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    Hi guys. I am approaching day game sets and I always asking myself question: When, after some rejections (or other reasons) I feel negative energy, frustrated and so on - should I continue approaching, or maybe it is better wait, until I reach a normal state? Problem is - of course I can still approach in a bad mood, but I can't create conversation, and as I resist and go further - my state only gets worse, and everyone feels it, so I have no chances. Is such practice usefull, or it is no worth to continue like this?

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    How about, each time you get rejected, you think of it as their lose to have a decent conversation with you ?
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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    I would say to still approach, easier said than done though. Dont make an excuse for yourself to not approach other sets. Who cares if that last set sucked and they laughed at you, they obviously werent worth your time anyway, their loss. Thats the mentality to go with. Go in thinking that she is the lucky one to even have opportunity to talk to you. Dont let yourself get into a bad state, or at least minimize the time you are there.

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Quote Originally Posted by Stasilho View Post
    Hi guys. I am approaching day game sets and I always asking myself question: When, after some rejections (or other reasons) I feel negative energy, frustrated and so on - should I continue approaching, or maybe it is better wait, until I reach a normal state? Problem is - of course I can still approach in a bad mood, but I can't create conversation, and as I resist and go further - my state only gets worse, and everyone feels it, so I have no chances. Is such practice usefull, or it is no worth to continue like this?

    Look at it like this you want to jump on the first girl that feeds you an ioi. Keep hanging around her and building attraction until it fades then close her. Jump on the next one if she rejects you and throws you an IOD jump on the next one right away to get those IOI's once you start going longer and harder to get the IOI's, the rejection won't matter because you are constantly being feed by your own internal system of inner game of running on the fuel of IOI's. If you start getting a lot of IOD's and focusing too heavily on all the rejection you will start pumping out negativity into new sets and carrying the loss with you. Just focus on the IOI's and keep getting more and more to keep your state up don't let the IOD's drag you down or stiffle your state. If you do this and get 10 IOI's in one day but 20 IOD's you will still be gaining momentum from the IOI's not focusing at all on any IOD's this is the way to keep your inner game tight.

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Thank you guys for your suggestions, but my question is little bit different. I mean, what can I do better, if I am already stuck into my negativity. I can't convience myself that it is their lose to have a decent conversation with me, because I know - in that state I can't maintain any conversation. I feel like paralyzed and can't be creative at all. It seems like it's no way out. All further approaches are doomed.
    Okay, answering my own question - I think, if this happens it is worth yet to stop approaching, to switch to some other activities, focus attention on other things, and when I feel relaxed and peaceful- continue approaching.

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Better to continue approaching, but change your Mindset at times by turning it from approaching to engaging in conversation. You might feel a little less pressure on yourself and minimize the negative energy you're feeling. If you swear off the approach phase, then you've essentially quit on yourself.

    You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Ok! I will just approach as more as possible, dont caring about outcome and then see what happens. Its the only plan I have

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    @stasilho...props to you for staying in the game...if an approach goes bad, stay positive. There's millions of sets out there and it's THEIR loss for not having a fun conversation with you.

    Keep it up bud and good luck!
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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Thank you man! I got realy useful advice here - to focus on the engaging in conversation, not on the approach as itself. It realy helps. I realised, that I only thinking about approach and actually don't want to have conversation. It's hard to do what you don't want. That's a reason for negativity. Because if I genuinely want to start conversation - my mind will help me to do that, not sabotaging me.

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    Default Re: Is it worth to approach if...

    Quote Originally Posted by Stasilho View Post
    Thank you man! I got realy useful advice here - to focus on the engaging in conversation, not on the approach as itself. It realy helps. I realised, that I only thinking about approach and actually don't want to have conversation. It's hard to do what you don't want. That's a reason for negativity. Because if I genuinely want to start conversation - my mind will help me to do that, not sabotaging me.

    As far as conversation goes focus on your routines Kino, dhv, (Timebridge & false time constraint when N-closing), Mini-bouncing to other places in the venue, NEGs, Flirty NEGs, Openers, Transition to Close when feeling ready to eject, Push-Pull, Hot & Cold, etc. That is so much material right there for you to talk about usually in a set all I have time for is Kino, DHV, Mini-Bouncing, Compliments, Negs, Flirty Negs, Openers, and Closing. The conversation part the women usually take care by talking about blah blah blah and you can start a thread on that. Also when gaming an HB I usually just say what's on my mind in between routines like about how much I drink, not getting drunk and getting a DUI, dancing (while doing Night Game), a little convo built in here and there, a compliment here or there, what's its like socializing or amusing ourselves about other people, making an observation about them, dealing with sh!t tests, etc.

    You just need to approach and let the convo take care of itself. Lately I have just been opening and waiting for the women to come to me. The last two couple sets were just one liners and waited for them to start chasing me and it worked they both kept the conversation going. My two openers were situational one was a NEG and one was indirect.

    "Are you smoking a clove?" That's all I said and resulted in a N-close, a 10 min interaction, texting convo, etc.

    "You look bored" That's all I said and resulted in a N-close, multiple interactions and she won't stop texting me today we are meeting up at a original day game spot I had picked out (Independance Day Weekend Holiday Event Arts Festival). I wanted to run Day Game there but thought screw it I might as well go for the Day 2.


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