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Thread: The appropriate steps to take before asking a girl out?

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    Default The appropriate steps to take before asking a girl out?

    There is this girl that works at the desk of gym that I like. I'm not quite sure if this is Hired Gun territory or not, but I am leaning towards no. Anyways, I have pretty good social proof at my gym, the owner and almost all the staff knows me by name and I have conversations with them too.

    I worked on some really light rapport with this girl just so I have something to work with, but I am guessing I shouldn't go much further in rapport until I get some stronger IOIs? As of now the IOIs I got were kind of weak, she giggles and smiles when I talk to her and she asked my age and what I do for work. That's about it. She's contributing a little bit to the conversation, but she has yet to contribute a lot or start a conversation with me (unless she needs me to check the mens room to see if anyone is in there so she can clean it). She also knew what time I would come in before I started talking to her.

    Here is my plan:

    1. Increase Social Proof even more. This way I can bring up social connections in conversation with her and her co-workers so it sorta seems like I am in her social circle.

    2. Run a lot of dhv routines. I'm thinking a lot of funny stories and places I traveled too? She is also preparing for a bikini competition and since I am very well versed in exercise and dieting I thought I'd share my thoughts and opinions on that matter.

    I think I want to do those until I get more IOIs. The big one I'm waiting for is for her is for her to ask me what my name is. While she's asked me before it was only after I asked her and it was a long time ago. She never addresses me by name, so i am assuming she doesn't remember it. I'll keep my eye out for other ones too.

    Anybody got any DHV routines that would be appropriate for the situation. Maybe I should Cube her or should I save it for later?

    Please tell me if I am doing anything wrong or if I can be doing something else on top of it. I am sarging and approaching other women to improve my general game, but this is a long term sarge that I want to work on.

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    Default Re: The appropriate steps to take before asking a girl out?

    Since she is doing the bikini contest ask her what she is doing as far as leaning out ? How many calories per day? What's she eating? Does she cook it herself?

    Just get HER to talk about HER self. You will begin to build even more rapport. Listen more and talk less. Let her do most of the talking.

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    Default Re: The appropriate steps to take before asking a girl out?

    Quote Originally Posted by dave_xxx View Post
    Since she is doing the bikini contest ask her what she is doing as far as leaning out ? How many calories per day? What's she eating? Does she cook it herself?

    Just get HER to talk about HER self. You will begin to build even more rapport. Listen more and talk less. Let her do most of the talking.
    Ok. I guess I am torn between different schools of thought. I know some PUAs advocate rapport building early, but I know Mystery and some others say that you shouldn't build rapport until after you know she is attracted. Thoughts?

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    Default Re: The appropriate steps to take before asking a girl out?

    Just let her talk and look her in the eyes as she talks. Look for IOIs

    As you are building rapport ask her to turn around so if you were judging her at the competition what you would be looking for. Maybe neg her.

    People love to talk about themselves and their hobbies. Let her do that and every once in awhile jump in and guide the conversation. Ask her if she has already picked out her outfit? What does it look like? How often does she practice her posing?

    When you are talking to her acknowledge others who you know in the gym who walk by. It's more social proof.


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