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    Default I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Comment telling me your story on why you wanted to be a pua/good with women. I want to be inspired and also learn why people begin to game in the first place

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Pua helps you with the ladies yes, but I find it is better for self improvement. Learning how to be your best self socially weather you are gaming a Hot Babe, interviewing for a job or just out and about improving your social dynamics improves your life in general.

    I started learning game to learn how to be my best self in all areas of my life.
    Learn to be a better person not a better player.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    I like that answer. It sounds like a cliché though

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Why only use it for one aspect? I just landed a much better job this week by improving my body language, re- framing myself and picking up on other people's mannerisms.

    That is why it is my tag line below I fully believe in it, if you aren't applying it across the board you game on chicks will never be as good as it could be.
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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Hell yeah, I agree with you 100% on that. I had my downfalls with just going for girl because I just wanted to have sex with them and would escalate quickly as soon as I or their number

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    i think there is only one reason guys turn to pua, because at some point in their lives they fell behind in a process known as "socialization". because if we all had perfect childhoods and our parents hadn't failed to teach us to be emotionally strong, confident, fun, charismatic, individuals who fearlessly pursue our dreams, none of us would be here on this forum or even have a need to do any major self improvement.

    society had left us behind and we all needed to catch up, pua is a way to sort of learn what our parents didn't teach us, to learn to be competent communicators. to learn self respect, to learn social competence, to be able to compete with and out-perform other guys in this game, to get our dream girls, and to one day meet someone special and have all the right abilities to keep and maintain healthy stable relationships.

    pua isn't just for getting woman either, its about learning the hidden code of society, about learning to make a difference and learning to find our place.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    i think there is only one reason guys turn to pua, because at some point in their lives they fell behind in a process known as "socialization". because if we all had perfect childhoods and our parents hadn't failed to teach us to be emotionally strong, confident, fun, charismatic, individuals who fearlessly pursue our dreams, none of us would be here on this forum or even have a need to do any major self improvement.

    society had left us behind and we all needed to catch up, pua is a way to sort of learn what our parents didn't teach us, to learn to be competent communicators. to learn self respect, to learn social competence, to be able to compete with and out-perform other guys in this game, to get our dream girls, and to one day meet someone special and have all the right abilities to keep and maintain healthy stable relationships.

    pua isn't just for getting woman either, its about learning the hidden code of society, about learning to make a difference and learning to find our place.
    This totally!

    I know I got into this because I really struggle socially. For whatever reason, I never developed the social skills required to make friends and start relationships.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    Comment telling me your story on why you wanted to be a pua/good with women. I want to be inspired and also learn why people begin to game in the first place

    Well man it goes like this. In my early teens I was in my prime getting chicks like mad. All the GF's I had fell into my lap I never chased them they chased me. Then I started to develop a type in my 20's and was always afraid to talk to that HB I felt was out of my league. Girls would be hitting on me constantly and I didn't know how to talk to them so I just walked away often times. When I did ask for chick's #'s it was totally natural just because they were making it so easy for me. I was always hooking up with chicks I worked with stemming off the aura I had from my teens into my early 20's. I was just doing everything naturally (except for occasional aa).

    Fast forward to my mid 20's I hit a massive cold streak and started to get AA a lot and girls stopped hitting on me constantly. Not being in school anymore girls seemed less frequently to be throwing themselves at me and I lost all confidence. I actually asked my friends "How do you get self-confidence?" I said I was a player but I was just a poser. Girls fell in love with me and then all of a sudden the fast flowing stream of chicks stopped.


    Struggle in Mid 20's
    Not really caring about girls at this time I was just living my life. But eventually I would see this "one" chick and would contract instant oneitis as we know and went total AFC for her. This caused 90% of the girls to run for the hills from the get go. I was coming on too strong but couldn't ever control my feelings. I always felt nervous around these girls I liked, would say stupid stuff to qualify myself, and never had the guts to ask them out just asked for their #'s in a very weak "I'm Mr. Right" kind of beta behavior cuz I never owned my own identity and just acted like a freak around girls I liked but normal around everyone else.


    I was getting my feet wet again back in the player stuff and started hitting on Church girls. They gave me the shaft said I was not pre-selected and said to "Never talk to them, never touch them, and never approach them again." I almost walked out of the Church that day because they told my friend which created a lot of drama. It was the most emotionally damaging experience in talking to girls ever. So I am keeping it on the DL there. This lead me back to the Club scene, Bar Scene, and day game.


    The Cold Shoulder and my Awakening
    To give you an example of this AFC behavior I walked into the mall one day and saw a HB9 working and fell for her immediately and got oneitis. Started going there a lot, always thinking hours on end about what to say and always acting weird around her saying dumb things, not being myself, etc. She rejected me hard and it was the straw that broke the Camel's back that lead me to become a PUA.

