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    Asian_Watts is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Says she's unsure whether to meet up - hard to get?

    Met this girl last night in a club, got talking and she knew who I was but I didn't know her! She's been off at uni for a year, come back and is yummy. She called me shallow as I wouldn't have spoke to her before she left but now she's attractive I do!! Something about calling me shallow made me want her so bad! I proceeded with chatting up her mate but it didn't make her overly jealous!
    Regardless, I add her on Facebook when I get in at 4am, instantly she accepted so I sent her a message. Proceeded to talk a bit longer and I said I'll prove I'm not shallow and take her out Tuesday. She keeps saying she'll think about it, and she doesn't know.

    Girl playing hard to get? How would you proceed? Lots of opinions!

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    Default Re: Says she's unsure whether to meet up - hard to get?

    She just got to know you so she might be a bit passive with meeting up already. Because you met her at a club I assume you have only had the attraction phase running. She hasn't got any comfort/rapport with you. The next day, the attraction will fade and nothing will remain. You have to keep the attraction going and try to get some comfort/rapport. Then ask again for the meet up.

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    Default Re: Says she's unsure whether to meet up - hard to get?

    buyer's remorse. Just read about that in The Mystery Method, but if you build attraction and don't build comfort before the time bridge you can fark yourself because that attraction will fade and then she's less likely to re-up for a day 2 with a guy she found attractive one time.

    That said, I'd play it cool and keep sarging her. She didn't say no so you're still in the ballgame, but make sure it's casual and not at all implying what might happen. I'd say do lunch, start of reestablishing attraction, then dive into comfort and stay there. Build it man, venue change, maybe a mall or something easy. Theeeen after much comfort and Kino Escalation go for a kiss close and take her out later that night. That's 4 venues, 7+ hours spent, 2 dates, a kiss close, attraction and comfort.. That's a good addition problem that can equal an awesome night. Game on. Cheers

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    Asian_Watts is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Says she's unsure whether to meet up - hard to get?

    You guys reckon I need to try an build comfort through text game?! I think that's quite ambitious. I think it's a definite case of buyers remorse, I didn't get enough ground last night to put myself in the position I am now!

    How can I build rapport through text game? Text game usually only used to sustain attraction/comfort yet at the moment, I have little correct?

    If I do get the chance to go out with her than ill definitely so as you said! Cheers for the advice guys!!

    Is this salvageable?

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    Default Re: Says she's unsure whether to meet up - hard to get?

    You could create comfort by texting a girl, it's definitely harder than in person but better than nothing.

    Comfort is created by getting to know each other better. Make statements and ask questions (not to many, because it's no interview). Use something like this: "What's something you would love to do before you die?" or "Tell me something interesting about you almost nobody knows." Or start with your own statement and then let her respond to that: "I went ice skating today, I absolutely loved it!", now she gets the opportunity to hook in to that statement and talk about ice skating. If she doesn't go into that topic then you could ask her: "What do you think of ice skating?".

    On the question "Is this salvageable?". I honestly think it's pretty hard, but there's definitely a change. Make sure you try your best because all experiences will make you better!


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