Whats up guys, this is my first post on this board (outside of the introduction thread). I've read a lot of threads here and ultimately decided to join myself.
I would rank my social game as slightly below average. Not bad, but definently needs improvement. The good side is that I can talk to people just fine, even girls, but the catch is...I'm only *good* at it in a situation where there isn't pressure to be talking 100% of the time.
A situation like this would be one where I'm talking to a coworker as we're working. Or I'm talking to a friend as we're playing some video game. Or I'm talking to someone in the car. In these situations, its not awkward for there to be pauses in the conversation, because we're occupied with doing something else when not talking (working, playing, driving, respectively). These pauses give me time to think about what to say next, absorb what they've said, and just creates a more chill atmosphere.
In contrast, I have trouble with the type of conversation where someone has to be talking nonstop, otherwise it seems awkward. An example of this would be a phone conversation, sitting across from someone at a restaurant table while you wait for the food to arrive, or a cold approach pickup. After all, if there's a significant pause in a cold approach, one of us will probably just see that the conversation has reached a standstill and make up some excuse to leave.
This is one reason why I can easily converse with people I already know, but have trouble picking up girls off the street.
What tips do you guys have on being effective at this type of conversation? How can I get better at keeping a conversation going for any significant amount of time while avoiding the awkward pauses?