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    Default Help!!!! need to learn from the best of the best!!

    I talked to my older cousin about this yesterday.. My problem is that I give up on talking to girls too easily( I think it's neediness). First I escalate too early with sex through texting. And even if they are freaks I end up out naughtying them( I know that word doesn't make sense). But when I go too far they stop texting me. Any thoughts on that? An the second problem is that I'm not parientnand I don't know how to play the long term game. I want my cookies now, not later( get what I mean.) it often scares girls and make me seem like a creep/ the guy who only wants to get in my pants. I know the problem yet I don't learn from it... Anyone help!!
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    Default Re: Help!!!! need to learn from the best of the best!!

    These are just problems beginners have and they are both attributable to poor calibration.

    A good way to deal with these problems in the beginning is to mirror the girls behavior. For instance, if you are escalating, only escalate to her previous level or one step above it. Never take a jump that feels risky because you're obviously not reading the situations properly right now and you need more practice with that.

    As far as "wanting the cookies now," you can also use mirroring to deal with this. For instance, if you find yourself texting too much, start only texting in proportion and time as she is texting. This will help you calibrate to the HB's limits. Also, try to disconnect from the end result as much as you can. Instead of focusing on the end goal, focus on the experience as a whole. Focus on enjoying yourself and learning as much as possible. If you can get as much enjoyment out of the process as you do out of the end result, you'll be less inclined to push for the end too soon.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Help!!!! need to learn from the best of the best!!

    Hmm I understand a little of what you're saying
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    Default Re: Help!!!! need to learn from the best of the best!!

    The Duke is right. Everyone is in a rush to the goal, but neglect the experience of the journey. You have to look at things as a lesson instead of a failure.

    One thing I did was take everything as my fault. Didn't matter what it was. So because I looked at it as my fault, it means that I have the power to learn from it and change it. So I did.

    Anther thing is to try and view her reality. She's a woman who's constantly bombarded by sexual offers from men. She doesn't care about getting sex. She can get it whenever. She wants sex from a high value man. One that makes her emotions run wild. You do that by putting her on an emotional rollercoaster about you. By being a challenge. By choosing the right moment to make her feel special because you noticed something unique about her. And I'm not talking about her bj lips. Understand her world and you will have an advantage.
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