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    Default Asking a girl out by text

    I have been texting this girl I met for a few days and I want to ask her out. I am not sure on how to go with this without appearing needy. Should I be blunt and just text her that I want to take her out on a date to somewhere fun, or should I text her in a way that appears that I am just inviting her along. Should I also consider calling her instead of texting?

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by text

    Invite her come along. Text or call. Don't appear needy when you communicate.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by text

    Be firm as well. Don't say something like: "Would you wanna go out sometime? Maybe we could do this or that, if you like of course?"

    Give her limited options. If she's often busy it's okay to set up 2 different time options.

    Remember the main thing is to have fun. So add that fun ingredient to your text. Don't get too serious, otherwise she may sense that the date will be in a serious mood too and that will lead to an auto flake.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by text

    Quote Originally Posted by Sun Devil View Post
    I have been texting this girl I met for a few days and I want to ask her out. I am not sure on how to go with this without appearing needy. Should I be blunt and just text her that I want to take her out on a date to somewhere fun, or should I text her in a way that appears that I am just inviting her along. Should I also consider calling her instead of texting?


    I don't understand what's the problem here. You are suffering from a weak frame of mind mate. Just asked a girl out by text the other day and we went out. Just ask her out by text to something you have planned on or something you want to do. Set a timebridge at the Club and the next day (my first text) I was like
    "Hey HB8, this is MDJ from last night save my # so we can text each other. Still up for XXX?"

    I don't like saying I met you at a Bar, Club, etc I just say last night since that way doesn't feel cheap. But anyway she tried to flake on me

    HER "Hey I don't think today is going to work, my daughter's car broke down, what time does the Festival end?"
    ME "Well lady friend don't worry your pretty little head, Holiday Event goes till late but want to be there for Beer Garden around 5. You have some time."
    Her "Ok that should work"

    I just keep a strong Alpha frame kept it cool and laidback, unaffected by the outcome. I already had plans to game women on this day so I just invited her to what I was already doing (but couldn't game while on said date). But yeah I used to think it would be lame and AFC to ask a girl out by text until I tried it out! Now I love it. Would have it no other way. You shouldn't be so old fashioned. If you call a girl you have to deal with all the nonsense of them not answering, should you leave a vm or shouldn't you, how many times should you try calling back, should you wait for her to call back, sh!t tests and nervousness over the phone, just a lot of nonsense you can skip with text. When you send a text you should normally get a reply within 1-2 hours if she is interested and if not then after waiting send another trying to build comfort and see what happens. The reason I am Alpha lately is because I realize the abundance of women (and it wears me out) out there and if they turn me down for a date I can go game more women! So it's a win win for me. Also I just turned 30 so I realize I have like a lot of good years of gaming women coming up so I realize I got plenty of time to meet women and ain't so anxious anymore.

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by text

    I always prefer the phone call. But that depends on your comfort level and where you guys are currently at in the relationship.

    Invite her along. Remember that part in the movie The Tourist with Johnny Depp and Angelina Jolie?

    Watch this scene, this is all you really need youtube.com/watch?v=Ii9ihXeqC8E

    Its pretty funny. She basically teaches him how to ask.. without asking. More like making a suggestion... where it ends up seeming like the woman's idea.

    Try it out in a few different scenarios. If you want we can preview you text messages here first before you send them. =-)

    Good luck

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    Default Re: Asking a girl out by text

    hey sun devil, im new to the forums, and i met a girl online and we talked but i always end up taking the convo to a dead end, like we will talk for a few minutes and then it will all stop i would type "haha" then she would just read it. my main question here is how do i keep a conversation going witha girl and actually get her interested! thanks


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