There's a new girl at my work who had to do a training shift with me, so I got to know her pretty well. We started flirting back and forth, and it turns out she has a boyfriend of 2 years. Didn't phase me, and I still got her number in the first 10 minutes of meeting her.
Start texting the next day, and when I invited her out to coffee over text..
Me: You are cordially invited to a tea party at my coffee shop later on today. The dress is semi-casual and your expected to bring a sense of humor.
Her: hmm the problem there is I work downtown all day, and while I could bring a sense of humor im pretty sure my boyfriend would prefer me to bring a taser or something similar.
Me: Well ___ can you not have guy friends?
Her: Well (her nickname for me), is that your only intention?
Then goes on about inviting me downtown with her girls if I can find a fake, which I dont have.
Me: I'm already busy late tonight, though if your still alive from tonight tomorrow will work
It continues on with eachother being busy. She started talking about her BF again and how he makes awesome steak. I said thats awesome, I het he's done a ton of breakfasts in bed for you, cleans, etc etc and do whatever you ask of him. Its always great to have that kind of relationship! I prefer to do little unpredictable surprises myself.
You're pretty good hey
Slightly putting him down but in a subtle way
No im just getting that off what you've told me, he sounds like a sweet guy, take that how you want lol.
She goes on about saying how he wouldnt like it if we hung out, but if we're both free we'll see.
Me: hahaha do you make all your friends submit an resume to him to got a tea party? Let me know if the boss approves Im writing an essay talk to you later
Her: Hahah you're a little different
Then offers help with my essay, and we tease and flirt back and forth some more.
She calls me randomly asking for a ride from the club downtown at 1 am(hours drive) and she's sober, so I said no but if you take the fast transit to ____ I can give you ride.Agreed and said would text me, but instead she calls and says her and her friends are taking a cab because they were pretty out of it. I said whatever have a good night, but she owes me a homecooked meal.
Over the next few days I pushed that she owes me a homecooked meal, and I didnt really get anywhere with it so I dropped it. Also joked I was going to find her worse photo on facebook and post it all over work. There was a portion where she was texting me and she said she was drinking red wine while naked in her bathtub (thats a decent ioi)
Now we move on to today and made two excuses not to have a coffee, first she was hanging with her mother, then realized it was bacholorette night. I called her out on it but didnt get any reaction, except sticking to the second one. Interestingly enough, however, she said she probably wont go to coffee with me unless it was after work when we get off at the same time. It sounds like she needs a reason to validate it to herself?
How is the best way of going about this?
I good friend of mine who is older and had success said Im going to have to wait until one night she is angry at her bf and decides to call me to F, but Im not sure how much more base work is needed, aswell as how do I keep the conversation interesting over an extended period of time (2 weeks) or more?
All help is appreciated.