have never fully gone out with no regrets yet. But I envision a day will come where I will feel totally Alpha totally 100% regardless of outcome and feel like a champ. I leave with #'s, make outs, IOI's, but still often leave feeling like a chump because I missed a K-close, I missed an F-close, I missed a girl dropping hints, etc. One day I am hoping that won't happen and as of now I feel like I am a lot more in control of myself by having fun and not feeling like I have to impress all the time.


    But really I used to be so out of control now I just lose control during a bad opener, a bad set I let get away from me, etc. So I need to work on my recovery methods too. But that's why I am a PUA because I am doing it because I need to prove to myself I am not a chump. Still a work in progress mate. I do it now because I don't want to be afraid anymore to talk to that HB I feel is my type. So now I have more confidence and can talk to HB9's and get their #, get them to do kino on me, get them to kiss me, etc. Just have to work on getting better at closing overall. When I am on my game I can approach an HB9, do 5+ sets a night killing it, and just own it and that's what I love about it.
    Well I guess that disproves my theory that if you get girls when you are in school you are pretty much going to be a natural for the rest of your life.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by Loudou View Post
    Well I guess that disproves my theory that if you get girls when you are in school you are pretty much going to be a natural for the rest of your life.
    socialization happens within a context(high school for instance), if you suddenly change that context (say move into adulthood) you have to adapt your socialization to that context.

    in order to stay good with women you have to keep adapting to an ever-changing social context (environment)

    the ultimate pua skill is simply adaptability


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