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    Quote Originally Posted by bluearrowil View Post
    Thanks gunsnglory, I'll definitely take that into consideration

    Mystery_wannabe, how do you think I should act if I run into her at college? Can I use her reactions to see if she's open up for a meeting that week? How would you go about it?

    Well, when you see her in college you don't have to act in a certain way. You just have to be yourself and pretend that everything's normal. Don't show any insecurities because she will sense it. Be friendly and see if you can carry a casual conversation. On the close, you can then throw in the idea of a coffee if things are going good.

    I would drop the idea of using this meeting as a way to hook up instantly. gunsnglory is right on the post he made above. You need to rebuild alpha status first or else she's going to shake you off.
    Last edited by Mystery_wannabe; 11-10-2009 at 12:53 PM.

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    Default Re: Can't figure her out! Need help getting control

    Quote Originally Posted by Mystery_wannabe View Post

    A few things you have to remember is first you have to rebuild attraction. So when you meet up with her you have to show her that you're alpha. This can be done through story telling. Tell her something positive about yourself. Show her why your world is such a great place to be in. Try to find out through talking things that she likes and relate that to yourself. This will then build rapport and so she will be more comfortable around you.
    But doesn't this create comfort instead of attraction? And how big is the difference between the two? I've been doing all that and told that I was building comfort, NOT attraction.

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    Default Re: Can't figure her out! Need help getting control

    WAIT A MINUTE! NEVER MIND!

    I clicked on the word "comfort" above and it took me to another forum page explaining that comfort is established AFTER attraction, so.... I guess I was doing things right all along. I have to find that other post where I was told I was building comfort and not attraction and post a link to this to let people see and decide who's information is more accurate...

    Maybe studying too much of this stuff IS beginning to do more harm to me than good. I need to stop and just do what I do (and avoid texting whenever possible).

    I always build comfort WITH physical contact - if that makes sense. I wouldn't recommend people trying the things I do though because I've experimented with and developed weird formulas that somehow work and it probably wouldn't work with other people.


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