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Thread: quite a quagmire, need some help

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    Default quite a quagmire, need some help

    ok here's the story, I recently started hangin out with my sister and brother in law and there group of friends of which his sister and her boyfriend were a part of. Known his sister for years(and on fact I am 13 years older than). Anyway their relationship seemed kinda shitty but whatever was none of my business, then one night after partying our asses off her bf passed out and I found myself on the porch talkin to her, when she told me she is dying to have sex with me! Thought it was flattering but also figured she was drunk so nothing happened that night, figured I was right about the drinking. Then 2 days later she makes an excuse to stay at my house after everyone was leaving. At this point she made her move and things took there course. Afterwards I felt bad about it(don't wanna be that guy). The next week or so saw alot of flirting txts almost to the point of sexting, as well as some deep discussions and I realized that I really like this girl. So I decided no more physical contact unless she was single, still kept up the banter and talking. Then this past Saturday he got caught kinda agressively goin after his gfs sister to the point where she had to call for her bf to come, after a lot of yelling and screaming he was kicked from the group, he was made to leave and his girlfriend came home with me. To my surprise even tho she was upset, she still came on to me and despite my decision I am after all just a man, so we did it again. When she got home she said he was gone and she was a wreck.
    now my question is, if I'm interested in persuing a relationship with this girl what is my next move? I know if I try to get right in I could windup right out, I really don't wanna blow this. So any help would be appreciated

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    Default Re: quite a quagmire, need some help

    Can't you find a better girl for a relationship than that one? I wouldn't go any further than fuck buddies with someone that blatantly cheats on her boyfriend.
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    Default Re: quite a quagmire, need some help

    There's nothing wrong with being That Guy [or Girl]. She has a right to find someone who will treat her as she wants to be treated, and you have a right to provide for her what you both want. The guy sounds like a douchenozzle anyway.

    She was upset and still coming on to you because emotions are complex. Obviously her lack of interest in someone who is probably coercing her into "being faithful" is causing her a lot of stress in her life. She may even still have real feelings for him, even if he does frustrate her; but obviously she wants you more.

    Go into this with eyes wide open, take time for sober second thought before you act on strong emotions, and remember that that he does not own her; no one owns her but her, and she has the right to choose her own destiny.

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    Default Re: quite a quagmire, need some help

    I have to agree that a relationship is a bad course of action at this time. First off...I don't trust women who cheat. I know I never act like most dudes that they cheat on, but I never think that they couldn't do that to me if they felt justified.

    She is going to have a bunch of mixed feelings if they do breakup. A breakup is a process and she will not magically move on from him. You're kidding yourself if you think she will walk away clean from him and go to you. She may not even want a relationship anyways.
    It's best to just keep things casual right now even after the breakup. Give her time to re-cooperate if they do breakup before approaching her with a relationship. Trust me you'll be sparing yourself a lot of stress and heartache.
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    Default Re: quite a quagmire, need some help

    I agree with you BatMan, the question is not even how we act but the fact that someone that cheats shows a lack of moral values. While that is not important in something casual, a relationship requires a foundation of loyalty and trust. I'd never be able to trust a girl that I know cheated on another guy before.

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