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Thread: Going To A Concert Alone

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    Default Going To A Concert Alone

    So it's this time of the year, summer is here and concerts in my town getting fired up.

    There's this artist I really admire and it might be my only chance to see him live, so I totally don't want to miss this chance. However, all of my friends (both male & female) flaked on me when I invited them. Some flakes included ridiculous excuses but I guess that's another story.

    In essence, apparently I'll be attending to this concert by myself but as you can relate, I don't want to stand there alone and be the creepy solo fan-boy.

    I was initially frightened by the idea that I will go to the concert alone, but now I figured that it might present amazing opportunities.

    Soooo, I want some advice how can I approach people, not just girls but also guys, I want to meet with new people, have fun in a group setting and what not. Of course, I won't exclude pick up in this search but it'll just be icing on the cake.

    My first thoughts on approaching was something like: "Uh hey, I think I've lost my friends..." so that the group wouldn't think of me as a "creepy lonely dude". (heh )

    Any ideas to improve this opener above? Any new ones? Mindset suggestions? My overall game?

    FYI: The concert will be held in a festival setting, consisted of various DJs, artists. Open air. Will last at least 10 hours. 18+ and will be filled with people around my age (I'm 19). No alcohol allowed.

    Edit: I just thought my opener could be a bit flawed. The response to that would be: "Why don't you just call them?" Then I would have said: "My battery died." but that wouldn't make any sense because there will be phone charging booths in the area and sticking with a different group for 10 hours just because I've lost my friends? Doesn't really make sense, LOL.

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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    "My friends have awful taste in music >.<, thank god I love meeting new people." Shrug it off, and keep the conversation going.
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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    Going to a festival/concert alone shows you're a confident guy and don't need other people to supply fun for you. If anyone asks where your friends are just say you lost them or that they "couldn't hang". Be fun and literally go to the concert with the intention of listening to bands/dj's that you're truly interested in.

    I LOVE wondering off alone at venues sometimes just to see where the music takes me and I almost ALWAYS find a fun group of people to share the experience with.

    Don't sweat going out alone, just be social and have a blast!

    Out of curiosity, what concert are you going to?
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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    Quote Originally Posted by ShoreGuy28 View Post
    Going to a festival/concert alone shows you're a confident guy and don't need other people to supply fun for you. If anyone asks where your friends are just say you lost them or that they "couldn't hang". Be fun and literally go to the concert with the intention of listening to bands/dj's that you're truly interested in.

    I LOVE wondering off alone at venues sometimes just to see where the music takes me and I almost ALWAYS find a fun group of people to share the experience with.

    Don't sweat going out alone, just be social and have a blast!
    Yeah man I was thinking the same thing. It's just not in my comfort zone and makes me nervous but hey, can't really improve without getting out of my comfort zone can I?

    Quote Originally Posted by ShoreGuy28 View Post
    Out of curiosity, what concert are you going to?
    It's named as Vestival, which will be held in Istanbul. Inna, Ne-Yo and 50 Cent will be attending as head artists along with many other DJs. I'm looking forward to see Ne-Yo live, his music gives me the chills.
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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    Quote Originally Posted by Wolf24 View Post
    So it's this time of the year, summer is here and concerts in my town getting fired up.

    There's this artist I really admire and it might be my only chance to see him live, so I totally don't want to miss this chance. However, all of my friends (both male & female) flaked on me when I invited them. Some flakes included ridiculous excuses but I guess that's another story.

    In essence, apparently I'll be attending to this concert by myself but as you can relate, I don't want to stand there alone and be the creepy solo fan-boy.

    I was initially frightened by the idea that I will go to the concert alone, but now I figured that it might present amazing opportunities.

    Soooo, I want some advice how can I approach people, not just girls but also guys, I want to meet with new people, have fun in a group setting and what not. Of course, I won't exclude pick up in this search but it'll just be icing on the cake.

    My first thoughts on approaching was something like: "Uh hey, I think I've lost my friends..." so that the group wouldn't think of me as a "creepy lonely dude". (heh )

    Any ideas to improve this opener above? Any new ones? Mindset suggestions? My overall game?

    FYI: The concert will be held in a festival setting, consisted of various DJs, artists. Open air. Will last at least 10 hours. 18+ and will be filled with people around my age (I'm 19). No alcohol allowed.

    Edit: I just thought my opener could be a bit flawed. The response to that would be: "Why don't you just call them?" Then I would have said: "My battery died." but that wouldn't make any sense because there will be phone charging booths in the area and sticking with a different group for 10 hours just because I've lost my friends? Doesn't really make sense, LOL.

    Thanks in advance guys,
    Wolf.

    I like the way you are thinking. Pick Up should not be a hobby ie something we do, it should be apart of our lifestyle an enhancement not a distraction. This way we are going to Conerts we want to go to or are going to already and picking up women in the process and that just being the highlight of the night. I made the mistake of going to Concerts and Bars to pick up women and that reasoning is totally flawed because if you don't meet anyone or fail horribly your night is shot. But when I incorporate pick up in to my already planned on activities a lot less frustrating. Just remember you are there for yourself to have a good time and as long as you are having a good time having a good couple of sets will just enhance your night not make or break your night. The reason I say this is because it acts like Social Proof when you don't seem like you are there to pick up women but have stuff of your own going on, this gives you material to talk about and way more interesting for your potential targets. This is why when you actually do approach your value will skyrocket. But if you are only there to get validation then you will be treated sometimes like a sucker. Like for instance that girl I met at the EDM show. I was already having a blast did an approach and the attraction just went through the roof because I was doing my own thing and some woman tried to be apart of that. You should try to get girls to party with you afterwards at shows like this. It seems like chicks at Concerts and Shows want to party afterwards so ask if they want to go to an afterparty or ask them if they want to party afterwards. If they mention they have a hotel just say maybe you should hang out later that night then. My mistake is not spending more time with these sets at shows. You have more leway to hang around broads at shows than Bars and Clubs. I keep my sets to about 10 minutes at Bars and Clubs but I am veering more towards chicks at Shows and Concerts to spend more time just hanging out with them in case they want to party.


    I have no problem doing dhv, increasing attraction, having conversation with people or women when I go solo. Sometimes I get sh!t tested about women asking where my friends are saying it's creepy but that only happened 2 times out of the 83 approaches I did. Instead of trying to give excuses for your friends just make friends there. I have no problems making friends at Clubs and actually got a wingman by some guy that came up to me. So you can always make friends there plus when my friends go I just ditch them eventually anyway because I love walking around sarging, exploring, etc.

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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    I agree that the key to the approach is to have a good time and enjoy the environment . Essentially, it's like seeing the forest for the trees in that the primary focus is that you're enjoying where you are and the show you're seeing and whether you happen to catch someone's eye during the process, that's just gravy.

    Seeing other people promote this approach leads me to think that I should change my approach too. Focus on self and let the chips fall where they may.

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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    Yep, I'm note sure about "I lost my friends", just don't mention it. There is absolutely no shame in going by yourself at something you love. You're living the life you want, and you're confident enough not to let anyone judge you on that.
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    Default Re: Going To A Concert Alone

    Being a naturally introverted person, this is gonna be totally out of my comfort zone to do, but I feel like I need to do this, out of necessity and to prove to myself that I can do it. Soon I will be moving to a new city not knowing anyone there, I will have to put myself in this situation. A guess a good root (in my case true, but you could fake it) is to say that u are new to the city and don't know many people yet.


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