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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Hey man personally you don't want to be on the same level with that guy.we just need to build your relationship and raise your value in her eyes due to the recent developments.

    ur wife is attracted to you and even though that guy is there she may or not be considering him either way lets focus on fixing the little loopholes in your relation.
    as said previously the dynamics have changed even before this was brought to the table.i will be given you a few series of texts to sent.rod we have no time.if we do not make use of momentum now we may not go far.WE WONT LOOSE.
    i understand its not easy and must commend you on that.. but since its not that hard too lets channel the energy into fixing...once frames are established in this dynamic.a switch may go in her brain and she will decide, when its updates i want you to stand as authority.

    1.hey i take that mojo comment back.to be honest one of the few reasons am.. is yur unique..
    This reframes it as there something about her thats why yur still on her.she knows on some level you like her.this should downplay the fact that you framed it otherwise.send it as it is.it is highly juiced.when you do you may blog about it .i personally don't like to overwhelm with details.when you send resist the urge to call her if you may.

    Attraction is in levels when there a problem with one bit it could kill the whole hierarchy.you have handled her well enough don't let her off. rem struct.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    I am assuming because you are a taking action kind of guy and don't really mind having this girl in yur life you may have implemented that crucial step.

    The next line of text that will be inc is to have to her focused on the fact that it almost all about you.

    I have a clear picture of..doing this my terms

    This goes ahead to frame the relationship the direction we want it.Since shes engaged she will expect what you have to present.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Of course I don't mind having her in my life....she's the mother of my son and my only marriage. I'm going to follow the two strategies. I haven't thrown it(rekindling our marriage) out there because of the no contact for the past year. The only things ive said are that we should get along....but since she thinks im trying to manipulate her to get out of the attorney vacuum, it never touched her on an emotional level. The big arrangement of flowers is going to be done. Just saying "looking forward to the next chapter.....join me for dinner." I have alot of nurses on that floor who are my supporters.....they will be on my side and will tease her in a good way. Then i will give her space. But I feel like I really need to throw it out there.....it's been easy for her because I haven't done this. I've been a terrible communicator throughout the whole marriage.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    I'm catching up.....today I sent her what you recommended....

    "amazing thing happened...have to tell u one day"

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    I'm going to follow the two strategies. I haven't thrown it(rekindling our marriage)
    but since she thinks im trying to manipulate her to get out of the attorney vacuum, it never touched her on an emotional level.

    What you feel is Tension.whenever you feel that relax.you seem to have a problem with her indicators.Does she stay in the car still,did you kiss her the last meaning finally she is allowing herself to be alone with you.has she laughed at some of your jokes or text or phone convos with you.did she compare you to yur son by implying that he mirrors you thus sub communicating and accepting you as the leader of her son which women who are annoyed at their ex husbands may not do.did she exchange stories with you about the baby last.did you notice she deosn't need her mother cause they both respected what you did via structures.

    "looking forward to the next chapter.....join me for dinner."
    Bad way of showing intent after you hurt her. this may throw you in a loop where she is thinking about it. cuz it makes her think.with att she may feel instantly.this in itself is not a bad thing but is not good for this dynamic and generally AFC.focus more on str

    I have alot of nurses on that floor who are my supporters.....they will be on my side and will tease her in a good way. Then i will give her space. But I feel like I really need to throw it out there
    Don't focus on this.probably yur girl told them about yur new energy.either ways handling yur relation may have gotten you that.DON'T SLACK OFF.let them tease her but make sure you dnt dlv by sending flowers yet.
    remember in one of yur text exchanges she implied taking it slow.she didn't want to go for the sons birthday cause she thinks you guys are moving too fast.in yur dyn she is might be waiting for what is coming next ALREADY.

    "amazing thing happened...have to tell u one day"
    this is not a bad text at all it good but currently we are in a different dyn.you caused some loopholes.so the exact text should do

    txt 1:"hey i take that mojo comment back.to be honest one of the few reasons am.. is yur unique.."

    txt 2:"I have a clear picture of..doing this my terms"

    once she got that on her phone yur GOLDEN.do that and cum the next step.that guy may have dlved but we need to act FAST.

