I've been thinking about this for a while now. Put simply, the Alpha Male is the one whom everyone follows in groups. My question is, how does one do such a thing?
Based on what I've seen and read, the alpha male dominates every social situation, and is always the leader of the pack. To do such a thing requires the cooperation of all of his followers. However, it stands to reason that if the betas do not support the alpha male, they will work together to dethrone him and will successfully do so by sheer power of numbers, no matter how strong he is.
That being said, as an Alpha Male, you have to have a reason for other people to follow you. One reason is that people genuinely like you or trust you for whatever reason, and I'm assuming that's the angle that most self-help books cover. The other angle is to become so powerful that your followers cannot go against you without suffering extreme consequences, which is a lot less realistic except maybe if you were the President of the United States among a group of high school kids.
In a social situation, how exactly do you get people to "follow" you? The overall goal of any social situation is to create good vibes, which includes having fun. If everyone's too busy trying to have fun, then there shouldn't be any "leaders" or "followers", just a bunch of people hanging out together and having a good time. I would say that being the alpha male of a social situation is to be the person that everyone wants to talk with or be around the most. I dunno about anyone else here, but if I was at a party and I wanted to talk to one particular person, then this person is probably really important, interesting, or otherwise makes me feel good. If he is not important or interesting to me, I'm going to generally ignore him. I don't think most alpha males of smaller groups are famous, so he'd have to be quite likeable and assertive. Yet what I see often in the self-help books is that the alpha male seeks no approval of anyone else and lives in his own reality.
So, I'm guessing is that the Alpha Male is dominant and secure in his own reality, but is genuinely interested in other people - he doesn't kiss ass to gain approval, but he actually likes other people in that they are interesting or entertaining to him? And "other people" includes both men and women? Am I on the right track?