Hey guys, this is my first day being here, I've been on the site and browsed before but never really bothered to join the community. I am going on a cruise ship next month for a week and really want to work on picking up chicks there so I really am going to sharpen my skills. Instead of making my first post a big leech fest and asking you guys, I'll try my best to help you guys out.
A lot of people just aren't confident about themselves. Today I was browsing on Netflix and I came across a TV show called TEDTalks and the first episode was called "Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are". It was a 20 minute show and throughout the show she showed some basic body language, posture, etc.
Basically, she said "fake it til' you make it". It's like this, if you sit in a dominant alpha pose for 2 minutes (feet up on desk, taking up space, etc), your levels of testosterone go up 25%. If you sit in a beta position for 2 mins (slouching, looking down, touching your neck) your stress levels raise 15%.
She did an experiment where people went in the bathroom before a job interview and just smiled and put their arms up in the air like they had just won a race. After 2 minutes, they went into their job interview feeling confident because you basically tricked your body into being more confident.
I know I explained this in a difficult way, I'm sorry. I watched the episode and just wrote this based off memory. You should be able to get the point though. If you have netflix, I would suggest looking up the TV series "TEDTalks" lots of self-help type of stuff. The 1st episode is the one I mentioned.