    Becoming a PUA and why I became one
    First set was a nightmare absolutely horrendous. I will never forget the immense fear the night I finally decided to start approaching really hard at my favorite Club. I watched a bunch of pick up videos by all the gurus and stuff on youtube for Club approaches and PUA lingo and ideology to get me ready. Shoot I had the worst fear before I even got in the building like way too out of my comfort zone like no way I was going to enjoy it. I started approaching hard and started getting better and better. My first night hitting it hard after watching all those pick up videos I thought Pick Up was impossible LOL and that I will never get good. Looking back I realize I am getting very good and just suck a little bit at times but way better than I ever could have imagined.


    Now my AA is mostly gone after doing 40 sets now I have a few things I am working on like delivering killer openers, my inner game, and closing. I have fun now and actually love approaching to cut the cards when girls start flirting with me and hitting on me I don't fail to notice it anymore I actually call them on it. Like telling them they are coming on to me, or hitting on me, and they just love it. I have a hard time passing sh!t tests but when I am in a good mood I am killing it and sh!t tests don't even pop up on my radar because I am just Alpha. Sometimes on a bad night I can be really desperate and start using bad openers which kills my sets sometimes since I am not doing what I do normally which is feel them out and weed them out.


    Now when I like a girl I realize it and don't think anymore oh "she's the one" I just think "she's the girl of my dreams" (very rare), or I like this broad or I need to get to know this one or I don't like this one. Now I am less desperate and I don't call girls like crazy anymore I lose interest pretty fast in the ones I am not really into. Now I am doing this because I love the game and love the feeling of passing a sh!t test, getting a make out, getting girls to chase me, overcoming a girl that's playing hard to get by playing hard to get back. And of course I just want to get good at it to feel good about myself so I can be that guy that makes myself proud. I have never fully gone out with no regrets yet. But I envision a day will come where I will feel totally Alpha totally 100% regardless of outcome and feel like a champ. I leave with #'s, make outs, IOI's, but still often leave feeling like a chump because I missed a K-close, I missed an F-close, I missed a girl dropping hints, etc. One day I am hoping that won't happen and as of now I feel like I am a lot more in control of myself by having fun and not feeling like I have to impress all the time.


    But really I used to be so out of control now I just lose control during a bad opener, a bad set I let get away from me, etc. So I need to work on my recovery methods too. But that's why I am a PUA because I am doing it because I need to prove to myself I am not a chump. Still a work in progress mate. I do it now because I don't want to be afraid anymore to talk to that HB I feel is my type. So now I have more confidence and can talk to HB9's and get their #, get them to do kino on me, get them to kiss me, etc. Just have to work on getting better at closing overall. When I am on my game I can approach an HB9, do 5+ sets a night killing it, and just own it and that's what I love about it.

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjon View Post
    Well man it goes like this. In my early teens I was in my prime getting chicks like mad. All the GF's I had fell into my lap I never chased them they chased me. Then I started to develop a type in my 20's and was always afraid to talk to that HB I felt was out of my league. Girls would be hitting on me constantly and I didn't know how to talk to them so I just walked away often times. When I did ask for chick's #'s it was totally natural just because they were making it so easy for me. I was always hooking up with chicks I worked with stemming off the aura I had from my teens into my early 20's. I was just doing everything naturally (except for occasional aa).

    Fast forward to my mid 20's I hit a massive cold streak and started to get AA a lot and girls stopped hitting on me constantly. Not being in school anymore girls seemed less frequently to be throwing themselves at me and I lost all confidence. I actually asked my friends "How do you get self-confidence?" I said I was a player but I was just a poser. Girls fell in love with me and then all of a sudden the fast flowing stream of chicks stopped.


    Struggle in Mid 20's
    Not really caring about girls at this time I was just living my life. But eventually I would see this "one" chick and would contract instant oneitis as we know and went total AFC for her. This caused 90% of the girls to run for the hills from the get go. I was coming on too strong but couldn't ever control my feelings. I always felt nervous around these girls I liked, would say stupid stuff to qualify myself, and never had the guts to ask them out just asked for their #'s in a very weak "I'm Mr. Right" kind of beta behavior cuz I never owned my own identity and just acted like a freak around girls I liked but normal around everyone else.


    I was getting my feet wet again back in the player stuff and started hitting on Church girls. They gave me the shaft said I was not pre-selected and said to "Never talk to them, never touch them, and never approach them again." I almost walked out of the Church that day because they told my friend which created a lot of drama. It was the most emotionally damaging experience in talking to girls ever. So I am keeping it on the DL there. This lead me back to the Club scene, Bar Scene, and day game.


