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    Default what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    I am going to ask this girl out i am thinking of doing something along the lines off
    Ok its final were going on a real date, You pick the place it can be anywhere, And when I say anywhere I mean anywhere, but heres the catch if the bill is not over 40 bucks then you have no option but to give me a kiss at the end of the date. I will pick you up at 5ish at your house on sat? ya Saturday.

    feel free to adjust the wording around i am going to text this the next time she sends me a text or calls me

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    with no typos ofc =) does it make me seem like tooo much of a big shot or something? i just dont want to go to mcdonadlys or something u know?

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    Why don't you just ask her out directly, day, time and place. Then use game to get the kiss?

    Your approach won't work. I wouldn't use it.

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    why wudnt it work? lol i thought it was golden?

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    You are letting her pick the place so you are coming across as non confident by deferring to her to make the decision.

    The $40 part is just strange. In order to not kiss you she will just run the tab over $40.

    Most likely she will think that you are trying to buy her time and that's what an AFC would try to do. That's how she will treat you.

    Be confident and remember that you are the prize and she is someone that will be lucky to be getting time with you. You have to have that attitude if you want to be successful. If she doesn't go along then move on to the next one. There is almost 3.5 billion women in this world. Don't get hung up on just one.

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    =) thanks! man thankfully i didnt text her it wud of been a mess and your right thanks!

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    OMG wow Dave literally just saved your life.. hahahahaha

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    I really don't like to come on here to be condescending or make myself feel better by being the big "I'm better than you" bully man that often occurs in these type of forums, but in this particular case, I must be honest.

    I had to log in after a 6 month "vacation" from here to honestly and respectfully say that that type of text should NEVER be sent to any woman, period.

    I'm not here to say that I'm an expert, but I've messed up enough times and learned enough to recognize a bad text (if it's bad enough) when I see one.

    I remember making the same type of mistakes (and probably still do) so I understand how it feels to say something and think it sounds phenomenal in your head but ends up being disastrous once put out into the real world.
    ____________________ ____________________ ____________________ ____________________ __________

    Dave_xxx gave the best reply, but lets see if I can add a little more to point out what's wrong with this text:

    "Ok its final were going on a real date, You pick the place it can be anywhere, And when I say anywhere I mean anywhere, but heres the catch if the bill is not over 40 bucks then you have no option but to give me a kiss at the end of the date. I will pick you up at 5ish at your house on sat? ya Saturday."

    * First you told her to pick the place. NOT GOOD. (When asking her out) you're supposed to be the leader who takes her on a romantic adventure. Therefore, you pick the place and time - and make sure it's a fun, interesting place. If I must, I MIGHT say "I know a place, you pick the time" - but only if I HAVE to. It also helps if you know how to use your presence to make things fun and interesting (and achieving this is much easier with girls who connect with your personality style). Also, have a few OTHER "back up" places in mind to take her to afterwards if all things go well. I normally don't take girls out for dinner and use dinner as my "BACK UP" place since obviously people will eventually get hungry over time. And when I'm hungry, it's "Hey I'm hungry. Lets go eat." Then we go. A good invite out could be something like "Hey, hope the past couple days have been awesome for you! Mostly been a mixture of work and adventure on this end. Glad the weekend's here. Listen, we should grab an ice cream or something and chill. What's your schedule like this weekend / next week?" Honestly, I don't even know if that's good, but one thing I know is that it's not bad. It will work much better than the original text presented in this thread. You also told her she could pick "ANYWHERE!!!" This means she could even pick a place you don't like but you'd accept it just to be with her (probably even if it means you'll be sitting there watching her eat while you either drink water or you'll be forced to order something you don't care for and try to eat it). Then, on top of that, she can pick the most expensive place in town (or out of town, etc.).

    * You told her if the bill is NOT over $40 she will have no choice but to kiss you. Maybe in your mind it seems like you're communicating that you have money and can be the provider and that you are the prize she gets in the end if she doesn't underestimate your finances. However, in the real world, that text translates to something along the lines of "Oh great. I have a free pass to avoid having to kiss him simply by getting more of what I want out of him." And that's just ONE possibility of what she may be thinking.... Bottom line, NEVER DO THIS. I know you're learning, but women don't care that you're learning or that you don't know how to "text properly" yet, which sucks because there will never be any understanding or sympathy for those of us who are simply good people trying to get things right. But that's just the way it is like most things in life. You go to a job interview and do/say the wrong things, it doesn't matter if you know that you're the 1st or 2nd best person for the job. What matters is what the person making the decision to accept or reject you thinks. I'm not one to give you any tips on how to get a kiss, but... normally I just go for the cheek (whether they know it or not) so if I end up getting the cheek, it doesn't matter. Even if their lips are pointed directly at me, I just go with "cheek mentality" so if they do turn their head, there is NO awkwardness or disappointment since I originally wasn't aiming for anything more. The worst that can happen is what I'm originally going for anyway. The best that could happen is I end up getting the lips (or she "corrects me" and "nonverbally suggests" that we do it again the right way). Just some tips from a somewhat experienced guy on the autism spectrum. Like I said, I'm not a huge expert or guru or anything.

