Hmm its good that she allowed herself to see you one morning.its a good sign.don't take this personal but i think this woman is feeling attraction for you and is giving you a few sh1ts tests. you seemed to have nailed them which is good but don't forget the part where you must never seek her opinion and the frames
LMAO......ok hun, you are right <-- It looked like your were seeking approval or had bought into her frame of eating into your days then you cutting for her.A way to handle this is first of all recognize it as a Sh1t Test.Remember we talked about the part where you convey that if you don't spend time with your son some its not a big deal sort of.This will be key to bringing her in.
On Jul 17, 2013, at 2:37 PM, Carol
Yes your days are the same. So you are planning to
cut your vacation short so I can see him?* <--This is where the sh1t test is pertinent it looked like she was trying to see whether you will get back at her for cutting through.sounds like someone may want her ex husband to cut thier vacation short on some level too, but its mostly the other.Don't go ahead and feature the the shortening vacation part in an exchange.
Handling sons sh1t test final parts
maintain a strong frame she is not really right for sending your son away for 13 days...take son when your time is over text her implying you decided to keep him for a week and if imply if she wants time back she comes and spend time with your son at your place either than that you're keeping him for a while.add smilie face emocon
say you have been with son till duration of time ends on the day it ends
..I decided to keep him for a week woman if you want time you could come spend it with him here either way i may keep him for a while (add smilie face)
two things may happen either she gets pissed calls or texts you back or be the bigger one so to speak and let go either way text back saying you were messing with her and that she can come back in 3 weeks.then the next line say you got vacation ahead so she can come for him that day.
lol, well you can come back in 3 weeks..
vacation ahead so come for him today.
the goal is to covey your unaffected but won't take that.
whenever she is on her vacation try not to contact her.at best don't unless she says something.
Are you ok?....you capitalized HIM....I get that you are still emotional.....The divorce has been a good thing but you are still lashing out and trying to manipulate. *I dont feel a need to contact you so relax. *
You sensed when something is wrong.you sought her approval.the divorce was not easy don't ask her again.you are both attracted but there are some things you must do.One element i can guarantee is attraction as the father figure in her son life thats HUGE.and we have not talked about the rest yet.but theres still work to be done on this.Don't call your son during vacation if you must call her and talk to her then ask of son see him for a bit talk to mum then hang up.