    The Cold Shoulder and my Awakening
    To give you an example of this AFC behavior I walked into the mall one day and saw a HB9 working and fell for her immediately and got oneitis. Started going there a lot, always thinking hours on end about what to say and always acting weird around her saying dumb things, not being myself, etc. She rejected me hard and it was the straw that broke the Camel's back that lead me to become a PUA.

    Becoming a PUA and why I became one
    First set was a nightmare absolutely horrendous. I will never forget the immense fear the night I finally decided to start approaching really hard at my favorite Club. I watched a bunch of pick up videos by all the gurus and stuff on youtube for Club approaches and PUA lingo and ideology to get me ready. Shoot I had the worst fear before I even got in the building like way too out of my comfort zone like no way I was going to enjoy it. I started approaching hard and started getting better and better. My first night hitting it hard after watching all those pick up videos I thought Pick Up was impossible LOL and that I will never get good. Looking back I realize I am getting very good and just suck a little bit at times but way better than I ever could have imagined.


    Now my AA is mostly gone after doing 40 sets now I have a few things I am working on like delivering killer openers, my inner game, and closing. I have fun now and actually love approaching to cut the cards when girls start flirting with me and hitting on me I don't fail to notice it anymore I actually call them on it. Like telling them they are coming on to me, or hitting on me, and they just love it. I have a hard time passing sh!t tests but when I am in a good mood I am killing it and sh!t tests don't even pop up on my radar because I am just Alpha. Sometimes on a bad night I can be really desperate and start using bad openers which kills my sets sometimes since I am not doing what I do normally which is feel them out and weed them out.


    Now when I like a girl I realize it and don't think anymore oh "she's the one" I just think "she's the girl of my dreams" (very rare), or I like this broad or I need to get to know this one or I don't like this one. Now I am less desperate and I don't call girls like crazy anymore I lose interest pretty fast in the ones I am not really into. Now I am doing this because I love the game and love the feeling of passing a sh!t test, getting a make out, getting girls to chase me, overcoming a girl that's playing hard to get by playing hard to get back. And of course I just want to get good at it to feel good about myself so I can be that guy that makes myself proud. I have never fully gone out with no regrets yet. But I envision a day will come where I will feel totally Alpha totally 100% regardless of outcome and feel like a champ. I leave with #'s, make outs, IOI's, but still often leave feeling like a chump because I missed a K-close, I missed an F-close, I missed a girl dropping hints, etc. One day I am hoping that won't happen and as of now I feel like I am a lot more in control of myself by having fun and not feeling like I have to impress all the time.


    But really I used to be so out of control now I just lose control during a bad opener, a bad set I let get away from me, etc. So I need to work on my recovery methods too. But that's why I am a PUA because I am doing it because I need to prove to myself I am not a chump. Still a work in progress mate. I do it now because I don't want to be afraid anymore to talk to that HB I feel is my type. So now I have more confidence and can talk to HB9's and get their #, get them to do kino on me, get them to kiss me, etc. Just have to work on getting better at closing overall. When I am on my game I can approach an HB9, do 5+ sets a night killing it, and just own it and that's what I love about it.
    : I think you messed up at first because it was school game( in school you know people and it's not much of a challenge so of course you was cocky and felt like the sh1t). But you noticed how quickly that changed when you went on your cold streak aka the challenge of the real world. Now you actually have to work to get what you want, there's no easy going anymore, work hard and get better.. Now your cold streak with turn warm, and then boom!! your arse will be burning up! ( you'll be on fire if you already aren't right now. That's the type of story I like being inspired by

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    Default Re: I want to hear some stories about why people game

    Quote Originally Posted by marvilo View Post
    : I think you messed up at first because it was school game( in school you know people and it's not much of a challenge so of course you was cocky and felt like the sh1t). But you noticed how quickly that changed when you went on your cold streak aka the challenge of the real world. Now you actually have to work to get what you want, there's no easy going anymore, work hard and get better.. Now your cold streak with turn warm, and then boom!! your arse will be burning up! ( you'll be on fire if you already aren't right now. That's the type of story I like being inspired by

    Yeah LOL guess I was trying to revive a dead horse and relive my school days. I think if I can really just start owning it and walk up and be like bam this is it now deal with it. When I am like that girls go nuts for me. When I go up half-arsing it they always reject me and it hurts. I literally can see myself going up with total intention and free of outcome would be the most fun I could have. When I am trying too hard I am getting invested and rejections hurts bad but when I have just a little bit of attitude I am getting a lot farther. But when I get too submissive I always lose the set. I really want to be burning up just right now in a downward spiral due to low number of times I'm going out.

    But come Summer I am going to be hitting day game & Night Game harder than ever (but not too hard LOL) and just not holding back. There is a very fine balance to game by not being overly cocky but also not overly weak. Trying to strike that balance to heat up as you said so to speak.


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