    I knoe you wont tell yur female friend or anyone you on this f...resist that urge if you may.handle it if you haven't..wil update thread.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    The ioi's by text are the only things. A pop kiss on the cheek?....she was just being polite. She hasnt shown any ioi's in person....it seems the opposite. She is evasive and indifferent. She has made the last 3 exchanges herself(monday, wednesday, and friday) but remember i had him for 2 weeks vacation and a cruise. She had to take her other son (15y/o) to school at 7am near my house. The mother was a buffer to keep me away during divorce.

    I haven't hurt her really. If i did it was a very long time ago and she seems over it. She was celebrating 2 days after the divorce and ridiculing me by text about how "independence is beautiful", asking if there was anything she could do to help me pass this phase in my life.

    This whole process has been easy for her becausei was forced into no contact for 8 months during the domestic violence and divorce. I didnt/haven't been able to make an effort and i have not touched on her emotions. I have not broken the pattern of how i used to treat her towards the end of the marriage. Trust me.....I see how she is and you can't. She is indifferent. There is no hate from her. The roses are to spark ANY emotion....to remind her of the better man she remembers because I used to do that and it made her feel like a queen. It wont be dlv. My friend told me she was smiling all day from the other guy's flowers. The note will say something friendly. Dinner is too long or may be intimidating. A drink or lunch or coffee or something short is what I will ask for. If she says no at least I know where she stands and I made the effort to put it out there.

    Text 1....that mojo comment was so long ago I doubt she remembers.
    Text 2.....I like better.

    She hasn't communicated today at all....ignored the "amazing thing happened" text I sent today.

    I went out with another girl today....an old friend that I reconnected with in March and was intimate with, but I stopped talking to her in June when I started to want my ex back. I need to plan on moving on. If the other guy sent flowers it might mean there is a sexual relationship already. She won't say anything....she is very private about her personal life. That hurts....but I won't react and push her away.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    The mother was a buffer to keep me away during divorce.
    Hmm, the mother was being protective if she is not there then her services are no longer needed.you stated even after divorce the mother met you at the door once or maybe other times.Todd you made progress.

    I haven't hurt her really. If i did it was a very long time ago and she seems over it. She was celebrating 2 days after the divorce and ridiculing me by text about how "independence is beautiful", asking if there was anything she could do to help me pass this phase in my life.

    Its ok you think this way to console the fact that you disrespected her and her family which in itself is a huge rejection.even if she seems over it ..you have taken care of that on some level its still there.you disgraced.. and that hurt her at least.yep she doesn't hate you anymore.

    The roses are to spark ANY emotion....to remind her of the better man she remembers because I used to do that and it made her feel like a queen. It wont be dlv. My friend told me she was smiling all day from the other guy's flowers.
    That guy has a different dynamic which will be handled later if you may.you said there was no contact for months why do you think an attractive woman will be just there...i had thought of that but we both know with attraction else nothing matters barely.

    A drink or lunch or coffee or something short is what I will ask for. If she says no at least I know where she stands and I made the effort to put it out there.
    I have seen the throw it out there even if it makes me cringe whatever she decides i don't care dyn.
    pertaining to this it may backfire.you like a girl you show intent you escalate.Period.Most times after doing that you still find yourself thinking about her and you know what it may be too late.hold the Tension.don't mind an f-close.


    Text 1....that mojo comment was so long ago I doubt she remembers. <-girls do not forget sometimes.Girl admitted in a brief convo she sometimes check her phone for texts, and the love of my life num 1(yep i have few oneitis in my life) told me she read my comback text few times.Todd if you said mojo she remembers it.handle it.
    Text 2.....I like better.( one follows the other)

    She hasn't communicated today at all....ignored the "amazing thing happened" text I sent today.
    the current being taking care of is mojo text 1 and txt 2 as it is.you stated in that text you will tell her one day.well she may be waiting.follow up with the two.what we must care is the current situation on ground.be in the moment.knoe you won't sway.

    I went out with another girl today....an old friend that I reconnected with in March and was intimate with, but I stopped talking to her in June when I started to want my ex back. I need to plan on moving on. If the other guy sent flowers it might mean there is a sexual relationship already.
    Attractive women have options.its not shocking that you left her and another man is on(chasing).heck women may be approached anytime.i put it to you that girl you recently called may have had another man in her life(going after her too).buying flowers sounds like courtship type behavior she might be orbiting him.
    He may be making her think.pull her in more via structs.do not let another man intimidate you if you may.rem woman have options but attraction pulls them barely

    hey i understand how you feel somewhat it may be a bit emotionally draining at this point but however if you don't want her in your life anymore shut her off.send the flowers, it may backfire either you wont give yourself closure but may feel to pursue.it may be too late.since you don't mind heres is what may happen

    Rod sends a bigger flower
    You become the same level with him.
    You have to compete with him and he may win.why?he was the nice guy who might have been there for you wife.you gave up your authority role to step into a AFC box that bigger than you.Thats what may happen, and yes the flowers is dlv.You did it once you know know it wrong.anything that deosn't help attraction wise should be stayed away from.