    * If you want to pick her up at a certain time and day, just say it straight up. No "Saturday? ya Saturday." Just saying the basic "Saturday at 5" is enough to show her you're the leader who's thoughtfully taking her for a good time, and anything good that happens that day is a result of your (spontaneous or premeditated) decision making.

    And being someone who's on the autism spectrum, I was THE KING of doing/saying things that seem right in my mind but come across as weird / creepy to others on the outside. So keep in mind that I'm not someone looking down on you but simply just trying to help you as I myself also continue to learn from others. I'm not perfect, but I am enjoying time with a lot more females than ever before, even if I'm not getting laid and catching STD's 3, 4, or 5 times a week. And notice how I never used any words/phrases like "Be Alpha" or anything and simply just told you to be the leader who *takes* (or invites) her on an adventure. Just focus on having fun. If you end up with "female friends" by just having "fun" at least you have them around to help you get more female friends (that could possibly eventually lead to something with one of them). I don't want to get into sexual escalation at this point, so for now have fun and enjoy your time with women as you learn.


    Hope this helps.

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    Default Re: what do you guys thinking of asking this way

    I really don't like to come on here to be condescending or make myself feel better by being the big "I'm better than you" bully man that often occurs in these type of forums, but in this particular case, I must be honest.

    I had to log in after a 6 month "vacation" from here to honestly and respectfully say that that type of text should NEVER be sent to any woman, period.

    I'm not here to say that I'm an expert, but I've messed up enough times and learned enough to recognize a bad text (if it's bad enough) when I see one.

    I remember making the same type of mistakes (and probably still do) so I understand how it feels to say something and think it sounds phenomenal in your head but ends up being disastrous once put out into the real world.

    Dave_xxx gave the best reply, but lets see if I can add a little more to point out what's wrong with this text:

    "Ok its final were going on a real date, You pick the place it can be anywhere, And when I say anywhere I mean anywhere, but heres the catch if the bill is not over 40 bucks then you have no option but to give me a kiss at the end of the date. I will pick you up at 5ish at your house on sat? ya Saturday."

    * First you told her to pick the place.
    NOT GOOD.
    You're supposed to be the leader who takes her on a romantic adventure.
    Therefore, you pick the place - and make sure it's a fun, interesting place.
    It also helps if you know how to use your presence to make things fun and interesting (and achieving this is much easier with girls who connect with your personality style). Also, have a few OTHER "back up" places in mind to take her to afterwards if all things go well. I normally don't take girls out for dinner and use dinner as my "BACK UP" place since obviously people will eventually get hungry over time. And when I'm hungry, it's "Hey I'm hungry. Lets go eat." Then we go. A good invite out could be something like "Hey, hope the past couple days have been awesome for you! Mostly been a mixture of work and adventure on this end. Glad the weekend's here. Listen, we should grab an ice cream or something and chill. What's your schedule like this weekend / next week?" Honestly, I don't even know if that's good, but one thing I know is that it's not bad. It will work much better than the original text presented in this thread. You also told her she could pick "ANYWHERE!!!" This means she could even pick a place you don't like but you'd accept it just to be with her (probably even if it means you'll be sitting there watching her eat while you either drink water or you'll be forced to order something you don't care for and try to eat it). Then, on top of that, she can pick the most expensive place in town (or out of town, etc.).

    * You told her if the bill is NOT over $40 she will have no choice but to kiss you. Maybe in your mind it seems like you're communicating that you have money and can be the provider and that you are the prize she gets in the end if she doesn't underestimate your finances. However, in the real world, that text translates to something along the lines of "Oh great. I have a free pass to avoid having to kiss him simply by getting more of what I want out of him." NEVER DO THIS. I know you're learning, but women don't care that you're learning or that you don't know how to "text properly" yet, which sucks because there will never be any understanding or sympathy for those of us who are simply good people trying to get things right. But that's just the way it is like most things in life. You go to a job interview and do/say the wrong things, it doesn't matter if you know that you're the 1st or 2nd best person for the job. What matters is what the person making the decision to accept or reject you thinks. I'm not one to give you any tips on how to get a kiss, but... normally I just go for the cheek (whether they know it or not) so if I end up getting the cheek, it doesn't matter. Even if their lips are pointed directly at me, I just go with "cheek mentality" so if they do turn their head, there is NO awkwardness or disappointment since I originally wasn't aiming for anything more. The worst that can happen is what I'm originally going for anyway. The best that could happen is I end up getting the lips (or she "corrects me" and "nonverbally suggests" that we do it again the right way). Just some tips from a somewhat experienced guy on the autism spectrum. Like I said, I'm not a huge expert or guru or anything.

    * If you want to pick her up at a certain time and day, just say it straight up. No "Saturday? ya Saturday." Just saying the basic "Saturday at 5" is enough to show her you're the leader who's thoughtfully taking her for a good time.

    And being someone who's on the autism spectrum, I was THE KING of doing/saying things that seem right in my mind but come across as weird to others on the outside. So keep in mind that I'm not someone looking down on you but trying to help you as I myself continue to learn. I'm not perfect, but I am enjoying time with a lot more females than ever before. And notice how I never used any words/phrases like "Be Alpha" or anything and simply just told you to be the leader who *takes* (or invites) her on an adventure.

    Hope this helps.


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