First off I am a woman, so my advice needs to be taken from that, a woman's perspective. I love showing guys what to do and of course what not to do when it comes to meeting and dating women.
(When you are done reading this, be sure to watch my video called The Help Me Eyes)
So let's get started:
3 Ways to Avoid the friend zone
I am sure you have experienced "The Friend Zone" at least once in your life and understand that it is a very difficult place to maneuver your way out of.
The Friend Zone occurs when a person you want to be intimate with, has labeled you as Just A Friend. Awful right?
First let's talk about the WHY you are in the Friend Zone or have a habit of being placed there.
Reasons may include:
1. Being too nice, too sweet, too accommodating and constantly agreeing "Oh, yeah, exactly, totally, I completely agree."
2. Over complimenting
3. Being too eager
4. She has a boyfriend
5. Not all people are going to be attracted to you
6. You have not set up boundaries for what you will/will not accept
But the most common reason you are going to get put in the Friend Zone is because you are not demanding to be in any other zone.
I am going to tell you exactly what you need to not only avoid the friend zone but also get out of it if you are currently stuck!
You Need To Have:
1. Self Respect – The belief that you are worthy of great things
2. Confidence - The belief you will get what you want
3. Ability To Be Direct
1. Self Respect
Those with little to no self-respect for themselves typically end up in the Friend Zone for nearly all of their lives. This is because they are unable to believe that they are worthy of great things.
Until they are able to believe that they deserve great things they will not be able to ask for anything.
Try listing 5 awesome things about yourself. Don't be shy be honest.
These 5 things are reasons that you deserve respect, especially from yourself. Once you respect yourself others will follow.
Once you can understand and BELIEVE that you are worthy of great things the next step is to believe that you can get what you want. That means if you see a woman you want to be with you, there needs to be a belief that you will get her.
Again, if you don't believe it how is she going to believe it?
3. Ability To Be Direct
This is the physical part of the process. Once you believe that you are awesome and that others will think you are awesome as well, you have to figure out how to approach them to ask for what you want.
What you want is not the Friend Zone but intimacy, love, sex, relationship, dating. So ask for it, believe you're worthy of getting it and be okay if you don't.
No more beating around the bush and waiting for the perfect moment. That is putting your wants in someone else's control. Take control, be direct and ask for what you want.
For example, instead of asking "What are you up to this weekend?" say "I want to take you out this weekend." Direct. Yes or No. Then you know and you can choose how you want to move forward.
Once you work on the 3 things that I have listed and are able to own these attributes and put them to practice I guarantee you will never find yourself remotely close to the friend zone ever again!
Let me know what you think and if you have anything to add on to assist others. As a woman who has been on the other side of the "Friend Zone" I totally understand how frustrating it can be for men.
Be sure to check out my Youtube Video that shows you how to spot The Help Me Eyes.