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    Default struggling with shy girl

    There's this really shy hot girl at school.
    Every time I'm near her she stares at me without smiling curiously
    I don't see her around often at all.
    I made small talk a few times to which she responded well, then I added her on facebook
    I've finished school now and my only contact with her is fb,
    so I sent her this message in an attempt to get something going...:

    Me: [name] gd luck with exams! I'm sure u'll do well
    Me: I know we dont really speak lol

    To which she actually didn't respond at all; what do I do now?
    my first instinct would be to just try again a week later and inspire her into a conversation
    ultimately I should have made my move in the real world when it was staring me in the face


    Any feedback/similar experiences would be massively appreciated

    Thanks guys

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    Default Re: struggling with shy girl

    Quote Originally Posted by Fesaz View Post
    Me: [name] gd luck with exams! I'm sure u'll do well

    Exams? Boring. You don't want to be that guy who keeps her reminding about boring stuff.

    Me: I know we dont really speak lol

    Why? You sound desperate here. You both know you didn't speak much, but don't remind that to her. In fact, make her forget about that thought and show how you can make even a fb chat funny and entertaining.
    Your main issue is that, you failed to build attraction with this girl when you had the chance. Instead, you just stared at each other and had pep talks. Now you're out of school and your only connection is via Facebook.

    You need to set up a meeting with the girl. But since you failed to build attraction at the meeting, it's gonna take some effort to do that over fb chat, because she won't meet up with you unless she feels like she trusts you or connected to you at some level.

    What you're gonna do is, if she ever responds to you, get rid of the boring talk. Show that you're an interesting and funny guy. That will build some attraction. Don't brag about yourself. Just put some dhv stories when you get the chance. But keep the talk mainly about her. As you know, everyone loves to talk about themselves. You can play some question games to get her into talking.

    That's all I can provide. I'm improving my text/FB Game myself so, for further help, you'll need other guys' assistance.

    It would be good if you could provide more detail about the girl and your small talks though.

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    Default Re: struggling with shy girl

    'I know we dont really speak' - here you are just creating it worse for yourself by bringing the awkwardness to her attention that you dont speak yet you've added her on fb and are trying to talk to her..

    Whatever you do DONT send another fb message trying to talk again, she didnt reply to your the first time for a reason, she isnt just going to change her mind overnight. To progress here you need to talk to her face to face, use some dhv and try and be fun, maybe make a witty comment to her or approach with a fun opener.

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    Default Re: struggling with shy girl

    Thanks for the feedback Wolf24 & Zeus101.
    Gladly I didn't respond to her after that.

    I can see how I didn't exactly inspire her into a conversation from the start (boring & desperate). I'll learn from these mistakes.

    This looks like a dead end from here unless she does respond or I see her in person again.

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    It would be good if you could provide more detail about the girl and your small talks though.

    - Last time we didn't really talk. I went up to the printer in the library and it wasn't working for like 5 mins... she could see my efforts.. so I asked the librarian for help. When the librarian came around she got up and told HER what the problem was, I was a bit dazed tbh, she then turned to smile at me and then went and sat back down again..

    - before that it was a mutual friends b-day. I was stood against a wall near the entrance. She came and stood by the wall next to me where I couldn't see her, I took this opportunity. Spoke about why she took a year out of our school to work before coming back again, she asked about my grades, whether i'd been to any parties..
    The convo died and someone else came to talk to her, I went elsewhere because I didn't wanna seem readily available


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    Default Re: struggling with shy girl

    Great attitude bro - learn from your mistakes

    When this other person came over to talk to her, you should have been dominant and proved your alpha-male status, and not be a push-over. You should have greeted this over person, been friendly to them to gain captive the attention of both of them. Wait till you see her again in person though and try and engage in some more interesting conversations!

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