Re: phone call:the next step
I don't know if this will apply to you but, I'm more confident in video chats compared to phone calls.
Seeing the person in front of you is almost face to face talk minus Kino, which is much different than phone talk.
On a phone call you need to be really smooth to let the convo going, because you won't have much material. However, in video chat, when you freeze, you can comment on something around her or something about her appearance and keep it going.
Edit: Style's phone mission in his book "The Rules of the Game" really gets you into the phone game. It's about successfully getting 5 movie recommendations from random numbers. I tried it when I first got in the game and it was really intense, I was so nervous but after I completed it, phone calls became a piece of cake... You should try it.
It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.
It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.