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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Not much to say.....she called to speak with the baby and then asked if I would rearrange my work schedule to accommodate her time (2 weekdays a week) with the baby. My schedule is flexible so this was a point throughout the custody battle to give me equal time with my son. I got flashbacks of her old manipulative self....but i agreed.

    Also I have a hearing next week regarding child support and alimony payments that are really just attempts by her attorney to milk this case some more, and I don't think she is in the dark about it. In a nutshell, they are saying I didn't pay full payment the month before the divorce by saying a payment mailed on May 31st should not count as a June payment. The "alimony" part is because her attorney didn't want to accept a credit card for a $10,000 payment because he wants me to pay his credit card fees of about $300 and I told him to go fark himself because the agreement doesnt specify how I should pay except in US dollars.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    My schedule is flexible so this was a point throughout the custody battle to give me equal time with my son. I got flashbacks of her old manipulative self....but i agreed.
    Hmm interesting!If you feel like she is requesting you to do something that makes you cringe a bit,ask for something in return if you meet that condition.
    Something along the lines of:
    HB:could you pls do x for me
    Rod Pua:Say pretty please

    if she says that ask her for details and then slip in the request.in your dyn..
    ask her to pick you up something on her way to your place like groceries,plastic bags,simple minor stuff,even two apples.
    make the excuse you wanted to get them but couldn't (cool calm tone).

    if she agrees tell her you will think about it.then you may go ahead and do her request.don't be surprised if she buys them just say cool and brush her arm lightly..
    Do this sparingly with requests that make you cringe a bit

    Also I have a hearing next week regarding child support and alimony payments that are really just attempts by her attorney to milk this case some more, and I don't think she is in the dark about it.
    The attorney is presenting it and she is viewing it as a Sh1t Test to you thats why shes probably quiet or may be in.either way the mediation sh1t test you handled via structures is coming back to you sort of.which tells me theres attraction on the girls part.when you fail a sh1t test, example the way you complained on mediation(normal but i know you wont..) and you hit these dynamics it comes back to you, again sometimes.

    In a nutshell, they are saying I didn't pay full payment the month before the divorce by saying a payment mailed on May 31st should not count as a June payment.
    Go in unaffected and pay what you must.instead of being angry which i know you will not let them give you good reasons why you should pay for such a thing, with a simple relaxed tone.never get angry or display or else it counteracts the fact that you are supposed to be calm.if you pass this sh1t test in the girls eyes.attraction will be amplified.after the reasons are given frame it as you are paying because of two.

    a.let them give you two good reasons, then in the middle of the lawyer talking after a few good ones interrupt and say look you know what am doing this for one reason.dont state it.this should make the fact that you care about yur ex real to her.don't go explaining yourself.its as if you are willing to take of things and you are actually doing it.

    The "alimony" part is because her attorney didn't want to accept a credit card for a $10,000 payment because he wants me to pay his credit card fees of about $300 and I told him to go fark himself because the agreement doesn't specify how I should pay except in US dollars.
    Another thing you can do if confronted on that again is politely decline in a cool calm voice.ex.well you know what..i won't take care of that at this time.unless of course it part of..
    why would i pay an extra 300..i would have but its not official
    the above implies you don't take that but at the same time your not angry.which is key because you don't want her thinking it has to do with her on some level.remember AMPilify ATTRACTION.

    In a nutshell this is a shot for you to get sh1t test handled whilst maintaining composure by not lashing out..you also passed the sh1t test by agreeing to swap schedule instead of fighting but then you may use the structure if you feel like her request is a bit..

    really got something to let on here but for now you may text her this: i have a clear.. why?
    We want to work on bringing this woman out with you.but first we must run game(lightly).she may question you, just say you wil let her on that later.the goal is to make her subtly aware of the fact that u may be interested in pursuing her.sometimes when they think you gone cold..plus it suites the direction headed.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Today's exchange by text....

