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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    ["I really like you, and we have such much in common. Would you please hang out with me?"]

    Yes, that sounds very needy and sounds like something an AFC would say. I like your idea but for me personally I might substitute "hang out" with "meet up" unless I was getting a very strong sexual vibe from her and it seemed like she was ready to rip my clothes off or something. Lol.

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    I understand it's situational but is it best to say something like "let's meet at such and such a place" or to say "would you like to get together" or "hey, I'm going to be at Starbucks around five, you seem cool, so why not meet me there and we'll hang out for a bit."

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    I would use something like this:

    "I am going to grab a coffee. If you aren't going to destroy the place with those muscular arms I'll let you come too."

    See how much more Aplha that sounds compared to:

    "You wanna grab a cup of coffee sometime?"

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    Alpha yes but also trying too hard imo. Still, it beats the lame "uh, well I uh was wondering if maybe if you weren't doing anything if you would uh do me the honor of joining me for a cup of coffee. Of course I'll pay for you so don't worry about that. "

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    Also, based on my above comment I'm not implying that you shouldn't pay for her coffee(that is if she shows up around the time you are ordering and haven't ordered yours yet)but it should be more like an after thought and not that you are doing it to please her or anything. Typically I'm against buying anything for women especially if it is expensive(ie dinners etc).

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    It's not trying to hard. You're just inviting her out in a manner where it's not a question, and more of a statement. Again, if you're not comfortable with it, don't use it. As long as whatever you say doesn't sound needy.

    Me: "I got to run, but I want to continue this conversation. What's your schedule like tomorrow?"

    Her: Blah blah blah I get of work at 5.

    Me: Alright cool then, we'll meet at this great little coffee spot I know at 6.

    (you can text her the directions or tell her)

    Don't over think things man. If she's interested, she'll put forth some effort in trying to meet up. If she doesn't, that just means that she's not interested, or wants you to chase a little more.

    In PUA, there is no such thing as 100%. You can't get every girl, you can't make everyone attracted to you, etc. It's all about getting the odds as high as you can in your favor. That's why when you ask a girl out, you don't want it to be a yes or no question. You want her to have to go out of her way to say no. That's why when you just set something up like an alpha, you're partially hoping that she just submits to the alpha will, and doesn't question anything. It's establishing that you're going to hang out, but now WHEN is it going to happen. Where as if you ask a question, her mind is still thinking about will I even hang out with this guy. You can ask questions and still have really good success, that's why I say do what you're most comfortable with. Just understand that PUA is all about increasing your odds.

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    Default Re: How to ask a woman out

    Quote Originally Posted by lilsting View Post
    There is no best way. There is only a good way to deliver it. You can use any of those methods you mentioned, but personally I never type my number in her phone. I've been tryna to test my alpha-ness by saying "give me your number," and I gotta admit, it's different cause I'm not use to talking to people like that. If done in the right frame though can really show off your dominance. MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS THAT YOU'RE NOT JUST GETTING HER NUMBER, AND THAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO MEET UP WITH HER AGAIN. I can't stress that enough. Here's an example, of how I use to go for numbers.

    "I've got to be going now, but want to see you again. We're going to grab a coffee sometime *as I'm taking out my phone*. What's your number?" It's a simple as that. You'll either get the number, get rejected, or get sh1t tested.
    I just want to echo what lilsting is saying. It's ok to just get her number, but I like to tell her my intentions. I like to say something like, "Well I'm in a rush, give me your number and we'll go plan a bank heist over coffee or dinner." The bank robbing park always gets a laugh. Also, I like to have the contacts screen already open if I know I'm going to Number Close a girl; it eliminates some awkwardness.


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