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Thread: How to ask out a neighbour?

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    Default How to ask out a neighbour?

    Hi guys,

    Well, I am in a weird situation. There's a really cute girl I have spotted my neighborhood. I even know where she lives as I came across her when she was entering her building.

    The problem is that I only saw her once. Some friends told me to pass often in her street to increase the odds of bumping into her. However, I am rarely at home these days and I cannot stand there all day just with the hope of seeing her sometime by chance. So, this strategy is not good to me.

    The only somewhat reasonable solution I have imagined is to write a short anonymous letter (I will put some crap about noticing her but not knowing how to get in touch; asking her to meet for some drinks) with my phone number and ask one of the people living in her building to show me her mailbox.

    It might sound crazy but I really want to give it a try (I won't be too sad if she rejects me, but I cannot live without the thought of not having tried anything).

    Could you guys please give me some advice on how to deal with this situation?

    Many thanks!
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    Default Re: How to ask out a neighbour?

    You always want to try man!! I know that if i got a random letter from a girl at my apartment saying she saw me, it would be extremely creepy. Additionally, girls get creeped out way easier.

    Maybe try to find out a place (Coffee shop, bar) or something she frequents alot and hang out there a couple times a week and get to know the people. Might be a good chance for you to meet up with her without looking way too weird. Up to you though, I would just wait for the random chance to see her on the street again.

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    Default Re: How to ask out a neighbour?

    Yeeaaaa... there is seriously no way that would not come across as creepy lol. I know in your mind you think it's a good idea, but that's because you know yourself. She doesn't.

    Replace yourself with a random guy on the street that you've never met. That's how she'll see you. If she gets a letter asking her out at her HOME she will feel very much invaded by someone she doesn't even know, let alone what they look like. And don't even think writing in the letter "Oh hope this isn't creepy. I'm not a stalker or anything" will lighten the blow. It'll make it worse. Much worse. And don't add a photo either. I'm grinding my teeth as I imagine all this.

    It's best to listen to your friends and attempt a random "bump into her" kind of deal. If you cannot arrange that then you have to let it go. I mean, she's your neighbor right? What's the rush.

    P.S. I know you say you won't be sad if she rejects you. I'll save you the trouble and tell you that she will. So might as well spare yourself.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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