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    Default how to not show interest in the beginning

    when socializing with a girl, I'm too much involved in my head. When she speaks I feel rude about giving her negative body language but I believe that's part of game. When she speaks I usually stare at the girl but don't face my body towards her. Then I feel I'm giving off too much interest by staring so I focus my attention on something else. Any other suggestions or tips for me when socializing with women.

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    Default Re: how to not show interest in the beginning

    Quote Originally Posted by cission49 View Post
    when socializing with a girl, I'm too much involved in my head. When she speaks I feel rude about giving her negative body language but I believe that's part of game. When she speaks I usually stare at the girl but don't face my body towards her. Then I feel I'm giving off too much interest by staring so I focus my attention on something else. Any other suggestions or tips for me when socializing with women.
    Your thinking way to much, which I see that you have recognized that and that's great. Just act like she doesn't matter in your mind, like its not a big deal if you get her or not. LOTS of practice to get this right, just keep practicing, that's what this is all about

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    Default Re: how to not show interest in the beginning

    Staring can be some what of a defense mechanism. Your waiting for something, either on their end or yours and the person on the other end usually sees your gaze and realizes your not listening. Next time your talking to/with somebody start staring at them when there speaking. You'll most likely notice that their eyes start to focus on you and they begin to stare as well.

    Basically, your not listening. There are little things you can do to help out. Practice these all the time, with everyone, and you'll notice a change. Listening is important. Studies find that people rate good conversationalists as ones that are better listeners, not better talkers. In the game its important to find a balance but you gotta work on both sides of the spectrum in order to get there. So...

    -Nod your head. This shows you understand when she makes a point.
    -Let your jaw drop, your eyes widen, a smile appear, your face scrunch... whatever emotion her words invoke, express it with your face. Again, another study shows that people find more animated people attractive (to a point). Animate a little
    -If you find your self staring again, try blinking a few times. This is a mind reset trick. It should take your brain away from whatever inner thought you have and push your focus outward.
    -Or..if your staring..take a quick glance down at her mouth, or her nose, or her brow, let your eyes wonder a little bit towards her hands if she is gesturing.

    You only need to be making eye contact about 80% of the time for it to be considered good eye contact. So if something grabs your eyes behind, or next to year, don't be afraid to glance. This will help your staring too.

    But remember, these are to be used in moderation. In excess and it'll be you not listening all over again...


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