Why I turned to direct daygame
*I wrote this very late one night while I was drunk so apologies if it's just not useful at all!*
When I first started trying the PUA stuff I was always in night clubs using very convoluted techniques to "hook" women into a conversation that didn't say, as Chriss rock puts it "how 'bout some dick?". It's a sound principle once you've spent hours reciting lines and memorising routines, patterns and then spent weeks or months practicing them on women. Then you might start getting some numbers. I used to think this was magical and the best thing I had learned. Admittedly I got some numbers, But there were a couple of things that bothered me.
Firstly, I have entered this girl's life seemingly innocently - I was then faced with escalation and transition, calibrating and forgetting the whole thing when something unexpected happened.
Secondly, Did I really want to date the types of girls I was meeting in the clubs? Every now and then there would be that one girl who's friends dragged her out that night but really didn't belong there. For me, I was looking for different types of girls to the ones surrounding me. You may be happy with the girls you can find in these places, and good for you if that's the case. But give this a go if you haven't already...
The answer to these issues I found was direct daygame. I was hesitant at first. "What so I just waltz up to a girl in the street, stop her, tell her she's hot and then expect her to not slap me? HAH!" were my exact words... I kind of feel bad for saying that now.
The first time I tried direct daygame was on a beach. A beach full of men and couples. Me and a friend had set out with the sole intention of day gaming, and have fun while we were doing that. We got to the beach and there were hardly any women that didn't look like they were with boyfriends... Like, it was pretty blatant they were all together. We sat and juggled and sparred for a while until I saw a set of two cute girls sat on their own off to one side. I offered my friend a chance to open them, he was happy to let me bite the bullet. It went as follows....
Me - *Walked around to the side of them, slightly in front but not comfrontationally... Stood, looking down at them with my sunglasses on* "Hey, sorry to disturb you but I was just sat over there with my friend, from behind you two looked pretty cute so I just had to come over and see if I was right..." *look at both of them for a moment..* "hmm... Yeah you are aren't you." with a soft laugh.
Them - *blushing* "Aw, thank you." *looking a little nervous.*
Me - "SO how are you today?" *At this point i took off my sunglasses and crouched in front but off to one side, non confrontationally, looked at one of them* "You look pretty nervous, are you alright?"
The nervous one - "Yeah.. this just never happens, so....
And there it is!!! Two hot girls sat on the beach on their own, surrounded by men... And "This never happens." They actually saw my eyes widen and laugh.
Me - "Honestly? Like.. never?"
Nervous one - "Well, it's happened like.. a couple of times in my whole life... But I usually told them to fuck off..."
Me - *playfully*"Ok, so how long have I got before you tell me to fuck off? Minutes? Seconds?"
They both laugh and look less nervous, then tell me to keep talking. They explained to me that the sort of men that usually hit on them are arrogant and egotistical, whereas I was calm and respectful. They were very open to that. SO much that they invited me to sit with them and enjoy the beach in their company.
This was the only set we approached that day, give or take a few bad attempts out of desperation to at least make a few approaches to help loosen nerves for future outings. But this one conversation single handedly changed my perspective on direct daygame.
The next day we went to Bristol city centre and I personally got the numbers of two friends who were together when I approached them, I'm seeing them soon for the date we arranged, And the waitress that served us our lunch, and a lot of hugs, kisses, interesting conversations and most importantly... Confidence!
I now know that girls aren't used to being hit on in the street, in the shop, in museums, anywhere out in the day time that doesn't involve alcohol and brutes. If I am the only girl that has ever approached that girl sincerely and told her exactly why I approached her, my chances with this girl have just gone up to an astronomical level. Obviously there are other factors like body language, Conversation etc... But when I hit on a girl in a night club I have hit on the same girl as about thirty men that night. I don't think I'll ever head to a club to game again. My game is on the streets.
I will give you the very simple opener I use, which is actually from Sasha Daygame who is an absolute legend....
Approach confidently but not intimidatingly, stop to the side but a little in front with a smile....
"Don't take this the wrong way or anything.. (pause and if possible make a little suspense) But you're really hot(with smile, releasing suspense), so I had to just come over and meet you...!" Continue conversation from there once she's stopped blushing and giggling. I say this to women in many variations now and the response is incredible.
What convoluted routines? What DHVs? She immediately knows what you want, and most likely she'll like the compliment. Try some daygame if you haven't already, and if you haven't already then try it direct.
If this concept is new to you, please do try it. I know it's difficult to approach people so direct, and I will be uploading some advice to help build to this sort of open in a graduated way, But please do let us know how it goes in the comments stream.
Why become someone else when you can become a natural?