    Me: (sent her a pic of just my arm with bicep flexed and my son sitting next to me on the couch)...."Chillin"
    Carol: Omg!! Too cute you do that same pose.
    Me: Don't get all mushy on us...lol...not sure how to read into that ;-)
    Carol: nothing to read he does gestures n poses like you. He looks cute to me all the time
    Me: ok nerdball....just teasin. Have a great weekend. Chow
    Carol: lol you guys as well. Great weather. I'm not a nerd ;-)

    .....left it right there since its Friday afternoon

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    You obviously have some attraction going which explains how you kinda got away with seeking her opinion on that comment but overall you came back with nerd ball and had her qualifying herself and also mirroring your smile comment.

    Enjoy this bit let it get to you if you may but attraction has highs and lows, hence its amplification.curren tly the hate she may have felt for you has been handled on some level.
    two things you should hold yourself from communicating.
    Eagerness to see her during exchange.relaxed energy as if you don't get to see her you don't mind.let your body do this.
    The need to take things to the next level at a very fast pace.your IOIs may be increasing soon i know you wont fall.


    overall this confirms an attracted woman and a huge bridge.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    pictures are worth a thousand words....




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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Hmm ..

    Carol: nothing to read he does gestures n poses like you. He looks cute to me all the time <-- She takes son gestures ties it into you..she shouldn't have said that.she could have just gone direct into compliment(the baby).

    Carol: lol you guys as well. Great weather. I'm not a nerd ;-) <-- defending herself that she is not a nerd and adding the same emocon you used previously indicators attraction to me.she could have thrown an insult or something to even add that shows she is also been light sort of.

    You may be doubting thats not bad but then she is currently attracted on some level.knoe you wnt coil.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    not much going on....she seems a bit guarded since that text conversation last friday. Might be cuz i have a court date with her attorney about his fees in 2 days, and she is kept up to date on the status. I dont expect her to be in court, but she might. I dont discuss these things with her.

    She came without her mother to pick up our son at my door(first time) monday morning from 13 days of being with me. Monday was first day of school and my ex had to take her teenager to school at 7:20am...her mom was probably still asleep. She seemed uncomfortable or guarded.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    not much going on....she seems a bit guarded since that text conversation last friday.
    she took a big risk there by going with what you said probably she wanted a conversation.we will delve into that later.but then i know you will handle that.
    say something along the lines of i replied the last text but it indicates on my phone it was unsent. it was a nice way to end that day but then if you look at her text she also said great weather.which tells me maybe she might have wanted..if you have engaged her via text after the day something along
    sent text on(insert date here) indicates undelivered on..
    She was also seeking a reaction and probably you not getting back implied overtime she was.if you directly apologize it may be a bit off.


    Might be cuz i have a court date with her attorney about his fees in 2 days, and she is kept up to date on the status. I dont expect her to be in court, but she might. I dont discuss these things with her.
    I had wanted to write on this previously but escalation has to be delayed due to the dynamics.even if she is attracted right now.its almost like a court so you may go handle that then talk about her overall energy.remember shit test.calibrate.

    She came without her mother to pick up our son at my door(first time) monday morning from 13 days of being with me.
    Yep you followed the structures implemented and now she doesn't really have the hate as much.we talked about your request for the divorce threw her off. it good she went for it and thought she had won, we may use these dynamics for other things, but then she is attracted to you.

    Monday was first day of school and my ex had to take her teenager to school at 7:20am...her mom was probably still asleep. She seemed uncomfortable or guarded.
    Hmm it depends, it may be more of the nerdball thing.it may have shot her down overtime.whenever you come into contact with her and you can lightly brush her arm or stroke her cheeks slightly.On the hand she may have been on guard in person cuz she may have thought you wanted to reapt the kiss thing.we will talk more on how to..but overall you did well..even though thers a few things to handle

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.

    Court today.....she was there. We saw each other in waiting area alone and I went up to her said hi and gave her a kiss. She was not expecting it and was uncomfortable. I sat across from her for awhile....just us. Court was basically a tie. Whatever the result, it didn't matter cuz I went to "Peacock.". Engaged her after by calling but went to voicemail and left a message saying....

    1. My actions/words with her last week have nothing to do with court. It was me against her attorney and had nothing to do with her(I was obviously wrong cuz she was there).
    2. My whole intent today was to win and give her attorney fees to her. Didn't happen.

    She returns call with text.....I will post them.

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    Default Re: How to alpha communicate with new exwife.







    flirted with her....









    probably went too far with the last text


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