    You are very close todd.you may let her go.PEACE

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Just saw her at the door during baby exchange. After some small talk about the baby i straight up asked her if she wanted to do lunch. She said no she was busy. We said bye. I walked away but came back and knocked on door again and asked her for coffee...she said she had things to do and maybe some other time. There was no emotion that i could see on her part.

    The other girl is going thru a divorce. She tells me the things her ex does and its crazy how he is....tracking her, breaking into her car. Its been a great lesson in what NOT to do, but this woman has been over his BS for years. She wants alot from me but ive withdrawn cuz of feelings for ex.

    What am i ready for?....closure? That sucks....want my wife and family back.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    I called Carol to see where she was at...to talk. This was our first real conversation in a year. She said she feels uncomfortable. She heard my apology last month and didnt need to talk about it again. She said we aren't a couple anymore and she just wants to get along and doesnt want to confuse THE BABY with us doing things together. She feels uncomfortable with the things I've been texting and trying to be too friendly....inviting her on a cruise. She wants distance and asked that I respect her request. She wants me continue to seek help thru counseling. I listened throughout. I then tried to explain a few things...i explained the low Testosterone i had and my actions because of it. I said there wasn't anything catastrophic in our marriage like infidelity or abuse or things like that, and how we havent talked in a year due to the way things blew up, lawyers....she said she didn't want to rehash the past. She said she doesn't trust me but said it without any emotion...I asked if it was the divorce or before(not sure what she thought). She thinks we should work on trust so if she needs a day with the baby she can easily ask me for it and things like that. She was pretty emotionless about it...the indifference I feared.

    So it's done....now I can grieve and get it out of me.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    If you want success you need to follow the struct through and through.
    would you agree she once budged into the alaska cruise and is now finding fault with it..why?you went a bit off with her this morinin.that way you asked her is not what you must follow. you admitted you screwed up.so i will leave it as that.

    And you do all these and you think sending flowers that guy did might be a big deal.You need to copy my texts word for word when i tell you to.i know how its like to.. i handled that...with a broken heart.
    she texted me talking about how i should be good and she really cares - always

    Todd grieve as much as you want power lies in you.you have opportunity to give this a fair shot.What you did was not something that may not happen so if you are willing to send the texts as it is(when i say so exactly as it is), brainstorm and learn more about what to do in general then you must ACT.

    those sh1t tests IOIs are real , agreeing to go to alaska is real.don't seek her friends opinion at workplace cuz she might have told them. you caused an emotional reaction and you can do so AGAIN with struct.
    If you keep doing the wrong things eventually she may view you as AFC and it may be hard to pull through.stop being reaction seeking on she wasn't emotional.most girls will show you via other ways even though there are some who will blatantly tell you..the ones that do take time.most girls are reserved.
    the last few times a girl told me i was special and she loved me very much i was running game!i can reveal what i was on but lets get your in first.it is still salvagable if you follow structs and don't go afc i know you wont.

    if you used sorry everything was ur fault in apology we need to start from the top.
    for now t5ext her this:lokk don't try to formulate or re word do exactly that.you need to stop her in her tracks now sort of.

    "Hey carol, i thought quickly about what you said and considered a few options.
    you enabled the side of me that doesn't like to force women into doing what they may not.i think i acted this way for different reasons.currently a friend of mine wants me join him and a group of his friends for an activity.he recommended me to one of his female friends ..just a 23 year old braziilian.
    he does not know much but he said he mentioned me in one of his convos and now she doesn't mind a meetup.few days ago he hinted the girl keeps asking about when the date is coming on.. and that reminded me of you.i would have gone into details but then..i take back the mojo comments plus all the friendly text i sent you.i have a clear..noticed something about you."

    send it and may blog about what happened, mostly her overall energy.either ways TAKE ACTION.







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