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Thread: Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

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    Default Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

    I dont want to be nervous anymore.
    Can someone give me a good opener to use that doesnt have so much pressure. Just a newbe line to get me started on building my confidence.

    Thank you all to who respond!

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    Default Re: Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

    Just use styles ocean opener I use that all the time and it is really easy

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    Default Re: Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

    I'm not going to give you an opener. Here goes why:

    Imagine this for a second. Suppose that you did have a great opener that you got out of this thread, and you saw a girl that you were prepared to use it on. You rip it out at her, and she laughs. However, you hit a brick wall as you realize that you have nothing to come after it. Either that, or the opener doesn't go as planned, and now you are really panicking as your hopes of success becomes like a star: burning brightly, but dead all those light years away.

    What you need is confidence, simple as that. This can come through much practicing in conversing. It can also come through some studying. Go check out Tyler Durden's Real Social Dynamics. It's a twenty hour lecture series, and it's all focused around inner game, which is most definitely your weakest point. Once you make it through the twenty hours of it, your whole mentality of women and the game will become revolutionized. This change will be more than enough to give you the confidence to approach women and rip out whatever you want, naturally and on the fly.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

    I agree with what the Swagman is saying.

    Follow his instructions. While you are going through Tyler Durden's videos, you should at EVERY chance you get with a female practice holding a conversation.

    This girl could be your neighbor, buddy's sister, your grandma, your cousin, store clerk, librarian, the girl at the fast food place or just about anyone. Try to prolong each conversation. Start at 15 seconds. Then up to 30 seconds and so on. Pretty soon you will be able to hold very, very lengthy conversations.

    I have talked to females that I have only met once , got their number and when I called them I talked to them for up to 8 hours in 1 night. They had to work in the morning but they didn't want to put the phone down. I offered to end the conversation but they wanted it to continue.

    My point isn't to brag about myself, my point is that I was a shy kid when I was 15. I refused to stand up in front of the class to present my project. I was willing to lose all marks on the project just so I wouldn't have to stand in front of the class. This was in the middle of the school year. I did very well in school but for public speaking I was willing to fail the class.

    My teacher, with 2 weeks left in the school year, told me that I had to speak in front of the class for 5 minutes or that I would fail the class. It was either an A+ or an F.

    To the credit of my teacher he told me that for the next 2 weeks that the very first question in every class would be mine to answer. He told me to stand up at my desk and give an answer that was 15 seconds or longer.

    Next class it was 30 seconds or longer and so on. The increase in the amount of time required for the answer kept progressing over the next 2 weeks.

    Long story made short, I did my presentation and I stood up there for more than 15 minutes. My teacher had helped me conquer my fear. I went well past the 5 minutes and I was talking confidently without looking at my notes.

    How does this help you?

    You can do the same by taking the very same small steps to build your confidence. Start with opening girls and who cares if you get blown out 2 minutes later. As long as you are learning from those mistakes and prolonging each conversation. You too will conquer your fear and get rid of aa.

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    Thumbs up Re: Why do i get s onervous approaching girls in college?

    Wow, that is some amazingly good advice dave. I was going to say something about how you should just try to push a conversation as far and meaningful as you can. Socializing brings experience. However, for the shy types, the antisocial, and the introverts, your strategy actually seems to be one of the best things I have seen on this forum. It's like taking baby steps, and those baby steps eventually lead to huge, long strides.

    I'd say rep+ for this my friend. Keep up the great content man
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X


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