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Thread: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

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    Wink Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    So you are in a bar, buy her a drink, or no? Why or why not?

    If you buy her a drink, how can you segway that into a solid opener, without just seeming like another chump buying a girl a drink?

    Lets get a master list going here guys.

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    Never buy a girl a drink at the bar hoping to impress her. It's a form of dlv for the guy to do this. She will begin to lose respect for you right there and then when you buy her the drink.

    The only exceptions being if you have kiss closed her.

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    No, I wouldn't buy her a drink as well. Like dave said it lowers your value and most of the girls in clubs/bars are after free drinks they get from guys. They will be nice for a while, thank you for the drink and then dump you..

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    A quote from Tao Of Badass about buying her a drink:

    "I'm not important enough or attractive enough for you to hang out with, so I'm going to give you this drink in hopes that it will bribe you to stay here and hang out with me because you'll feel guilty leaving."

    As Dave said, it lowers your value. It makes you seek for acceptance, for validation. That's beta.
    It's not about who I was or who I'm going to become.

    It's about who I am. Do it right here, right now.

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    A girl last night implied I should buy her a drink. I told her, I'll buy this - for me - and you can try a little bit. Switch the frame. You're doing her a favor because you want to, not kowtowing to her demands.

    Later, she ordered her own and was stealing from mine, so I started stealing from hers, and from some of her other drinks later on. Permission is no less than permissor does.

    Anyway, let's re-rail this thread... "I'm/We're starting a barbershop quartet, would you care to join?"

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    The only people I buy drinks for are girls I came to the bar with, and even then I rarely do unless its their birthday or something. Usually if I'm gaming a girl and she is showing IOIs, then later asks me for a drink I'll tell her not tonight then invite her to go out with me for a drink another time. If she says okay I'll get her phone number and keep gaming her for a minute or two more then bounce. Usually before I leave I'll say give me a kiss and kiss her on one cheek, then the other, then a quick peck on the lips then i leave. Works pretty well.

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    Rules in buying a girl a drink at a bar.
    If she is your good friend, sister, or your friends girlfriend who you are friends with.
    If this girl made out with you.

    other than that, why?

    It serves no purpose at all. It dlv. It makes you look like a chump and schmuck.

    I had a girl literally do this

    Scenario at bar at the beach
    Waiting at the bar to get bartenders attention. Notice a girl next to me there before I was. Bartender, however, came to me first. So as a polite guy, I told the bartender she was there before me. So she goes, "oh you want to buy me a drink?"...
    I replied laughing, "no, i was being polite and let you go first since you were here longer than me"
    She goes, "well its nice to buy a girl a drink."
    I replied, "yeah, if I know her and want to buy one."
    She goes, "but you should buy me one then".
    I said, "I don't know you, and that is what schmucks do."
    She goes, "no gentlemen buy girls drinks."
    I replied, "no, gentlemen hold doors or let ladies go first if they are waiting in line at the bar. Schmucks buy girls drinks"
    She was trying to be sassy with me trying to retain alphaness. So I replied, "well, I did just do my taxes and I pretty sure I didn't claim you as my spouse, or my dependent, so no, I won't buy you a drink. But thanks for chatting with me."

    Walked away. I didn't care to have a girl like that, and she was an 5 at best.

    Moral is, girls will look at a guy in two ways, and ONLY two ways if you buy her a drink...
    1) Yessss, I can get free drinks all night from this guy.
    2) He just wants to get me drunk so he can try to get my number or get laid.

    There are RANDOM chances that a girl may actually find it genuine, but come on now. It's so cheesy. Make her earn that drink. She isn't Royalty and you don't owe her anything. If she wants it, make her work for it.

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    Default Re: Bar Openers? Lets master this.

    I have to agree with not buying girls drinks, ESPECIALLY if they ask you to buy them one. This has had entertaining results for me in the past. Usually I ask "and tell me why I should buy you one?" to which chicks rarely have a good answer. In fact, I have never had a response to that question which I couldn't easily shoot down. About half the time, the girl will sit there and try to dhv to me, explaining why I should by her a drink, and the other half just don't know what to do because they expect the AC to just buy them one without challenge. The best feeling is when they don't know how to respond and you completely own the encounter. One time I heard a chick ask, I say "no". And turn to see a HB9. She was shocked, didn't know what to to, and made a quick exit. Out of the bar. Maybe it looks bad from everyone else around you, but it cracked me the hell up.


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