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Thread: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

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    Default I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Soooo i'm a girl.! And i can't help but noticing how many times i've seen guys liking a girl but still, won't express it or won't express it good! Guys at bars or pubs checking out women, exchanging smiles and glances and yet won't go talk to her, or even in the closer environment, work etc.

    So what is it that you guys find hard when it comes to getting the girl you want? Where does this process go stuck?

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Everybody has their own sticking points. For some it's aa, others it's inner game, closing, or getting the attraction going.

    Either way it's a game and every girl is different so I can't make the same approach 100 times I have to tweak just a little each time. It depends on how I feel. But I would say normally aside from when I am out sarging like a boss and approaching everything in sight I would say the times when I don't approach HB's it's because I am not in the mood or struck by AA.

    Usually I'll see an HB in Target, walking to the tanning salon, in the Post Office, or at Work and won't approach because it feels awkward or I have nothing to say. I guess that's one of my sticking points is having AA when I am just roaming around not looking to pick up chicks and HB's pop up and because I am not ready they vanish.

    Like let's take my birthday for example. I was at Red Robin having an argument with my roommate and I see an HB8 as I walk in checking me out hard. Her BF was sitting right there but she was fixated on me for some reason. I walk over to our table and my roommate is laying in to me for wanting to move out because he won't let me have girls over or have a girlfriend.

    This girl keeps looking over at me staring me down hard. The BF leaves and she stays and keeps looking at me giving me the signs to approach but I didn't approach because my roommate put me in a bad mood and gets mad when I talk to girls. So it just depends but I am definitely moving out to prevent a situation like this from happening again. Literally if I talked to her and started hanging out with her he would have got pissed and told me we need to leave and then lectured me for an hour about how it was "our night" and then he wouldn't have eaten that night either.

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    I left a response in the other thread that has almost an identical title. I think my response applies to both of the threads, wouldn't mind hearing what you think of it.
    Why become someone else when you can become a natural?

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Christina (if that is your name), have you ever cold approached a guy you think you are interested in meeting? If you have then congrats, if not give a shot and you might understand. You are essentially putting yourself in a very vulnerable position because you are allowing another person to judge you. I don't think most people have the confidence and self-acceptance to truly not care what others think of them.

    While I realize women have their own struggles in the dating world, I think looking pretty is rather easy compared to building the confidence and self acceptance that is required for a man to be considered attractive. It can't be bought or given, and for the most part, there is no one really that can help you obtain it.

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Also girls tend to develop social skills better then men. I think for a given age the average male is behind the average female in the social skills department.

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    look, not every guy has the self-confidence, or the social skills to pick up girls. as a matter of fact most guys here on the forums are introverts who are trying to come out of there shell. its not easey to just go from having never talked to, or dated any woman to being a complete alpha male. i'm here on this forum to help other guys out who struggle with these problems that arise from not being raised to be sociable.

    you can sortof think of this forum as a support group, when things go wrong for one of the guys, they tell us what happened and we break it down into exactly what happened and what they can do to improve themselves.

    thankyou for at least being somewhat understanding of our ways, many girls think pua is a bad thing or that we are using mind control or something. but really we're just a group of guys who are dedicated to self-improvement for the betterment of our lives (and of course our sex lives)

    though I must admit it is sad how unconfident so many of the guys these days are. I wish you luck on your journey and hope that you find an attractive alpha male who can care for you

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Whatever meteora said. I think he spoke my mind perfectly.

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Loudou, I disagree with some things you said.

    Firstly, Looking pretty is easy? Do you mean it's easy to pull when you look pretty? Me and a friend were in town the other day and passed this stunning girl. I clocked a group of guys looking at her and I honestly thought they'd approach her. Instead they detoured around her to look at her ass and mumbled remarks about how "fit" she was. They didn't have the balls to actually talk to her. They saw me waltz up to her immediately and say "Hey, I just saw you here looking amazing and I wanted to meet you..." we started talking and it went it's coarse. I'd never forget the look the guys gave me. She told me she doesn't get hit on that much and never gets approached in the street by someone so calmly complimenting her then hitting on her. She seemed pretty confident, But a lot of attractive girls are in fact very shy. I think that's because of the way that a lot of guys express their opinions on their looks. I used to think that a girl can pull just by looking hot, Now I'm starting to see that it makes it harder for her cos it intimidates men.

    Secondly "I think looking pretty is rather easy compared to building the confidence and self acceptance that is required for a man to be considered attractive. It can't be bought or given, and for the most part, there is no one really that can help you obtain it."

    -this is an interesting point, and I can see where you're coming from. But as someone about to begin a career life-coaching people to obtain these exact qualities I happen to disagree. Take Joe Bloggs, Internet business exec, spent his life sat behind a computer desk and now at age 33 has decided that it's finally time to start trying to talk to people and even maybe find a girlfriend, though he's probably not confident enough to foresee that sort of outcome. There are ways that a person can accelerate the process, people that understand social dynamics and the Psyche of someone that has been in that Mindset - me. I was once there and now I can walk up to anyone and confidently start a conversation and hit on them. I'm not saying I always close, But it's never gone badly. Now I have started training people to understand how I made these changes in myself and thus giving them the ability to do it within themselves. It's quite amazing seeing someone go through this change, from a social delinquent to a smooth talking natural.

    From my experiences, I would say it is possible to give someone these attractive qualities. Or, at least, to give them the tools to take those qualities for them self.
    Why become someone else when you can become a natural?

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    I agree meteora. You said it perfectly. I am an introvert so I can relate. I think the hardest thing for me was that I had to accept that being an introvert was something women find unattractive. I mean think about it I had to accept that my personality, my IDENTITY was unattractive. I used to be overweight and not take care of myself physically and changing that was much easier than the change I am trying to go through now.

    The thing is too, I don't even want to really be a pua (though I am open to change) I just want to be a normal guy that has relationships with women that I find attractive.

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    Default Re: I'm a girl-what is that u guys find difficult in picking up women?!

    Quote Originally Posted by Stigward View Post
    Loudou, I disagree with some things you said.

    Firstly, Looking pretty is easy? Do you mean it's easy to pull when you look pretty? Me and a friend were in town the other day and passed this stunning girl. I clocked a group of guys looking at her and I honestly thought they'd approach her. Instead they detoured around her to look at her ass and mumbled remarks about how "fit" she was. They didn't have the balls to actually talk to her. They saw me waltz up to her immediately and say "Hey, I just saw you here looking amazing and I wanted to meet you..." we started talking and it went it's coarse. I'd never forget the look the guys gave me. She told me she doesn't get hit on that much and never gets approached in the street by someone so calmly complimenting her then hitting on her. She seemed pretty confident, But a lot of attractive girls are in fact very shy. I think that's because of the way that a lot of guys express their opinions on their looks. I used to think that a girl can pull just by looking hot, Now I'm starting to see that it makes it harder for her cos it intimidates men.
    I would tell any nice looking girl to simply go out by herself (I have done it, so i am aware if how awkward it is) and make herself available. I guarantee a guy will approach her after being out a couple times.

    I was referring more to the fact that almost any girl, if she stays in shape, grooms herself, and puts on a little makeup, will be at least an HB 6.


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