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  1. #1
    RocketMan Guest

    Default What does congruence mean?

    Does anyone know what congruence mean? I keep hearing it.

  2. #2
    Sniper NYC Guest

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    Here are my thought on congruence:

    Who are you really? Not what you think you are, not what other people think you are, not what you want to be, but at this moment what are you. Again not your defining qualities but you.

    Now write all this down and examine it. Now go out into the field and see how your performing. Unless you are the total unconfident guy who is afaid of the world which we will adress later that is who you should try to maintain your identiy in the field.

    If your a good nice guy play that in the field if you an ass be an ass. OMGWTFBBQ that goes against everything all these teachers say. Well yes all but a few.

    Ross Jeffries doesnt say this.

    YOU GUYS GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD YOU NEED TO BE YOURSELF.

    But no other people say be this and that and the monkey king. Well guys woman see right through that. They know your bsing. But oh I forget you guys beat psychology and all the theories that have been done. Woman have amazing perceptions better than any male. They can read you before you step up to the up at least 90% of them can.

    Ever had someone approach you and you exactly for what before they did. Woman have the ability a thousand times better. If they sense you not being congruent with yourself you have a better chance of blowing out. Yes you still may succeed, but you may only get that fools mate. Or a one nighter.

    If your going for a multi night stand or a relationship your out of luck. Also are you really improving yourself pickup is about as much imrpoving yourself as it is improving your game. Being true to yourself is about being in the real world. Not a sense of non being.

    (a little philsophy for you)

    How about an experiment.

    Run your game as the true you for 3-4 months then go back to what ever persona you want to put on and see what happens. It may be rough your first month being yourself but your results will sore.

    Now you can be funny and be a nice guy. You can be friendly and be an ass. Guys i acted like a nice guy for years because i thought it was right.

    Deep down I'm an ass, but I have a heart. I play with this and better success being a total ass who i was not and a nice guy which i was not.

    Be congruent. Thats all I'm saying. Even with peacocking if you go out in a suit and tie and your a punk rocker at heart theyll sense its off. If your a classy guy and you go out in a suit and fits more. lll break it down even a little simpler.

    Remember the sessamie street song for our american fellows one of these things just doesnt belong. you dont want that. This may come off odd so ask questions I'll explain.

  3. #3
    Mystery_wannabe Guest

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sniper NYC View Post
    Here are my thought on congruence:

    Who are you really? Not what you think you are, not what other people think you are, not what you want to be, but at this moment what are you. Again not your defining qualities but you.

    Now write all this down and examine it. Now go out into the field and see how your performing. Unless you are the total unconfident guy who is afaid of the world which we will adress later that is who you should try to maintain your identiy in the field.

    If your a good nice guy play that in the field if you an ass be an ass. OMGWTFBBQ that goes against everything all these teachers say. Well yes all but a few.

    Ross Jeffries doesnt say this.

    YOU GUYS GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD YOU NEED TO BE YOURSELF.

    But no other people say be this and that and the monkey king. Well guys woman see right through that. They know your bsing. But oh I forget you guys beat psychology and all the theories that have been done. Woman have amazing perceptions better than any male. They can read you before you step up to the up at least 90% of them can.

    Ever had someone approach you and you exactly for what before they did. Woman have the ability a thousand times better. If they sense you not being congruent with yourself you have a better chance of blowing out. Yes you still may succeed, but you may only get that fools mate. Or a one nighter.

    If your going for a multi night stand or a relationship your out of luck. Also are you really improving yourself pickup is about as much imrpoving yourself as it is improving your game. Being true to yourself is about being in the real world. Not a sense of non being.

    (a little philsophy for you)

    How about an experiment.

    Run your game as the true you for 3-4 months then go back to what ever persona you want to put on and see what happens. It may be rough your first month being yourself but your results will sore.

    Now you can be funny and be a nice guy. You can be friendly and be an ass. Guys i acted like a nice guy for years because i thought it was right.

    Deep down I'm an ass, but I have a heart. I play with this and better success being a total ass who i was not and a nice guy which i was not.

    Be congruent. Thats all I'm saying. Even with peacocking if you go out in a suit and tie and your a punk rocker at heart theyll sense its off. If your a classy guy and you go out in a suit and fits more. lll break it down even a little simpler.

    Remember the sessamie street song for our american fellows one of these things just doesnt belong. you dont want that. This may come off odd so ask questions I'll explain.
    Well said. In fact, I've come to the same conclusion after reading cyc as well. I'm slowly getting the feel of being myself. In fact, I've noticed personally after I've stopped thinking about interactions with girls as a "game", things became more natural.

    I noticed because I kept thinking of the entire scenario as a "game" I had to try hard to remember the "rules" and what I'm supposed/not supposed to do. In the end, I end off not being myself and I know the girl I was with felt it. She knows I'm nervous.

    +1 to Sniper NYC about girls being able to read you. They have the 6th sense and they can pick up your entire character just be watching you from a mile away. I've noticed that I'm starting to score a lot better by just feeling like I'm in my own skin and being the way I am.

    Btw, I've only started doing this for about 1 week and the results are already 2x more apparent. I've noticed that after thinking of things this way I've stopped being clinging naturally. Sometimes I still feel the urge of wanting the girl's approval, but I know I can control this feeling.

    I've also noticed I no longer need to worry my appearance as much as I did before (I'd be going to the washroom every now and then to fix my hair in the past). You will notice big changes in your life as you work towards this!

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    I have never encountered any of these women with god-like abilities to read me. I hear about them all the time in the community, but I think it is just another case of men inadvertently placing women on a pedestal. Women tend to have a natural ability to read other people, but so do I. I am damn good at it. Maybe that is why I don't really see women as having some creepy, super sense.

    I have tested this theory. I have gone up to women, pretending to be someone totally different than who I am. I found that it was actually easier to attract women, because I had less of a tendency to take anything personally or feel nervous because they weren't judging me, but a fictitious character I had created. Of course that doesn't help you form relationships, so it really isn't that helpful in normal game. My point remains, that you can be as phony as a three-dollar bill, but if you can pull it off reliably, most women aren't going to pick up on it. Where women have a really strong sense, is the ability to pick up in-congruence (as Sniper mentioned). So if I a pretend to be a multi-billion dollar playboy from Australia, walk in like I own the place, and pull all the stops, I am golden. But, if I lose that image for even half a second, they will cue into the incongruency. They do not, however, have the ability to magically discern that I'm not rich nor Astralian.


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