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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Bahhh don't be to hard on yourself man. She was your wife afterall, and she knew exactly how to push your buttons.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Hey man kudos to you on how you seem composed on some level.She seemed to have gone with it to get back at you.no name calling such as gold digger etc.
    you seemed to be enjoying the exchange.For now its the material and the girl..
    No contact?
    I don't see how this would work since you have a son.if she is not acting up don't push it.if you must ignore her and enjoy spending time with son do that.u may stick to brief short interactions.when a woman does something and is looking for a reaction theres something fishy.like why bother.either you don't need a Freeze Out.

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    No i wasnt enjoying it....it took everything i could muster to not go reactive on her, and i still think i did. She never blatantly ridiculed me during the divorce cuz she was under a microscope, but i feel like she wont hold back now. She's an independent, Columbian mother who was already married. This was my first marriage. I got raped in the divorce, but i paid her off to be "the man" and spare the mother of my son, my son, and myself.

    No contact isnt possible but i can ignore all her little bullsh1t pokes. Or use the "Sh1t Test" tutorial and laugh at it. I want to turn the tables by getting over her. Then if she comes back for something in 6 months i can tell her to fark off.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Quote Originally Posted by Doctodd View Post
    No i wasnt enjoying it....no contact isnt possible but i can ignore all her little bullsh1t pokes. Or use the "Sh1t Test" tutorial and laugh at it. I want to turn the tables by getting over her. Then if she comes back for something in 6 months i can tell her to fark off.
    Exactly what I was thinking. Glad you said it first. Just continue being the great father figure you are. I know you're hard pressed for time being a doctor and all, but use your downtime to better yourself. Hit the gym, get fit, eat right, start new hobbies, and practice pickup. Sounds like a lot, but it just takes baby steps. She might chase again if she sees that you've moved on. That's not your motivation though. You are self motivated, and are in this to better yourself and your son. That's it. Take the necessary time to clear your head, but when it's clear, GO! and never look back.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    No i wasnt enjoying it....it took everything i could muster to not go reactive on her, and i still think i did.
    Yep bet it was not easy on some level

    No contact isnt possible but i can ignore all her little bullsh1t pokes. Or use the "Sh1t Test" tutorial and laugh at it. I want to turn the tables by getting over her. Then if she comes back for something in 6 months i can tell her to fark off.
    Yeah thats the whole point stated you can't go no contact but focus on the main,because of the child.its good that you have made that decision for yourself to get over her but personally i don't like that fact that its about her(to get back at..).you could make it more about you.if you focus on doing this for her you may be invested in her and naturally find yourself slipping at timed moments gearing towards her.Motivation for a goal is very important center it around you.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Good advice....im still wanting to get the power back.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    it depends on what you really mean by power...

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    The power over her....i want her to be kissing my ass, to miss me....the reason we all come to this forum. So i can decide if i want her for my son's sake when the time comes.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Im been fucked up all week and weekend after court tuesday and after her ridiculing me on july 4th...."mente pollito" means little baby chicken mind....really pissed me off. I just need time to get over this emotion and clear my head. I have no problem hooking up if i want to....but im not there yet.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Better day today.....read a lot last night about framing and dhv.....she's been doing these things(purposely or not) our entire relationship(7years) . Not sure if cuz shes a type A control freak like me, or no father figure her whole life. Only when I would dump her would she change her tune over past 7 years. I dumped her about 5 years ago and when i finally said ok we can go back....she then said she needed time to think about getting back together. Even this weekend she would be lowering my value with comments or actions. Right after divorce she was pissed about something I did with the baby....instead of replying with anger I told her a few hours later i would support her and maybe she was emotional cuz of divorce. She replied divorce was a relief and if there was anything SHE could do to HELP ME pass this stage in my life. If that ain't DHV and lowering mine I don't know what is. Instead I kinda went beta saying I would help her get a house so she and my son could be more stable. She says "that's the man I remember".

    Time to turn the tables and play this game......Im done with her....i never whined for her to come back or anything like that...i wanted the divorce from the beginning....i said i wanted to try again for our son's sake not for me....im going to slip that in whenever i can and i'm going to start negging her and DHV'ing and still be superdad.


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