Hey guys, so for a while now I've been one of those guys who sits up in his room reading books and blog posts online hoping to gain enough information that I'll magically just understand it all and be able to go out and pick up any girl I wanted at any time. However, that seems to be far from the actual case.
I've done alright so far with warm approaches i.e. being introduced, or joining conversation at a party, but I'm actually yet to do one cold approach (sober at least). The warm approaches have worked out pretty solid for me so far, if I have a lead I'm pretty while along my way to sealing the deal. But whenever I go for a cold approach I'm hit instantaneously with aa. So much so that my heart will actually hurt from pounding out of my chest, it's ridiculous!
Whenever I walk up to, past, or face a girl that makes eye contact with me, I clam up. Even when girls have opened me, the first thing I'm trying to do is eject because I'm insanely over run with fear. What kind of fear I'm not really sure, but it's completely debilitating. I know the idea is to just go out and do it but I'm seriously stuck here. Each time I try, I'm slammed with this feeling and I can't even think; not even sure I'd be able to get a word out.
Basically, I'm hoping for just a little bit more of an easier segway here. I've actually attended some toastmasters meetings to help with public speaking (yet to give a speech) and that has actually made quite a difference in group dynamics but when a good looking girl looks at me, I'm stone. Any ideas on how to make this transition a little easier? Some smaller steps I could take to eliminate this unbelievably intense feeling?