I'm wondering what are the best ways to ask a woman out or get together with a woman. Based on what I have learned it seems to me that you need to be specific with what you want to do. I've even heard that you should say something like "Well, I'm going to the cafe now to get a cup of coffee. Hey you seem cool why don't you join me." The problem with that(which is basically asking her out on the spot)is that she could say something like "no, I have to get going now I have stuff to do" then you possibly look kind of silly by trying to play it too cool." So what works best for you guys? Also, is it best to see if she wants to go on a date first then get her number instead of just trying to get her number first. This way if she shows interest in going out with you you know you will get the right number or know she is interested. If she indicates that she isn't interested then you don't even need to bother asking for her number in which case you just move on to the next girl.