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    Default gotta be ious, right?

    ok, so a former student were I used to work (don't freak out, I live in Colombia and was working at an adult english teacher) is a masseuse. really cute, really sweet girl. back in february for my birthday she gave me a free massage, I jokingly asked for one and she complied. about that same time i started seeing what is now my ex-gf. so didn't pursue, plus i didn't really like the idea of messing around with a student, she could have ended up in one of my classes. anyway, after a nasty break up (if you've seen my other posts), and with starting a new job tomorrow, I decided to gift myself a massage today.

    i went there and the owner of the hotel/spa said something along the lines, of nice to see you again. I said oh you remember me? she said yes of course, but I can't tell you why. after the massage, the girl showed me around the hotel, her favorite room, the roof, etc. i dropped the ball, should have asked for her number, should have gamed her (was my intention but between being naked wiht a towel on, and not being totally over my ex, I didn't get it done). only other thing is this girl seems like a relationship type and actually seems like a really great girl and super shy/innocent. (most girls here are hard to just have casual sex with anyway). not sure if i want to jump back into a relationship situation. but i've gotta pursue right?

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    Default Re: gotta be ious, right?

    It's fine if you are still grieving over an ex. Don't beat yourself up. You're mind is elsewhere.

    Yes I think you should pursue. I like the relationship types cause you could simply tell her that you "like the idea of a relationship, but don't think it would be fair to her to just jump into something when you weren't ready." Of course you wait til much later to say this. Like...after you sleep with her. But sometimes beforehand. It'll simply make you a challenge and she will chase you more. Especially if you manage to sleep with her THEN say that. She is almost obligated to chase you lol.

    If anything else it'll help you get your mind off your ex. I know they say if you sleep with 10 girls you'll forget about her, but for me I only need 3 or 4 before I'm over an ex.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: gotta be ious, right?

    Yeah there's no reason not to pursue her unless you really don't want a relationship... On the other hand you could be friends with benefits with her.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: gotta be ious, right?

    yea, you're right, its obvious she's into me. and you're right i shouldn't feel bad about not wanting to commit too soon, batman you posted on my other thread about the ex and what you said about time was really good.

    there are multiple reasons why i dont think i want a relationship now. one is the ex, she played me in a lot of ways (although she played another guy worse), one is a new job that's going to be a lot more work (but good for me), and the other really is that I never had that phase of going out and banging a lot of girls. i've either had one, not had any or had a few one or 3 night stands. i'm 25, and the whole trauma and drama of the last gf along with living abroad and not wanting to be lonely has shown me that I probably should go out and date multiple girls and have that experience to help prevent me from being so devastated when one doesn't work out as well as make sure one that i get in with is one that is really good and not just to be with someone. and well who knows maybe i will want to be with only her.

    didn't get the number but have her on facebook, will get in touch and set up maybe a movie date (there's at least one that I want to see that I have no one to go with now) maybe as soon as this weekend.


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